recently just patch back with my ex and the strange thing is this time round he doesn't want to have any physical touch with me. Not even holding of hands or even if i ask for a hug, he just cheekily disturb me and ignore my request. previously he wasn't like this. Why is he behaving this way
He is giving you time to prove you're not a cheatng/lying/user like you were before? So it's on you to be an angel till he feels comfortable. But he has major attraction to you on some deep level or he wouldn't give you a chance at all. And no, I've never been in this exact situation but it reminds me of some stuff
My sister is like this towards me. A simple touch on the arm makes her jerk up just for a second. If your guy is like her then it can be due to some trauma from the past. It can be something that may seem so trivial but can be a big deal for him and he may be embarrassed to say what it is. My sister for example; she’s 21 now but when she was around 3-4 years old, some classmates were playing and they held her hands very tightly. It was innocent, but she felt claustrophobic and felt as though she couldn’t breathe. She was quite traumatised because of it. It may seem strange but it still impacts her to this day, not as much as before but it’s there. She told me when her boyfriend used to hug her too tightly, she felt claustrophobic but it embarrassed her to say why. Thankfully she was brave to say and he completely understands and helps her through it now.
Depending who did what in the past... but its obviously that he just isn't into you this second time around. He may just haven't gotten over whatever made you both broke up in the first time, that now he is playing hard to get? Hope you both figure out your status of your relationship, hope for the best. Cheers
The why doesn't matter, honestly. If that is something you want you need to decide for yourself if this something you can live with or if its not.
In my personal experience with these types of women, it usually stems from some type of childhood trauma. Which is heart breaking, but honestly if you have never tried to work through a relationship with someone like this, then you honestly have no clue what you are in store for.
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i honestly have no idea, but that's horrible and i'm so sorry he's doing that to you!! maybe something happened between you guys lately and now he's just reacting to it weird? try to think back on what's happened between you guys lately that could make him act like this, or maybe ask around and see if anyone knows what's going on. be sure to post an update about what's been going on with him when you do find out ;)
Don’t know the reason you guys had a break, but maybe he’s trying to go slowly to see if getting back together will really work, or again depending on reason for break there could be trust issues going on… Best thing I can say is you’ll only really know what’s going on by having an open and honest conversation with him about what’s going on and how it makes you feel..
Because he still doesn't trust you yet.
He's giving you a chance, so be grateful. But you have to accept that on his terms.
You hurt him before, and so he's not going to feel close to you until you have repaired the damage. And that is going to take time.
in general, don't take it personally. as long as he's acting normal everywhere else
now, the specifics of your story, he's your ex... yeah wonder why he's holding back... probably because he knows he should have stayed away after the break up, like break ups are supposed to go.
Things aren't really patched up. Like the chance to get there exists most likely, but you don't reject affection if you truly trust and care about who you're with. Not unless something traumatic has happened.
He feels betrayed. He no longer feels your love is sincere. It's a survival instinct. Betrayal can change you as a person. It has taught him that love is dangerous to his survival and to not do it again. It has taught him that Trust is earned over the course of time and that it shouldn't be given out freely and up front without question.
Maybe he's trying not to be too fast with you as you guys are now patching up. Or maybe he's had a recent experience that's causing him to be hesitant towards physical contact, and he doesn't want to bring it to light.
Sounds like he's having trust issues or emotionally not there with you like he was. Communication is key. You need to talk to him about it and see why he is being so closed off.
Maybe, he thinks/knows you cheated on him. Lack of physical contact means usually disgust on physical level
Did you suddenly get the plaque? Because he seems to think so. What other reason could there be for keeping your distance? Maybe you should re-evaluate why you got back together again.
First off, this sucks and I'm sorry you're going through this. The best way to find out what's going on is to have a heart to heart with him and tell him how you're feeling. He will either 1 tell you what's bothering him 2 blow up and turn it around on you or 3 show more affection.
Why are you back with him?
That aside usual suspects include: guilt (cheating) sexual abuse (he's the victim), and lastly his blue period (true scientific phenomenon).
Honestly RUN
He's probably not confident yet that you're back together for good
Give it some time. He’s gotta make sure he can open up fully again. Wait a little longer but not too long.
So, you got back together with him why now?
Then looks like you didn't patch things up as much as you thought.
It sounds like he’s not that into you anymore. Or maybe he was traumatized by something.
Did something happen to make him not trust you? If not then I would say he really doesn't want to be back together.
I doubt he really even wants to get back together with you if he’s not even letting you touch him.
He's not sure if he actually wants to be with you again. He's trying to hold back
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