The guy I’ve been talking to has been distant the past few days.. When I asked if he was good he said yeah, but the other night I was overthinking and got in my feelings.. And I had thought he blocked me because my message didn’t deliver (his phone was off) so I messaged him on his insta about him blocking me.. he ended up replying in the morning saying he never blocked me and that he’s going through shit right now.. I apologized for getting in my feelings and told him I’ll give him space and that im here if he needs me.. and he ended up messaging me back saying he doesn’t want me to feel as if he’s pushing me away, or that my feelings don’t matter but he’s trying to figure out life right now.. we still talk here and there through out the day, but very little.. Do I just give him space and only message whenever he messages me? I don’t wanna bother him if he’s going through stuff… But part of me is scared I guess of us just completely stop talking altogether if I don’t ever message him first considering the way communication is lately… and the way I overthink, I’m sitting here thinking that maybe he’s just hoping I’ll stop talking to him. I don't know.
Any advice on what I should do?
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He has said he is going through some shit. While girls might want to talk it out guys tend not to want to because... hey we are guys and not girls, surprise.
I think give him the space he needs and occasionally send him a message without expecting a reply.
If you keep overthinking and assuming he has blocked you or he is done. you will push him away for good.
Anytime you have those negative thoughts, walk away from your phone and do something else to distract your mind
Your overthinking is going to run him off. Accusing him of blocking you when his phone was off is the type of shit most guys DO NOT want to deal with.