How does the division of household responsibilities and chores impact relationships when both partners have demanding careers?

[benefiel]

Do you think that people who share household chores equally will have a longer relationship?

[Anonymous]

What exactly is equally? I mean one may feel they do a lot more than the other when they really don’t. For instance, I know this isn’t a relationship but where I work a lot of the women call on me to do all kind of physical things. I work in medical. They pass meds to 3-4 patients a night, document then when 0700 rolls around they’re “exhausted” from working so hard. Meanwhile I’m thinking damn I’m wide awake, you wanted me to deal w hostile patients, lift this person up, pick this up cause it was too heavy for you, etc, etc. So w that said does that mean your partner should get outside to help do yard work, especially here in Phoenix where it’s hitting triple digits. Take the trash out, mow the lawn, pour concrete to fix the porch, etc, etc. If she’s willing I’m all for it. But honestly I’d rather be inside “washing” dishes (dishwasher), or doing laundry (washing machine). Make myself a sandwich w some lemonade.

[AMS700CX4u2]

It is the best situation, because both people have grown up. No childish selfish behavior. No "can I go out and play", 100 percent + 100 percent equals 100 percent.

[imawfulatusernames]

It’s not about equal persay however equal distribution of labour will make your relationship last longer, we know this. It doesn’t mean splitting everything 50/50 because that isn’t equal in reality, it’s about playing to the strengths of each other and ensuring that no one feels that they’re giving more than they get or being used. Both people should feel valued and like they get as much back

[Billlewis]

I'm happiest when I can do all the household chores in their entirety.

[shades777]

Makes more sense to equally tackle issues you both deal with, I think the man should always take out the trash because it signals to all the other men that she's yours.

[KrakenAttackin]

Women piss, moan, and deny sex claiming they work "too hard", when in fact men put in much more effort at work.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes; I agree. The work should be shared equally.