He said ”I sincerely believe you’ll meet someone more compatible soon”. Why did say that and how can he be so sure?

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand..

[MementoMori777]

I'm guessing is cause people believe that there's always someone out there for everyone

[Asker]

He said it was because of our different life goals. during the date we were talking about what we wanted in the future. I told him like after 10 years I would’ve wanted to move ti different country ( in my mind I was thinking with him and possibly if we have kids then with our kids)
I also talked about how I would like to get better job in the future and study more. Maybe I gave him the impression that I don’t want to have kids in the near future? I think he wanted kids soon and said he wants big family. I did told him I want kids too and big family.

[MementoMori777]

Perhaps, either ways I hope the best outcomes on this situation

[Asker]

Do you think his reason was genuine and not an excuse

[MementoMori777]

Okay I'll admit I was half asleep when I responded to this but I reread everything and from the sounds of it it seems like you have different views in life and goals, for example you want to travel and I have a big hunch that the traveling might be a big deal to him cause not many people like to leave the comfort of their own city and even worse their country so your goals might just be too big for his comfort or who knows, maybe completely different than his so he knows that it's not going to work out, I don't think it has to do with the kids tbh

[Asker]

So just me wanting to move abroad was too much for him?

[MementoMori777]

I don't know, don't eat everything I'm feeding you here, I can be wrong lmao

It just seems like a thing most people might find pressuring, it can be for a reason nobody knows about besides him and its unrelatable completely, but why don't you ask this person?

[Asker]

I asked him what plans didn’t align and he said ” just in general they don’t align” He didn’t want to tell me..

[MementoMori777]

Well unless you are willing to change your plans and goals completely, I don't know what to tell you ms anon

[Asker]

But why didn’t he want to tell me what it was if his reason was genuine?

[MementoMori777]

Maybe it's petty, maybe it's embarrassing, could be dumb as well, the reasons are limitless, I really do hope your situation improves and you get the best results from your situation.

[Asker]

So he was embarrassed to tell me?

[MementoMori777]

I don't know, the reasons can be endless, it can be anything, it's what I'm trying to tell you lol

[Asker]

I can make compromise but how can I tell him that when he didn’t even tell me what was dealbreaker for him. I do miss him alot…

[MementoMori777]

Don't eat this up like everything I've told you but there's also possibilities he used that as an excuse for whatever other reason he may have, it's why it may not be worth your time to put more effort if he can't be truthful when you ask a simple question, and if he's being truthful, he isn't specifying for a reason, a reason only he knows.

[Asker]

We have’t talked for 3 weeks. Am I desperate if I reach out to him?

[MementoMori777]

Maybe to a point but that all depends

[Asker]

So yes or no lol

[MementoMori777]

I guess that depends who you ask but maybe it shows some form of it

[Asker]

What should I do IF he reaches out to me after all those things he said to me?

[MementoMori777]

Reply lol

[spartan55]

It means he's not interested. What can't you understand?