I sometimes think that the reason men end relationships is simply because they are afraid. Anyone agree with me? Do guys break up because they are scared?
No, they break up because their wants and needs aren’t being met in the relationship, Most girls use sex as a weapon and to a guy , that is abuse , when it was never an issue before When a guy starts feeling like he has to constantly beg for intimacy and affection with his partner and she constantly makes excuses not to have sex , he starts to feel like he isn’t valued or wanted anymore , that she no longer prioritizes him or looks up to him like she use to , Most girls are selfish people , that don’t know how to wear her man’s shoes, like she expects him to wear hers , she only really cares about herself , she doesn’t think sex is that important and she will hold it over her partner’s head like he has to earn it from her , the second she starts doing that , she is digging her own grave cuz he is more than likely going to get it elsewhere or be open to another girl that doesn’t want to deny him intimacy and affection , Most girls’ will set boundaries with her partner but she doesn’t follow those boundaries like she expects her partner to do for her , if it’s not ok for him to do something , she doesn’t see it’s an issue for her to do so , she thinks it’s ok for her to do without any issues , which leads to double standards , when he calls her out on it , she acts like he is crazy and controlling and that he doesn’t trust her and she thinks he is being insecure but the truth is it has nothing to do with that , it comes down to respect for each other , Most girls’ don’t know what respect is in a relationship, She thinks it’s ok for her to go flirt with other men and compare her man to other men , Finding every little flaw in him to make herself feel better about herself , not realizing she is pushing her partner away , Most girls have toxic girlfriends as well, that will interfere in her relationship , by pulling her away from her partner and filling her head that all men are assholes but let’s go to the bars and show our tits off and get free drinks and check out hot guys , once she gets tipsy she doesn’t hesitate to flirt or hook up with that hot guy , I have made out with so many girls that were in relationships already , So another reason I say girls are selfish people , Girls night out is usually way worse then guys night out , When a girl starts prioritizing her friends over her partner she best be prepared for that relationship to come to an end , unless he is a Simp , because a real man dkesn’t want to be with a girl that needs that shit in her life , if she doesn’t look up to her man and doesn’t make him her priority the same way she wants him to prioritize her , he is more than likely going to be drawn to the girl that does want to prioritize him , that does want to make him feel valued and wanted, that doesn’t choose her friends over him , Most Guy’s will not cheat on their partner if she knows how to remove selfishness for him and prioritizes him and doesn’t hold intimacy and affection over him like he has to earn it. Sadly most girls want their cake and want to eat it to. They do not know how to remove selfishness for their partner and then wonder why they end up in constant failed relationships to the point she is considered a whore
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I am going to say yes. Yes, guys do break up with women, for lack of a better term, because they get scared. But often it is not for the reasons that woman think.
Woman can be and are intimating. Again, not in the way that they perceive themselves to be. Some of the biggest emotional bullies I have ever known, are women that I cared about. I mean they were seriously emotional manipulators and abusers. At the same time on good days, they were greatest person in the world. This all a part of the pattern of abuse that can develop in any relationship regardless of gender. They build you up on good days, just to tear you down on bad ones. But you allow for it on some level and not only accommodate but enable their behaviors. So you got to know yourself, and who you are... because once you give up that power and commit to love then you have to own that choice no matter how it turns out later.
Men are often accused of "having a fear of commitment." There is truth to this saying. Because on many levels it's the same fear women have. When you get into a seriously relationship and you start to build a serious emotional bond with someone, you have to give up some of your power to that person, in order to seriously commit to the relationships. You have to give up somethings, in order to build something greater than the sum of its parts with someone else.
Seriously the things you do as a single person, will not fly in a seriously committed relationship. You can't make the same choice you would make on your own, because any choice you do make will have impacts on the other person. You have to account for that in all aspects of your life going forward with this person. The feelings, needs and wants of the other person are supposed to matter just as much as your own personal needs, wants and desires.
When you start dating someone it's fun, its easy and its carefree. As time goes by the relationship progress... patterns of behavior start to form. Doubt creeps in, because now you have to decide, are you willing to give up some of your power to this person, and how will they use that power once its given? When there is doubt there is fear, like when there is smoke there is fire.
So, yes men break up with woman all the time out of fear.
yes, but only because they are afraid of being stuck in a relationship with their current partner. I don't think any healthy guy would like to break up because of their fear of a good relationship with the woman they love. It sounds unreal even while writing. So, no. No one is afraid of being in a healthy relationship.
P. s. This does not apply to emotionally damaged human beings. If it is the case, you should run. People never change, soul wounds are not easily healed.
i don't think so... my ex is angry at me i realize because i am domineering but when i sat something he just keep wuiet and just have my wst
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Some guys would, yeah. There are lots of emotionally broken people
I love how the go to for women trying to psycho analyze a guy , but are in reality just projecting is fear…..
Were not you, we don’t live our lives in the same types of fear.
Wanna know why I cut the last girl out? She decided she was comfortable with cancelling on our plans without telling me and going out to party, in addition to being manipulative and lying all the time…… the red flags were there, and I was done being disrespected , so I bounced.
That was it.
wanna know why I’m not fighting for the last girl I fucked? She said “we’re not a match” and dumped me, what she really meant was her ex came back and she went back to him.
I Moved along, another hotter girl will come along.
We break up because y’all are so comfortable with acting in ways that are just not acceptable and makes us wonder who raised you and you wonder why you can’t keep a man… Like so many of you never take a single look at what you do / say and wonder how you’d react if someone else did this to you.
We break up cuz you aren’t marriage material.
Afraid? Sure... 'Afraid' to lose my sanity and happiness to a toxic individual who brings nothing but pain and confusion into my life.
Maybe it has less to do with an actual fear of commitment and more to do with realizing that the relationship isn't going anywhere and we're dealing with toxic and disordered people. That was my situation at at least.
Many guys who are "afraid" don't commit, in the first place. They don't want to deal with the responsibilities of having a committed relationship. Often men who break up find something lacking or not in the right order. They don't break up for fun. They break up because their peace is disturbed and being single is much better than being with the wrong/unsuitable person.
I broke up with my ex because she brought nothing but misery, confusion, false hope and lies to my life. It's only after the breakup I discovered she has a Cluster B personality disorder. And anyone with an ounce of knowledge about the dangers Cluster B disordered people bring would only encourage the break up.
Yes, I was 'afraid' to lose my identity, and my happiness completely if I stayed in that relationSHIT any longer. Took me a while to fully recover from it.
Now I'm in a great relationship with a wonderful woman. Why? Because the relationship is healthy and leaves no room for 'fear'.
I want to brake up from my actual girlfriend, but is not because i'm afraid, is actualy the oposide way.
I'm afraid to brake up. I don't want to hurt somebody who care about me even if i don't share the same feelings like her.
My desire for a future brake up is because i don't feel fulfiled in some area of our relationship.
She like small talk, i hate them but i love deep long talk.
She is apolitical, not religion, don't know nothing about the world out of her country and don't enjoy places that i like.
Best example for us is. We go in Greek capital for 10 days and i whas super excited about it, she couldn't care less, whas just buissnis for her even if it whas her very first time there. Didn't like the history of the city, the museums and information that i share say "is to much information" (will i talk about 3000 yares of history).
Didn't like to walk that much and she like only one single thing in the all city, a park.
We some how have the longest relationship from both our past and we simply like to stay around each other for company and afection. But we don't share any common interes and the whorst part all her interes are not even important for me.
She like musical art, but she don't know any formation of music. She say at the beggining she hate rock (that a red flag for me), but now she love many formations because of me. Make me feel many time like a lost person who alwase ask where is she, but she is the one who wanted to go there.
Because we realize we don't want to ever marry the girl. She's not the one. Not a wife.
There is some breach of boundaries.
Some dealbreaker has been crossed. Not compatible.
She latches on to quickly with too much seriousness.
We want to be single and not in a relationship anymore.
A fight. We are disgusted by how she fights, nags, gets personal and insulting and disrespectful when fighting.
They wants to party/club and dress like she is single and advertising for suitors.
She does drugs or drinks too much.
She has friends that are bad news.
She has family that is bad news and we never want that to be my family.
She has too much trauma and too many red flag issues.
Scared of what? I need context. If you're a single Mom, just want money, are too demanding, have crazy ex-dudes still stalking you, bat shit crazy slut female friends... those are some reasons to be scared. I could go on... the history of cheating, divorce raping men, destroying your ex's... I need context.
I'm just saying maybe, just maybe they're scared for some reason, but I wouldn't say scared as in fear per se... unless you're crazy like that and play with knives and guns all day licking them.
If you're just a normal girl... why are the fearful? Now if I'm hitting some nerves by all the shit-talking I just did... maybe consider it's just you and not the men. I'd like some context.
The only reason I would break-up with someone out of fear is if they were a little on the psycho side.
Other than that, I would never end a relationship because I was afraid of moving forward in a healthy relationship.
That is a chicken-sh^t thing to do.
Afraid of what? That if they stay together he'll end up killing her and going to jail? Guys are afraid of failure. Not of relationships. If he wants to break up with her it's because he see the future of the relationship as lose-lose. The only real exception to this is if he was never really in the relationship to begin with and the woman was simply to up in her feelings to realize this. So he didn't really leave.
I've broken up with women before because they've said and/or did things that blatantly violated my trust, or they said/did things I specifically asked them NOT to do at the beginning of our relationship, and they decided to do things like shit test me or be a bit of a nuisance to see how much I'd tolerate.
I'm not very tolerant of bad/disrespectful behavior. Nobody should be tolerant of stuff like that from their partner.
But thats just me.What would we have to be afraid/scared of? Of your Father, maybe.
If you're asking if we're scared of commitment, then you might want to remember relationships start when both parties agreed to commit to each other. The length of that commitment is entirely up to the time and effort put in by those involved.
There are literally thousands if not millions of different reasons people get dumped. Fear is only one of the many reasons.
For example mu former friend dumped his ex just because she was a citizen of sweden. My friend is from their neighboring country Finland. Thise countries are rivalries, and shit like this happens when Sweden beats Finland in ice hockey world championship finals.Nah. It’s just something guys say when they’re just not interested anymore but they still want to look like the good guy. It’s just like when people say they’re not in a stage of their life when they can have a relationship - they’re just not interested.
there's various reasons to. Ultimately, it's stress and unwillingness to change. It may be recognition it isn't meeting their desires.
scared is possible.
communication, but it's not easy sometimes to be vulnerable...
probly not. the 2 most common reasons are, the girl annoyed/nag/bossy category. or he found someone else. not due to fear of commitment etc.
No, this is just what they told you. Men hold on to women they want. They don't let them escape.
It depends. Some guys probably do and maybe sometimes the fear is legitimate depending on the situation
They do it either impulsively and prematurely
Or they are trying beat you to the punch.
Guys getting dumped turn into greek tragedyFor sure. They’re scared of being stuck with a boring drama queen who complains all day and contributes nothing to the relationship.
It can happen. It’s so sad to me. I feel I have so much to offer. But guys have ran off because… I don't know. I just don’t
A lot of men run from relationships because they can barely hold their own lives together. Most of the time it is a good thing, you have dodged a bullet.
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