He said ” I’m sure you’ll meet your soulmate one day” while breaking up with me. So does it mean there’s 0% chance he’ll change his mind?

[Anonymous]

It hurt because I wanted him..

Updates

1 y

Bump

[MysteriousDarkness]

A life partner is someone trustworthy and dependable with whom you spend significant time, while a soulmate is a person who arrives in your life specifically to enrich it, encourage your development and push you to grow into a higher state of consciousness.

A soulmate can be a friend, a lover, or even a family member, so it’s important to let go of the idea that there’s necessarily a romantic connection. A soulmate can be a friend, a lover, or even a family member, so it’s important to let go of the idea that there’s necessarily a romantic connection. A soulmate can be a friend, a lover, or even a family member, so it’s important to let go of the idea that there’s necessarily a romantic connection. A soulmate can be a friend, a lover, or even a family member, so it’s important to let go of the idea that there’s necessarily a romantic connection. Many times, they will leave your life in one way or another once you’ve learned the important lesson they’re there to impart. This can hurt a great deal but doesn’t negate their status as a soulmate.

In contrast, a life partner shares your interests, supports you, and helps to empower you to take risks. They are likely to be with you in the long haul, regardless of challenges encountered, and they share a profound and reciprocal bond with you (one that has nothing to do with what they “get” out of the relationship).

[Asker]

So what are you saying?

[MysteriousDarkness]

The person you end up in a relationship with isn't automatically a soulmate. Could they be? Yes but not always. You could have had a soulmate already and not realized it. In other words a life partner and a soulmate are not always one and the same.

[Asker]

But he was so sure that I’ll found my soulmate one day so in other words he was saying that it’s not him

[Twalli]

Pretty much. I truly believe that everyone has a romantic soulmate. That's the person they're supposed to be with. Yet we're dealing with one person in over 7 billion. The likliehood that you will ever find that person virtually nonexistent, you have a better chance of winning the lottery (because they may be in another country).

[BadApple69]

Sorry for your breakup. I would say that there is very little chance you can win him back but I never say 0% chance. I always believe in hope. Here's the thing... You need to think long and hard if it's worth putting time and effort into someone that would say that to you. Wasting weeks might be ok but months or years isn't acceptable. Another little insight to men, normally we don't break up unless there is another girl we are seeing. We don't like being alone.

[Asker]

He said it was because of our different life goals. during the date we were talking about what we wanted in the future. I told him like after 10 years I would’ve wanted to move ti different country ( in my mind I was thinking with him and possibly if we have kids then with our kids)
I also talked about how I would like to get better job in the future and study more. Maybe I gave him the impression that I don’t want to have kids in the near future? I think he wanted kids soon and said he wants big family. I did told him I want kids too and big family.

[BadApple69]

If I was him, I would question you more about your life goals to see how we can make it work or just to get clarification on your goals. I wouldn't dump you. When you care for someone you don't dump them when you disagree on a goal you talk about it, you work on it. I'll go back to what I said earlier... I think there is someone else in the picture. I just know how men are.

[Asker]

We were talking daily for 2 months and only met once. I don't know I just hope he misses me and changes his mind..

[JustMeL120]

Sounds like a dick. He will change his mind dw when he realises he's not all that and that you was a good catch for him. But don't take him back he is a massive dick.

[Asker]

@JustMeL120 why do you think he’s a dick?

[JustMeL120]

You don't break up with someone and be like I hope you find your soul mate. It's a nasty thing to say. It's like breaking up with someone and be like I hope you have a good life.

[Asker]

@JustMeL120 he actually said I wish you all the best lol

[JustMeL120]

It's your life but normally when men break up with me by pretending to care for me they turn out to be dicks.

[smashleyy]

Ask yourself why you would even still want someone who has made it clear they don’t want you

[Asker]

He said it was because of our different life goals. during the date we were talking about what we wanted in the future. I told him like after 10 years I would’ve wanted to move ti different country ( in my mind I was thinking with him and possibly if we have kids then with our kids)
I also talked about how I would like to get better job in the future and study more. Maybe I gave him the impression that I don’t want to have kids in the near future? I think he wanted kids soon and said he wants big family. I did told him I want kids too and big family.

[smashleyy]

Doesn’t change anything.

[Asker]

Do you think his reason was genuine though?

[Gent207-2]

You don't want this guy back.

If he can set fire and walk away from all the good times he had with you without a hint of guilt, he never loved you and he's definitelyvnot the man for you.

Give yourself a chance to recover and if you need to vent DM me. I've been both the brokee and broker more times than I care to count

[Asker]

He said it was because of our different life goals. during the date we were talking about what we wanted in the future. I told him like after 10 years I would’ve wanted to move ti different country ( in my mind I was thinking with him and possibly if we have kids then with our kids)
I also talked about how I would like to get better job in the future and study more. Maybe I gave him the impression that I don’t want to have kids in the near future? I think he wanted kids soon and said he wants big family. I did told him I want kids too and big family.

[MrOracle]

Unfortunately, it does sound pretty definitive. He obviously doesn't see you as his soul mate. That's hard to accept for anyone, but there's nothing you can do about it but accept it and move on.

[Asker]

He said it was because of our different life goals. during the date we were talking about what we wanted in the future. I told him like after 10 years I would’ve wanted to move ti different country ( in my mind I was thinking with him and possibly if we have kids then with our kids)
I also talked about how I would like to get better job in the future and study more. Maybe I gave him the impression that I don’t want to have kids in the near future? I think he wanted kids soon and said he wants big family. I did told him I want kids too and big family.

[MrOracle]

Well, are you willing to make some sacrifices to be with him? If you are, then maybe you could tell him that, and that your feelings for him mean more to you than those other things. That might make him reconsider.

But if you do that, you need to remember that it was your choice to do so, so you can't resent him later on for the choice you made now.

[Asker]

I asked him what plans didn’t align and he said ” just in general they don’t align”

[Asker]

I would’ve made compromise but he didn’t want to discuss about it…

[MrOracle]

Well, you can't force him, but if he knows that he means more to you than your other plans, he might reconsider. No guarantees, but that's your best shot by far.

[Asker]

by the way why didn’t want to tell what exact plans didn’t align if he’s reason was genuine?

[MrOracle]

I don't know. If he won't tell you, then it's best that you don't get together anyway.

[Asker]

Do you think his reason was genuine?

[MrOracle]

I can't say without knowing what it actually is.

[Asker]

“ but if he knows that he means more to you than your other plans, he might reconsider.” what should I do then?

[MrOracle]

I would tell him what I said (and you quoted) and see if he will reconsider. If not, then forget about him and move on. Nothing else you can do. His answer will speak to his own morals and values.

[Asker]

I don't know what if he was letting me down easily and infact the reason was ge didn’t find me attractive?

[MrOracle]

Again, there's nothing you can really do if he won't reconsider.

[Asker]

How can I know if he’s willing to reconsider?

[MrOracle]

There's no way to know, you just have to try

[Asker]

by the way why did he say that it was ”very nice talking to me and get to know me” how it was very nice when he rejected me..

[MrOracle]

He was showing appreciation and trying not to hurt your feelings any more than necessary.

[Asker]

I took it as he infact did like me?

[Asker]

Do you agree?

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I take that as him saying he wants to find his soul mate and you aren't it.
0% is kinda low, I'd say you at least have.05% chance

[Asker]

He said it was because of our different life goals. during the date we were talking about what we wanted in the future. I told him like after 10 years I would’ve wanted to move ti different country ( in my mind I was thinking with him and possibly if we have kids then with our kids)
I also talked about how I would like to get better job in the future and study more. Maybe I gave him the impression that I don’t want to have kids in the near future? I think he wanted kids soon and said he wants big family. I did told him I want kids too and big family.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I don't think it has anything to do with any of that. People who are truly in love will find a way to intertwine their goals and desires. They don't leave eachother because those things don't line up. Unless it's something very extreme like refusing to have kids. Although people have stayed together even in that case.
He just doesn't feel a strong connection with you like he was hoping, most likely

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I don't know for sure, but that would be my bet

[Asker]

He said that after the first date…

[SnowedIn]

At this point, yes, 0% chance.

Move on. He broke up with you -- please don't hang on to a guy who doesn't want you.

[Asker]

People do breakup and get back together sometimes..

[SnowedIn]

It's true. They sometimes do. But you both need to clearly examine what was the reason for the break up in the first place. If the reason/s haven't gone away then chances are it'll happen again.

I also struggle with the guy who breaks up with you but then gets back together: it makes me ask why he didn't have the maturity to communicate through it and fix whatever it was. Its sus.

[Asker]

He said it was because of our different life goals

[SnowedIn]

I would not hold your breath nor would I change your life goals for him.

[Asker]

Do you think his reason to break it off was genuine?

[SnowedIn]

I think life goals are a reason, yes, in a general sense. Classic example is one person wants kids and the other doesn't. There are lots of examples.

What I can't state is whether his reasons were genuine or he's just hiding behind them.

[Asker]

during the date we were talking about what we wanted in the future. I told him like after 10 years I would’ve wanted to move ti different country ( in my mind I was thinking with him and possibly if we have kids then with our kids)
I also talked about how I would like to get better job in the future and study more. Maybe I gave him the impression that I don’t want to have kids in the near future? I think he wanted kids soon and said he wants big family. I did told him I want kids too and big family.

[SnowedIn]

That may have been.

Why don't you ask him?

[Asker]

I asked him what plans didn’t align and he said ” just in general they don’t align”

[SnowedIn]

He's done. I'm sorry. Based on everything you said there is zero chance of changing mind.

[Asker]

Why do you think so?

[SnowedIn]

You said that he said it's about life goals. So, unless he changes his or you change yours, nothing changes. And he's got no reason to change.

But it could also be he's using that as a nice excuse.

[Asker]

I would compromise if we wanted to discuss about ir. by the way why did he say ”I’m very sure you’ll meet your soulmate one day because you have a good heart and you’re very nice person” how can he be so sure?

[crossdressingrihno]

Is it possible to salvage? Yeah it is. Is it worth salvaging? No it’s not. Your bound to repeat the breakup even if you succeed in getting him back.

[Asker]

Did you read my other answers. He broke it off because of life goals..

[In_Trance]

move on, find someone else. it might not feel right, right now, but it will in the future when you look back

[Twalli]

Probably, be clearly is looking for someone else, unless he found them already

[Asker]

He said it was because of our different life goals. during the date we were talking about what we wanted in the future. I told him like after 10 years I would’ve wanted to move ti different country ( in my mind I was thinking with him and possibly if we have kids then with our kids)
I also talked about how I would like to get better job in the future and study more. Maybe I gave him the impression that I don’t want to have kids in the near future? I think he wanted kids soon and said he wants big family. I did told him I want kids too and big family.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I think he means that yes :(

[spartan55]

Give it up already.