Influencer claims men doing housework is a turnoff - agree or disagree?

Question

She stated in a TV program of my country that a men who does the dishes or makes up the bed "kills the eros" and is "effeminate".

While she stated this is her personal preference and not a rule, she has racked many negative comments.

Thoughts?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I totally disagree.

I do certain things voluntarily like straightening up the house; doing dishes and emptying the dishwasher; emptying the trash cans in the house and taking out the trash; the more difficult yard work; and washing, drying and putting away the laundry, towels and my clothes. I don't do her clothes because she is particular about how they are washed and I don't want to make a mistake. We have separate hampers.

I help with other things, too. And the two of us do lots of things together to make them easier. She does most of the cooking but I do some.

My wife also does a lot of housework and gardening.

I lived alone for years. I know how to clean and organize. It's not unmanly to do so.

I'm happy to do work around the house to lessen the amount my wife has to do. She's not my mommy. Plus she appreciates it and it makes her happy to do things for me, if you know what I mean. 😎

RangerBlue22 · Accepted Answer

Actually this isn’t the first time this hypocritical judgment has been observed.

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Pew Research did this research too. They are supposed to be a reputable name.

Now I know many women on thread will automatically argue the opposite. Maybe in their conscious mind they do (and should) believe that. But the conscious mind isn’t where sexual attraction is determined. It’s determine SUBconsciously. Similar reason why so many women say they like “nice guys” but go home with assholes.

So despite my cynicism above there are women out there who have their conscious and subconscious better aligned then others. Still though I’ve seen too many hypocritical exceptions in my life.

MzAsh · Accepted Answer

No, it’s a turn off if they don’t. I’ve had multiple former roommates (former friends, not boyfriend) who refused to do housework even though I was paying the bills, and each one them were entitled brats. They wanted me to act like their mom and I told them to get out unless they wanted an ass whooping like I was their mom. One is on his 30s and still lives with his mom lol.

msmissydc · Accepted Answer

Strongly disagree. In a healthy relationship or shared flat experience everyone should do their part. Also if you dont do your housework that would mean you never lived alone. So you went from living with your mom to living with your girlfriend/wife BECAUSE you didn't want to do housework ( That would be a turn: off the reason to not life alone)

ShadezMcgee · Answer

... so she is saying if I am single and my crib is messy, that is what it should look like? If I mow my lawn, sweep, vacuum and mop my floors, do my laundry, clean my bathrooms, do dishes, etc. I am an effeminate man if I live alone? Who else is going to do it?

That is some dumbass logic. It's called being clean.

Roxxy99 · Answer

Disagree. I probably do more of the household chores than he does but he pitches in and helps, especially when he sees me working. He’ll join in and it warms my heart every time. It makes me feel valued.

TrueConfection · Answer

The only turnoff is when I have to redo the dishes that he "washed" or applaud his vacuuming effort while a cob webb is glaring right in front of me.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

She sounds very traditional in gender roles. But personally, cleaning is something everyone should learn how to do, not just women. If you can't clean, then you can't live by yourself. Same with cooking and working.

Pinay_ako · Answer

🤣 that’s one person’s sexist personal opinion. It’s a turn off if a man can’t pick up chores and help me around the house coz I wasn’t born to be his maid nor his babysitter! Unless he’s paying me to be then yes 🙌 😂. But nah, I admire grown ups who clean up after themselves and help run a household regardless of their gender!

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I'd love to show up and clean her place just to piss her off!😂👌 I was taught from an early age, you pitch in and get the housework done so everyone can enjoy some downtime afterwards.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Disagree… I think it’s more of a turn on for a man to care enough about his partner to share household responsibilities,,, and before “anyone” says it, yes I helped with the outside chores and y husband helped with the inside chores…as did our children… a family lived there, so we did a lot of it together as a family

lightbulb27 · Answer

bar scene:

"Hi handsome, so what do you do?"

" We'll, a little of this... a little of that. I do keep my house clean though, I like to do vacumming.".

"wait wait... where are you going..."

haha...

no, they do like men that do housework, so they have more freedom.

Keyboardkat · Answer

I don't even know what an "influencer " is! Who says who is an influencer and who is not? For me, I'm can't be influenced! I refuse to buy a certain product just because some "influencer" has their picture on it, or doesn't. I make up my own mind about things. I can't be "influenced" by the latest "influencer" out there! I call it being manipulated!

Anonymous · Answer

Women here will say they like men doing housework and cooking but from my personal experience, I have always seen the opposite.

For loving cooking and after cooking for them they secretly called me girly or they find it weird that a guy is that much into cooking among their girlfriends. Girls told me "guys like you are only good after thirty" .

Most women actually want traditional men and traditional gender roles. Some women are insecure that if a men can do everything they may wanna leave them easily , some see food as a control over men. One of my neighbours had a boyfriend for years , they used to live together and the boyfriend did cooking and cleaning while both of them were in college. After college the girl got a job and the guy couldn't very soon so she ditched her and married another guy who can't do anything.

Have you ever seen guys that are actually very popular with women or bad boys doing cooking / cleaning?

Juxtapose · Answer

Haha sweeeeet. I wouldn't have to do any housework at all even though she probably has to work hard everyday at her job? Are these women masochists?

Apple1996 · Answer

Disagree it's not a turn off but i do feel really bad if my man is doing any housework. Id rather him just be able to relax and not have to worry about anything when he's home.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I don't do housework, if i'll get married, my wife will be a housewife so it's her role to do all the house chores plus cooking...

If she was sick i might help with the things that i'm aware of and if not i'll hire a maid and pay her on how much hours she worked... etc

In my book, the house is the woman's responsibility, i'm a man and can't be a woman and a woman can't be a man!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

This is probably true for SOME women, but not most women, especially women who have had long term relationships or a marriage.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I can understand why many women would be angry with her. Because they have already gained these concessions from men. And she is making them look bad. It's like a union; you know? "The Amalgamated International Sisterhood of XX.". lol

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

She's a idiot. Society and tradition told her what to think and so she does as she's been influenced to do so.

Just think about her logic for a second.

When you clean your room or house and make sure your sink and bathroom is clean then that makes you feminine which is a woman? 🙄

stepyo99 · Answer

Generally I agree, but it seems like the kind of thing you should work out with your spouse. As long as women are doing their part to take care of the house, their kids, and their husband, the specific delegation of chores is more personal.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Disagree, everyone should help out.

boggboss · Answer

Stupid a man that can look after himself is see as a turnoff stupid

Anonymous · Answer

She's not wrong. It seems counterintuitive, but it's true.

mobiusforniner · Answer

From my experience, the opposite is indeed very true. You cook and know how to fold laundry and vacuum? AND fix the cars and repair broken outlets? You is got it fine. Trust me.

Paul09 · Answer

That's silly. Every adult should be doing these things...

petitedollbabee · Answer

Disagree, housework should be split between you both unless one of you is a stay at home partner.

TheIrishWolf · Answer

If I didn't clean when I was younger, I'd get slapped around. A man tends to learn how to clean after that lol.  There's nothing wrong with having order in your life.

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

It's such a turn on. Those type of men must be protected at all costs. 🤝

Unit1 · Answer

"Influencer" 😂😂😂 She certainly won't have difficulties finding men, who will turn her home into a cockroach infested pig barn.

strateguy632 · Answer

she's correct about herself. i would submit to a lady like that.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I totally disagree & in my case I live alone & if I don’t do the housework no one else will.

Jazzy54 · Answer

TF? If a man doesn’t help out around the house,  that’s  the problem.

Anonymous · Answer

They’re an influencer. Its not like they’re doing much themselves

Dargil · Answer

I guess I am a turn-off. I do laundry and wash dishes.

mommymommymommy · Answer

As she should My dad and mom share the jobs equally, and have been married 35+ This is why Influencers can suck my kiss

Twalli · Answer

Most women would love it if their SO did homework. That means they need to do less. I'm not saying he should do it all, but he should do some.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I'm a clean freak and frankly her opinion is irrelevant to my life.

Greenbins · Answer

That's a real woman.. the ones that like men doing house work are the lazy girls that expect guys to do everything for them.

TrillXHippy · Answer

When something can’t be real but it really is smh

AlexisDiani · Answer

Wrong. Huge turn on.

Anonymous · Answer

many men want sugar mama for sure. I mean they are spoiled by money mama they would rather stay home doing women's job

SaoirseS · Answer

Disagree.

Agape93 · Answer

Disagree

Jltakk · Answer

I do housework therapeutically.

Kelly6 · Answer

Agree

Anonymous · Answer

I disagree.

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