My guy rejects physical touch. Why is he behaving this way?

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recently just patch back with my ex and the strange thing is this time round he doesn't want to have any physical touch with me. Not even holding of hands or even if i ask for a hug, he just cheekily disturb me and ignore my request. previously he wasn't like this. Why is he behaving this way

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My sister is like this towards me. A simple touch on the arm makes her jerk up just for a second. If your guy is like her then it can be due to some trauma from the past. It can be something that may seem so trivial but can be a big deal for him and he may be embarrassed to say what it is. My sister for example; she’s 21 now but when she was around 3-4 years old, some classmates were playing and they held her hands very tightly. It was innocent, but she felt claustrophobic and felt as though she couldn’t breathe. She was quite traumatised because of it. It may seem strange but it still impacts her to this day, not as much as before but it’s there. She told me when her boyfriend used to hug her too tightly, she felt claustrophobic but it embarrassed her to say why. Thankfully she was brave to say and he completely understands and helps her through it now.

Emelina · Accepted Answer

Depending who did what in the past... but its obviously that he just isn't into you this second time around. He may just haven't gotten over whatever made you both broke up in the first time, that now he is playing hard to get? Hope you both figure out your status of your relationship, hope for the best. Cheers

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

The why doesn't matter, honestly. If that is something you want you need to decide for yourself if this something you can live with or if its not.

In my personal experience with these types of women, it usually stems from some type of childhood trauma. Which is heart breaking, but honestly if you have never tried to work through a relationship with someone like this, then you honestly have no clue what you are in store for.

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

He is giving you time to prove you're not a cheatng/lying/user like you were before? So it's on you to be an angel till he feels comfortable. But he has major attraction to you on some deep level or he wouldn't give you a chance at all. And no, I've never been in this exact situation but it reminds me of some stuff

tennisgirly · Answer

i honestly have no idea, but that's horrible and i'm so sorry he's doing that to you!! maybe something happened between you guys lately and now he's just reacting to it weird? try to think back on what's happened between you guys lately that could make him act like this, or maybe ask around and see if anyone knows what's going on. be sure to post an update about what's been going on with him when you do find out ;)

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Don’t know the reason you guys had a break, but maybe he’s trying to go slowly to see if getting back together will really work, or again depending on reason for break there could be trust issues going on… Best thing I can say is you’ll only really know what’s going on by having an open and honest conversation with him about what’s going on and how it makes you feel..

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Because he still doesn't trust you yet.

He's giving you a chance, so be grateful. But you have to accept that on his terms.

You hurt him before, and so he's not going to feel close to you until you have repaired the damage. And that is going to take time.

Anonymous · Answer

in general, don't take it personally. as long as he's acting normal everywhere else

now, the specifics of your story, he's your ex... yeah wonder why he's holding back... probably because he knows he should have stayed away after the break up, like break ups are supposed to go.

razelove · Answer

Things aren't really patched up. Like the chance to get there exists most likely, but you don't reject affection if you truly trust and care about who you're with. Not unless something traumatic has happened.

Quigly · Answer

He feels betrayed. He no longer feels your love is sincere. It's a survival instinct. Betrayal can change you as a person. It has taught him that love is dangerous to his survival and to not do it again. It has taught him that Trust is earned over the course of time and that it shouldn't be given out freely and up front without question.

Simslover92 · Answer

Sounds like he's having trust issues or emotionally not there with you like he was. Communication is key. You need to talk to him about it and see why he is being so closed off.

FreyaRed · Answer

Maybe, he thinks/knows you cheated on him. Lack of physical contact means usually disgust on physical level

YesterdaysChild · Answer

Did you suddenly get the plaque? Because he seems to think so. What other reason could there be for keeping your distance? Maybe you should re-evaluate why you got back together again.

Lilmama1313 · Answer

First off, this sucks and I'm sorry you're going through this. The best way to find out what's going on is to have a heart to heart with him and tell him how you're feeling. He will either 1 tell you what's bothering him 2 blow up and turn it around on you or 3 show more affection.

Gent207-2 · Answer

Why are you back with him? That aside usual suspects include: guilt (cheating) sexual abuse (he's the victim), and lastly his blue period (true scientific phenomenon). Honestly RUN

tzdc21 · Answer

Maybe he's trying not to be too fast with you as you guys are now patching up. Or maybe he's had a recent experience that's causing him to be hesitant towards physical contact, and he doesn't want to bring it to light.

Avicenna · Answer

He's probably not confident yet that you're back together for good

LiveHard · Answer

Give it some time. He’s gotta make sure he can open up fully again. Wait a little longer but not too long.

Daniela1982 · Answer

So, you got back together with him why now?

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Then looks like you didn't patch things up as much as you thought.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It sounds like he’s not that into you anymore. Or maybe he was traumatized by something.

Anonymous · Answer

I hate to say it, but that is usually a sign that the end is near.

lorenzomichael · Answer

It's probably because your guy is lokee gay. Who has a girlfriend and don't want her to touch him? Sounds suspect to me.

Soldieronmission · Answer

Did something happen to make him not trust you? If not then I would say he really doesn't want to be back together.

Mangospacho · Answer

I doubt he really even wants to get back together with you if he’s not even letting you touch him.

Sparkie460 · Answer

He's not sure if he actually wants to be with you again. He's trying to hold back

runnerboy · Answer

Is he nervous? What caused the first breakup. Were you sexually involved with him?

Guardian45 · Answer

Cuz he's an immature effen idiot. I broke up with a girl cuz she was terrified of any PDAs! Touch is my Love Language!

007kingifrit · Answer

he sounds like he still feels hurt by you in some way

LiamJHayden · Answer

He is probably insecure about the guy (s) you were with or thinks you were with while apart.

Anonymous · Answer

Because you're burned bridges. Now you got to rebuild them. If you don't want to do that just move on.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Sounds like he's back on either your begs or demands. Definitely not a good restart..

Anonymous · Answer

Seems like it’s not patched up completely, he doesn’t feel emotionally connected with you yet

lightbulb27 · Answer

Residual fear of pain...

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

He’s not into you anymore.

Wise4myage · Answer

That's really messed up.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Neglectful childhood most likely

serious_miss419 · Answer

Some people aren’t always touchy feely

Staximus · Answer

Sounds like the magic is over

mommymommymommy · Answer

Getting with ex's, is a sign of desp.

Christoff92 · Answer

Probably has nerve issues 🤔

Reorx · Answer

Trauma. Who knows the source.

msc545 · Answer

Ask him not us. We can't read his mind.

Katrina1987 · Answer

Ether shy or hasn’t been with anyone yet.

Minahh · Answer

It's emotional manipulation

In_Trance · Answer

you need to talk more

boggboss · Answer

Why not ask him lol

Anonymous · Answer

maybe wash your hands first

Iron_Man · Answer

Talk to him

red_knight · Answer

Byebyeee

EaterPeter · Answer

Baggage

krin_m · Answer

Ask him!

My guy rejects physical touch. Why is he behaving this way?

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