Well one, men work more hours of paid work then women so its a moot point (full time is 40 hours, but men on average work more over time then women).
Second, its a moot point because statistically men work slightly more then women do when you factor in house work, child rearing and paid work.
Third its a moot point because the man is forced to do the heavy labor that women don't do so if your going to be equal that means she has to do the heavy lifting as frequently as he does which is rarely the case.
Fourth its a moot point because statistically men are far more likely to pay for everything so unless she is also paying the same amount as he does its not a fair trade.
Fifth its a moot point because on top of him spending his money on bills and dates, women also spend their mans money as well as statistically 80% of all domestic spending in the US (70% globally) is done by women despite them making only about 30% of domestic earnings.
So should men do equal work? No, but women should because they are the ones who are benefiting the most from this. If we share every responsibility, every bill equally, men will actually benefit from it and women will be the ones to lose out in the long run (which I'm fine with but women are not (which is why they don't do it)).
Not able to vote because the poll posits either/or alternatives.
In fact, water seeks its' own level and each couple will strike its' own balance. Perhaps after some disputes and disagreements. Perhaps it will all just fall into place.
In my case, my girlfriend of 14 years and mother of my children - we don't want to get married - just fell into a pattern. She tends to believe that a woman - even if working - should be the primary homemaker. (Besides, given my cooking skills, she won't let the kids ingest anything I cook.)
So my girlfriend tends to take on the main indoor chores and me the outdoor. However, I also think that a gentleman, whatever the relationship, helps a lady out. So I pitch in on much of it - especially things like vacuuming and cleaning the bathrooms.
We did not start that way. We just sort of fell into a pattern over the years. Besides, if you are sorting all that out by negotiations, it sounds less like a relationship and more like a business deal.
It is axiomatic. In life, you make it up as you go along.
Normally I’d say they should both contribute equally but somehow we women always end up doing the most of the work, not that we try to but it happens naturally.
The way I see it is the majority of us were introduced to housework since we were young so we have more experience and we can organise our time when cleaning and tidying up just so we can get more done. We’re also better in multitasking.
Respectively most young boys spend more time with their dads doing men things.
To sum it up, technically they should but then it’s just smarter for us women to do most of it since we’re better at it and it’s less time consuming in most cases. As if there’s a piece of furniture to be assembled. It’s not like we can’t do it ourselves but it’s most definitely going to take us more time compared to our partner.
That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t contribute though we can always help by handing bits and tools lol
Work smarter not harder. Teamwork is key.
I personally only let him do things that can’t go wrong such as taking the trash out, washing the dishes and vacuuming. I probably have OCD things just have to be done my way or I go crazy.
Smart approach! Equality for the sake of equality isn't the smartest approach in my opinion. I much prefer the "To each according to their need, from each according to their ability" model.
A lot of men will say yes to this question, but will shirk responsibility for it in the logistical practice. How many men know how to clean a bathroom? Like could actively go to the store to buy a different toilet cleaner and shower cleaner and sink cleaner?
Yes, many know they should do dishes, but how many men will pro-actively start clearing the table after dinner? How many will be the first to notice the dishwasher is done and should be put away? Or do they just wait for their wives or girlfriends to complain about how often they do it and want them to do it this time?
How many men will assume responsibility or team lead for having a clean house? Or do many men fall into the role of "UGH, honey, I hate this chore, but I will do it because I am a modern man and I love you. I will actively count every second of this work that I am doing because of this relationship, rather than accept that this a standard of living that I should have, regardless of whether I am in a relationship or not"
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Definitely if they're both going to work. Partners are supposed to be a team. They're supposed to help each other out and make their partner's life easier. So, any good partner would help finish the chores if they are truly understanding and care about their partner.
Men and Women as in a couple, yes of course. I'd advise against just randomly grabbing a person of the street and saying "Your Turn." (Might have to answer some questions later.) But if it includes my Sisters, to hell with that. (Those lazy twits can do their own.)
Yeah
u No, they should both work until the work is done, and then they can enjoy what is left of the day. . . together.
Generally, yes. However if one doesn’t work or earn an income then it makes more sense for that person to do a little more housework.
If he is willing to help around, I wouldn't oppose.
It depends on the status of the couple. If married, then it depends on each other's needs as they have to Live with each other. Outside of marroage, then people have to choose their poison I say. It is better to adapt to gender roles because it helps determine where ones strengths are. People should talk about this way before dating or even getting married. These days, we need equal amount of work on both ends. But If one can afford the work, do it. If not, rethink or prep yourself to be able to meet those needs.
They should both contribute equally to the household. So sort of yes. Here’s where things get complicated:
- not all full time jobs are the same hours
- not all commutes are the same
- outside of that there are a lot of things that need to be done: cleaning the house, garden, maintenance, staying on top of bills, shopping, cooking, etc and that’s before you introduce children.
- A lot of these aren’t fixed targets. To some extent people are choosing to go above and beyond and you don’t really get credit for stuff the other person doesn’t agree needed to be done. If you think the floors need to be mopped daily; most people don’t so basically that’s your hobby. If you want to spend 6 hours cooking a meal you don’t get to expect your partner did everything else because you chose to spend all that time - it wasn’t required.
anyway that all makes it... murky.
Highly depends. If you're both 9-5 office workers then it's one thing and if you're a military wife that's an entirely different scenario. Household chores should be divided according to your lifestyles and the key is to ensure that one person is not overworked or there is no imbalance.
By overworked, think of this. If you both work 9-5, but only you alone tend to be doing majority of the household then obviously your overall workload is much greater so you have more stress/pressure on yourself. On the other hand if you're staying at home while your spouse is a workaholic, making him do a bunch of household when he's at home instead of letting him rest would be unfair on him. That's why there is no one-answer-fits-all to this question.
So if both of them work full-time, aka have equal workload, yes it is only fair to divide the household tasks equally as well.
If they're both working full time, then yes, they should both be taking responsibility for maintaining the house.
Although in my relationship it's a bit different. My boyfriend is a banker, and his job is very demanding. Monday through Thursday, he gets up at 5, leaves at 7 and doesn't get back until 8 or 9. So I do most of the housework.
I do the cooking, laundry, ironing, I also clean the bedroom and bathroom. He cleans the study and the toilet because yuck I'm not doing that. The rest we leave to our cleaner.
It isn't a gender thing or a male female battle. There are things that men should do to better the household and there are things a woman can/should do to better the household. If both are working hard and earning towards the betterment of the family and both are working hard in the home for the betterment of the family. Perfect, the end.
If someone is healthy and able but unwilling, things fall apart. Problems.
We all have bad days and need a hand. be a good person, but dont allow abuse.
Yes, but by the same token they should do an equal amount of the work outside like mowing lawns, watering, taking out the trash, etc. Generally it is the woman who takes care of the inside and the man the outside. Now if they live in an apartment then they should both chip in and help out. That way one isn't too tired to perform at night and the other thinks she is just a cold fish.
I believe both should share in the housework, but my experience is that the "lazy man expects his wife to also be his mother" myth is prevalent - Notably two of the three pictures on this topic depict the man as the lazy one...
In my experience, every girl I've lived with past and present does literally nothing resembling cleaning or contributing to the household. The myth that men are lazy is incredibly frustrating when in reality I'm the one playing mom and always have been, and not due to being a clean freak or anything, but just because I can't stand living in a pig pen that smells like crap, clothes all over the floors, clutter everywhere.. ugh!
house work should be 50/50. provided the household income is 50/50.
but if one person pays most or all the bills. then the other should do most or all the housework.
not really about gender however. more about equality and sharing the work load.
guys don't typically date/marry girls with equal or more income.
girls don't typically date/marry guys with equal or less income.
Honestly it depends in my opinion.. In my last relationship, my job was more demanding and stressful but I still had tons of energy while my partner was very drained most of the time. I didn't mind doing most of the work and letting him relax. I like being in charge of things.
@Marilynjuana now this sounds like Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
@Marilynjuana okay but I also mean how women have the energy to go jogging in the morning, do chores around the house, take care of children in case they have any, *and* maintain a job. It's like God first created Adam and then realized "damn, I forgot the energy thing" and then created Eve with both her and Adams energy 🤣
@Marilynjuana See, this is exactly it! Ability and motivation should factor into these arrangements.
Only if your relationship is based on equalities, i. e. all things being equal, nothing we do as husband and wife are equal. Me, I’m not so small minded as to think that type of equality has real value. If I love her, I’m going to make her aware that I recognize and appreciate the differences between us and the other 10,000 tiny little things she does that make our house a home. Give credit where it’s due, never take it for yourself. You always lift her up, praise her time that she spends taking care of the both of you. Maybe, just maybe you can have as wonderful time as I have had for the last 41 years we’ve been married.
It all depends on what skills you have. If you don’t have many you should probably clean all the time, because eventually you partner is going to have to do things that actually take skills. If you’re weak, you better to a lot more stuff to compensate for the heavy lifting that someone stronger is doing. Equal effort isn’t always equal time.
Ofcourse both should work equally is still debatable like it could be sometimes more by one person and little less by other , no work is designed according to any sex and i am wondering why is it even a question? house chores is a skill (survival skill) which one must know. No one will prefer dying with hunger, over waiting
for someone to cook for them. This is the skill which one has to conquer if they want to live and not be dependent on someone. It won't emasculate any one ego doing house chores and fullfilling their duties and responsibilities.
It should be about compromise and helping each other out. If your partner has a bad day or isn't feeling good maybe you do most of the housework. If you're not feeling great or you're really busy, then they can do the housework. On other days maybe you both do an equal amount. It doesn't need to be a scoreboard
Depends on the regular work load they have. Whoever got most freetime should also spend more of it doing housework. So if your house wife/husband you do all of it. While if your work is equal you should share equal here assuming you can agree on what quality of housework you need. Ie how clean does it needs to be etc.
depends what else each of them does... i mean its good you mentioned if they both work but what if one of them invests more in childcare or is even just the regular dog walker or does the gardening or always fixes the car etc... ofcourse the overall workload should be equal but it might not always comedown to something as basic splitting housework down the middle
Of course. Most couples divide up the housework as well as any outside work or taking care of elderly relatives. Housework is generally not a massive thing usually an hour a day or less provided both clean up after themselves. A lot of partners have it that the man generally does the majority of home maintenance while the woman does the majority of the inside work. In my opinion its really about equal effort and if one partner starts earlier anc finishes later the other partner will pick up the slack.
Why have you got a picture of Millie Bobbie Brown in a bikini?
I don't have her in it, her PR company does.
Why did you post it tho
It's in the media so why not
Bit weird. She’s 16
... and if it had been one of the boys from stranger things at the beach?
It would still be weird lmao
Splitting it 50/50 all the time is so childish, people have bad days or busy days or just can't be bothered sometimes, the point of a relationship is that you work with each other. No, unless it's what that couple has personally decided should all domestic chores be left to just one or mainly one person but know it'll never be completely 50/50 and some days it'll be more like 90/10
I voted Yes, however full time could be anything between 30 - 50hrs, my ex had a 30hr job, I had a 50hr job, she begrudged me for having to do an average of 5hrs extra housework a week (if that, basically the time to prepare a meal) even though she was still doing 15hrs a week less work than me after that one extra task!..
My God people , how about you respect each other and work it out by talking-to one another. Make a plan and follow though on it.. it's really honestly that simply no matter what race color , age , gender. If two people make a plan how how to live with each other. Then boom life. Is easier.. cause you worked together to be able to live together simply done
No, because women tend to have a higher standard of cleanliness and they tend to insist on buying bigger houses and more material possessions to put inside them, which both obviously increase the maintenance workload. If you want to scrub the living Jesus out of everything, go right ahead, but don't hold me to your neurosis! And if you feel the need to adorn our shared space with silly, overpriced, fragile knicknacks to satisfy YOUR aesthetic tastes, at least make sure you got your own money to finance your own hobbies.
They should both contribute whatever Arrangement you have worked out the works for the both of you but a guy should always be the one to take the trash out regardless there's no such thing as men's Work women's work but the one job that should always be left of the guy is taking out the trash.
In a perfect world yes, but that isn't our world. We are still holding our more contemporary agricultural standards. Men would work long hours in the fields, the whole day (12+ hr shifts) and women would do the housework for the whole day. After the industrial revolution into the modern era, the work week went down and the number of chores went down for women as well. Meals could keep longer, premade meals, washing and drying machines, Dishwasher, and other time saving devices. If the man is working long shifts outside the house and the woman shorter shift inside, division will be skewed. If they are working equally outside, they should work equally inside.
If they're both working full time and earning similar salaries then both should put in equal effort in non-work responsibilities. How they divvy that up is completely up to them.
However, if he is earning significantly more income than her, as is often the case because that is what many women expect and want from a man in a relationship, then chances are he is also experiencing a lot more work related stress. In that case I do not believe he should be expected to contribute as much around the house.
It also depends on what they do and how exhausted they are but more importantly who should do what amount of work is rather a personal thing to discuss minding each others physical capabilities, work load, skills and fatigue.
So no, the answer is never going to be either.
It should be separate but equal. I cut the grass and did laundry. She cleaned and did most of the cooking. We both shopped for food (so romantic).
She's at home now and does almost everything. She also teaches the boys. The boys cut the grass. I work outside the home. I'll do a load of laundry now and then.
I voted yes, but I don't think it can really be split 50/50, it depends on the couple and what chores they do. Maybe she ends up doing more, maybe he ends up doing more, it should only matter to the couple and they should discuss it.
We do 50-50 . Some times i do more and other times the wife does more. But cooking is my special touch , well am a chef but she cooks too but not that often.
You share a house, it's only normal to do your share of chores. If both work equal hours then neither has more time to devote to household tasks than the other.
I feel like it should be equal responsibility for both parties.
It depends on a lot of things.
In fact, it depends on so many things I don't think I have the energy or motivation to write about it completely here.
Housework should be divided according to each couple, their interests, willingness to deal with different kind of messes, and tolerance for not getting the job done. The person who cares more should end up doing more.
Actually women are not bound to do household chores... They are there to please their husband in bed and not to perform household work... So it's the equal responsibility of husnad to help her if she is willingness to do house work...
They both should contribute. If I'm living with my girlfriend or wife. Running the house is our responsibility and we will share or divide the tasks or it will be mutually understood.
Its based on what the xoyple agreea to its not a male pr female thing some womanwant to clean up and some men want yo some people are ocd and need things a certain way wich usually leads to them doing it themselves
Hell yeah. Share the yardwork, too. And take turns changing the oil, and cleaning the gutters. Share every responsibility.
The couple who mows together grows together!
I wouldn’t marry a guy who expect me to do all the housework. You’re not gonna be happy in the marriage Ans will increase chance of divorce
okey dokey just make sure you don't expect him to buy you a big house with lots of stuff and a bunch of kids because naturally all those things increase your workload!
I say it should be shared unless either the man or the woman in question have OCD, if you date someone with that just let them do the cleaning because if you don't do it "the right way" according to them you will catch hell for it.
omg this so much! It depends on your personal definitions of a clean and aesthetic house
I voted this way for I think that men should help with the house work by lifting the heavy items in the house so the women can clean under it and show off their muscles too their women as well ! what she should not do he can and visa versa ! thanks
Trust me on this one unless you Individually were born in the late 70's or Early 80's answer a Renounding YES TO THIS ONE. LMAO I always do my own wash and dry Lmao
They should both do housework, but it's always good to find a compromise.
If i cook, i am not going to do anything else today (not even put my coffee mug in a sink after finishing).
What are you, the FNG? Duhhh. What kind of question is this
What’s the FNG?
I don't know...
You got BAMBOOZLED. I means F*cking new guy. Noob
Are you okay? You seem to have a few issues x
No. I don't have any. Why.
Anyone who calls someone a noob has issues
It's simple really. I'm just better than you
Sure hun :)
Hun? What does that mean. You skin suits and whining
Every relationship is differnt so the dynamics will change also
It's only fair that both partners share the work equally. It will probably prevent less disagreements or arguments
I'd prefer to do yard-work myself if that counts.
I'm not saying that women can't do yard work, I'm just saying I'd rather do that than house work.
It depends on many factors. My wife does most of it because I'm working and she's not.
It depends on the relationship. I believe in more traditional relationships where the man is the primary provider and the woman handles more of the housework. The man should also take care of the yards, home repairs and improvements, etc.
Depends on who's doing the lions share of work to bring money in for the household
Home means where both lives and both do the same things so help each other while living together
yes unless one's work causes that one to be unable to, ie out of town m9st of the time.
it is up to each individual to set the bounds and rules of their personal relationship.
If they are going to do things equally then there is no point for people to be with the opposite gender
if both are doing full time job then I think they both should do equal work,
If we both work full time its split depending on actual hours. Say for instance im working 60 and she is working 40 per week, i will do some but less than her. if we are working the same we split, if she isn't working at all, the house is her job.
Only if women start doing house maintenance too. Fixing the pipes, maybe repair a door hinge or handle etc
They should do whatever they think works best for them as a couple.
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