You did the right thing by telling him and now that he knows what he was doing was wrong he probably feels embarrassed or bad. It's not a good idea to to bring it back up but if you do just tell him that your sorry for hurting his feelings but he has learn when to draw the line and respect you. Just keep in mind that not only would it affect you but also friends and especially family if they aren't that way with people. Sooner or later he'll start talking to you like normal. It's ok to feel hurt by telling him but now you know when a guy has pushed the boundaries to far. you are just 18 and need respect and men like that need to know what is not acceptable. Also you have plenty of other people your own age that you can meet.
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His feelings got hurt, basically. He had this notion of a thing with a girl much younger than himself and you made him realise his worst fears, that he is too old for you and that he was kidding himself. So his ego has taken a bit of a kicking and he probably feels like an idiot. That said, he set himself up for it so it's his own fault. He should be pretty able to understand that your average 18yr old is not going to want a relationship with someone of his age. He had his time being 18, now it's your time. He is fully capable of being with someone closer to his own age.
If you like someone, you shouldn't let the opinipns of others get in the way. Life is too short for that bs. Just my opinion, you could be missing out on happiness, just doesn't make any sense.
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My guess: He is upset as he was having hopes you like him. He probably felt there was some connection and fantasized on being with you. Now you told him it is not possible he is disappointed and left without saying goodbye as it was too difficult to cope with his emotions. Anyway. I also read you do not have much experience in love and you do like him in a way. I think this is because he made you feel special and he wants you. That is a great feeling. But please, remember, this is pleasant from anybody in all age ranges. So soon you could have that same feeling for another guy that is closer to your age. He would also want you and make you feel special and it would be 100% ok and no doubts in your mind. My advice: Go for that person and forget this one for now. If you still see him every other day, just be nice and polite, but keep your distance and no physical contact.
He left because you don’t feel the same way even with your age gap he’s hurt I’ve been through the same thing I got rejected by a girl I gave gifts too & it hurt a lot. But yea it’d be weird if you guys were together in my opinion but nothing wrong with that but yea the age gap is bad. He’s hurt cause you don’t feel the same way but I think you shouldn’t take it so seriously & try & forget about it I mean talk it over with your friends or parents beautiful Sarah & hope today was a good day for you
You basically let him know that you know how he feels and turned him down. His reaction is completely natural and I would advise against following up the issue on a later date. He'll bring it up if he wants to talk about it.
You did the right thing. But you still hurt his felings. Give him some time to lick his wound and he might come back. Or he will treat you differently from here on out.
Don't get too hung up on it. Things change in life and you can't let someone down so softly they don't hurt at all. And if course your dynamic will be different when he knows you are not interested.He's probably a little hurt too, but in the end he shouldn't be that way towards you. He should respect the decision you've made regardless
Hi! Just curious how this situation has turned out and if you're still needing any advice?
He is a bit freaked that you were astute to notice and forward by asking, prob by admitting his interest and that was out of his comfort zone
His feelings are hurt.
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