Do you think household chores are shared equally?

[Kulotz]

I don't think it is shared equally. I think women are the ones keeping track of the housework even the men are helping. What do you think?

[Chazmatazz269]

It’s not equal, but women definitely aren’t doing the lion’s share. Women frequently conveniently ignore that homes have outsides too. The guy who mows the lawn, trims weeds, edges the hard lines, cleans the gutters, replaces the roof, windows and decks, repaves the driveway, trims trees, gardens (often including his lady’s flowers & herbs), puts in a pool, builds on additions, changes oil and brakes, and pretty much all the auto maintenance, paints, installs and replaces siding, seals block work and driveways, installs the kids’ basketball hoops, soccer & volleyball nets, cleans the pool, puts in a hot tub, repairs and replaces electrical work and plumbing, moves in and out the heaviest furniture and appliances, builds a wine rack, hangs pictures and paintings, changes locks, replaces doors, drawers and cabinets, cleans the hot tub, builds doghouses, cleans up after the dogs, buries dead dogs…. Get the point?
I can quite literally do this all day. All the smart guys i know who had to hear their ladies say, “You never help around the house!” more than once just bartered a trade. “You do my chores and i’ll do yours.” “If you really think i’m doing nothing, it’s a win-win for you!”
Wager a guess how it ended up, every single time?

[JacobJordan]

Nope. Housework isn't equal nor should it be. The one that does the most is the one that has the higher cleanliness standard. My wife has the higher standard (as do most women) as a result cleaning the house her responsibility. I do my part by putting dirty dishes in the dishwasher or sink, cleaning up after myself, dirty laundry in the basket etc. But end of the day that is not enough for her standard. As such she cleans further. I have known several men like this as well and they were the ones that cleaned/fulfilled the house hold chores.

[DishLady]

They are in my house — and in many homes, by default nowadays because everyone works and has different needs, etc. Smaller chores for the younger people (so they learn to do chores) and more complicated chores for the adults. If one person is more technically oriented, that person gets the techie chores while the other gets another "seasonal" or equally complex chore. It keeps things moving forward and everyone feels like they're contributing to a happy household. If they're not divied up equaliy and you'd like them to be, sit and have a family chat to map out a plan, then make a game out of completing chores so that it's a little more fun.

[Apple1996]

I don't think being equal is that important. Just clean up after yourself and if your see a chore that needs to be done then do it. I never will understand these men that think because they provide financially that they can't clean up after themselves

[Artificial Intelligence]

Well, darling, lovebombing you with some truth here, but you're onto something! It often feels like even when men are lending a hand, women are the maestros conducting the housework symphony. Let's dream a little - imagine a world where chores are truly a duet, both partners harmonizing their efforts. Magical, right? The key? Communication and understanding, throwing in a bit of compromise. Chore charts might not sound sexy, but hey, neither is a sink full of dishes. Let's make chore sharing the newest form of love language, shall we? 😏✨

[jennifer_bloom]

I think it varies. At my house, my dad does the cooking, my mom does the gardening and technology management, I do the cleaning and restaurant meals.

[IslaTheWitch]

It depends on the relationship... my ex covered cooking and removing trash when I focused on laundry, and a nice lady was doing the rest. I didn't track anything except my part; the same was doing my husband, and everything worked seamlessly

[BarryLiverstone]

I don’t currently think the chores are 50/50 in a 2 person household but don’t think they need to be. My understanding is the partners talk about them and decide who pitches in or leads which task. For example my brother cooks for his wife and kids and she cleans; however they both will cook and clean as a team also.

[bobalife]

I think it’s sweet when couples do chores together or one partner offer to do it to show care such as if the other was having a rough / long day 😊 so, it can be equal… but it various up on each couples… some females do more than males and vice versa.

[Billlewis]

No, not in any way whatsoever. When I begin a new relationship, one of the first things I negotiate is the subject of how chores, tasks and other responsibilities are to be handled, and I always insist on being allowed to do all of them myself, in their entirety.

[SomothErgai]

Depends who the breadwinner is. If I'm busting my ass 13 and a half hours a day 5 days a week and my girl isn't working at all. Then fuck no I'm not doing chores on top of that. We have clearly defined roles. I go out and bust ass all day, you keep my house clean, my belly full, and my cock sucked.

[Anonymous]

Is that really true though? I mean in my family my mom did more of the chores like laundry, dishes and house cleaning, but my dad did more cooking and he was always working on things around the house and yard, and he worked a lot more hours at his job than my mom did too. It seemed pretty even to me all things ocnsidered.

[Agape93]

Nope. My girl picks up after herself, I do everything else. But that's by choice. It's my house, my property. My names on all the bills and all paperwork. It's my responsibility, she just lives with me.

[PeachyPie93]

They never are but it is annoying when they don't help even when they get weeks off from work. I recommend not dating a guy who's mother raised him like a prince because they are bad partners in general.

[Anonymous]

No, women are not pulling their weight when it comes to chores like managing the finances, doing the taxes, mowing the lawn, taking out trash, shoveling snow, maintaining vehicles, fixing the roof, repairing the lawnmower, remodeling the basement, pruning the trees, painting the walls, and any other tasks that involve risk and/or physical labor. It's interesting how those sorts of tasks are never on the lists feminists complain about men not doing enough of.

[Opinion Owner]

Women are also not pulling their weight when it comes to contributing to the household income considering they only contribute $0.75 to every $1.00 men contribute, and yet women are the ones who do 80% of the typical household spending.

My question to you is, why do women love to complain so much, and why do they exhibit such a lack of honesty when doing so?

[Anonymous]

Its funny how women seem to forget that Single Men have to do all of their own 'household chores' , maybe not to the 'standard' that they would like but they still get done.

[TommyMountainFigure]

That might apply to guys who have been sheltered and babied, Me? I have no problem doing house stuff.

It's actually quite therapeutic sometimes!

[c4rtm4nroolz]

They can be definitely, although in my life im surrounded by men (father & boyfriend) who work tirelessly to provide financial stability so i make sure to clean everyday.

[Astarlessnightsky]

No, at least not in general. Thats also what statistics show.

But younger generations are splitting the chores more and more equally.

[Chazmatazz269]

Cite your sources

[Astarlessnightsky]

www.statista.com/.../

general split of household chores by sex in european countries.

www.pewresearch.org/.../

www.ft.com/.../0c9f068c-711f-11e9-bf5c-6eeb837566c5

here is another one for several countries

Here you can see how between 2019 and 2020 men are doing more compared to last year (tbh could have something to do with pandemic)

www.deseret.com/.../

here is one showing how household chores are split more between 1992 and 2006

[Chazmatazz269]

Statista one is garbage. Houses have OUTSIDES as well as insides. Suggesting men aren’t doing their share because they’re not cooking and doing UNDEFINED “housework” is disingenuous at best.

[Chazmatazz269]

The Pew one is interesting because it shows the disparity in reporting. This somewhat aligns with my assessment. Women often conveniently overlook the fact that houses have outsides when defining “housework” and deciding who is doing the lion’s share. Men do this less, in my experience.
Pew still fails to define housework though. Ambiguous research is almost as useless as none at all.

[Chazmatazz269]

I’m not buying access to an internet article for the Financial Times. You can probably detect what i would most likely say though. Any person or organization who suggests housework consists only of indoor chores like cooking, dishes, laundry, et cetera is ignorant or being disingenuous. Men frequently do the majority of outdoor chores, as well as home security whenever something “goes bump in the night”. We’re long overdue for suggesting women aren’t holding up their end of the bargain because they aren’t doing 50% of outdoor chores and household security. Or maybe we should just acknowledge that everyone is contributing differently, if not completely equally.

[CriticalCatDad123]

If you work together things get done faster. If wood needs to be chopped for the fireplace and dishes need to be done, who’s gonna do what? 🤔 I bet you most women ain’t gonna want to chop wood.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Not for me. I'm not into that type of stuff at all.

I will wash my own clothes and just hire a maid to go clean the house once a week because I'm not cleaning.

[IslaTheWitch]

agree

[OfMiceandMen]

Not at all... I do everything! But then again, it's just me. LOL

[Simslover92]

Yep. If one cooks, the other does the dishes. If one cleans the clothes, the other puts up the laundry, etc.

[Simslover92]

Though if a woman is living in a traditional household where she doesn't work as much as her husband she should do all of the chores while the man brings in the bacon.

[NathanDavis]

I'm a grown up man... I can do it all by myself

[The_Sexpert]

I don't think household chores should be shared equally if the woman is the homemaker

If both are working then sure