What actions can I take to let him know for sure I like him and to convince him to pursue me?

[newgirlontheblack]

Male friend and I are going out with a group of mutual friends in a few days. I asked him to hang out at this event and he accepted. How do I make it obvious that I like him and make him want to pursue me without looking stupid or desperate?

[Anonymous]

Here's the problem you face, and it's a problem of women's own making. It shouldn't be difficult to show a guy you're interested in him, but women still have this silly outdated notion that doing so makes them "look stupid or desperate", so they feel like they need to drop subtle hints instead. But half of women complain that men don't pick up on their subtle hints, and the other half complain that men misinterpret their friendliness as romantic interest. Most guys have been burned by that, so we are forced to assume when a woman is being friendly that it's just friendliness and nothing more.

So you women have painted yourselves into a corner where you're going to have to either risk feeling like you look stupid or desperate, or risk never knowing what might have happened with a guy because you didn't take action and make something happen.

[spartan55]

First of all, it is NEVER stupid or desperate to let someone know you interested in them. Forget the hints, and the staring, etc. It likely won't work.

[CSFan]

Just tell him. Or give hints, signs and whatever you want. It never worked to me when I was trying to hint on girls I liked. (Maybe because I'm a guy and we have less options)