I was dating a girl 14 months ago, and we split due to various reasons. She told me to seek out other women to grow as a person, and perhaps later if we grow as people we may become more compatible in the future. Over the course of the last year she continuously asks me to hang out, go for coffee, or go to dinner. I was reluctant to because I thought it would signify romantic interests. She keeps calling me over the course of the year, and we have long conversations (sometimes two hours long).
In September she tells me she has been growing as a person, and maturing. On November 1st she comes to my city, and we have dinner, and she states she understands why we broke up, and says she accepts responsibility because of her behaviour. Our relationship begins evolving, and I start liking her. She confides in me on December 3rd that she downloaded tinder as soon as we broke up, and started sleeping with guys (some of whom she still talks to). She then tells me between June and November she was dating another guy while talking to me. Her argument was we weren't dating, nor were we being flirtatious, and she views me as a great friend. However, I felt the best part of our relationship was not having to do that. We could just talk for hours, and if I was a really good friend why would she omit these facts from me in June to November while talking to me?
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Growing as a woman is code for, "you had your chance... other guys like me too now... and I am going after them... just wanted you to know". To her and most guys you too were friends and it sounds like that is the part of the relationship that you also enjoyed.
That seriously hurt my head. Anyone who says they view you as a great friend is all about messing with their so called "great friends" head. Say goodbye to this one and get someone with less drama.
She doesn't sound trustworthy to me.
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