He rejected me because we want different things. Why did he say ” I’m very sure that you’ll meet your soulmate one day”?

[Anonymous]

How can he be so sure about that..

[FilmGuy93]

Would you have preferred that he told you you'll die alone?

Has our society really deteriorated to the point that not making a point to be an abrasive asshole to everyone in life warrants further examination?

[Asker]

We could’ve leave that part out

[FilmGuy93]

He certainly could have. But why would he, when he could say something to try to be encouraging?

[Asker]

To me it came across like he was condescending like my heart broke.. cmon it was just one date

[FilmGuy93]

Yeah... I can see why that struck you as a little bit odd to say.

[Asker]

Wasn’t it overreacting on his part?

[Asker]

Or maybe it was actually hard for him…

[FilmGuy93]

He probably just said it without thinking. It turns out that a lot of people just kinda do things without any kind of self awareness or thought about why they are doing what they do.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Well, it's obvious... I like you but we're not compatible...

[Asker]

Likes me in what way?

[Rockstarrrrr]

Probably your looks and personality but you want different things...

[Asker]

Do you think he was just being nice?

[Rockstarrrrr]

Oh yeah it can be like that too... That's actually how people turn you down nicely... You're great, you're gonna find someone who adores you... But not me... No lol...

[Asker]

But why say ”im very sure” or you’ll find ”soon” another more compatible person. Like cmon lol

[Asker]

He also said it was ”very” to get to know me

[Asker]

Very nice*

[Rockstarrrrr]

I'm trying my best here... I don't know you guys personally and I wasn't there lol 😅... but yeah.. It seems like he was just being nice...

[Yannishka]

It's not because you two don't match, that you're not a great person! And great people have an increased chance on attracting someone else

[Asker]

If I’m so great why he rejected me then..

[Yannishka]

Because You Two Do Not Match

[Asker]

Just because our goals were different?

[Yannishka]

So he said.

[Yannishka]

Goals are important. Children for example is a BIG GOAL that you two need to agree on.

[boggboss]

Why are u finding it so hard to move on when u had 1 date

[Asker]

I was curious why did he say that since no one can be sure about that

[boggboss]

Because it was a nice thing to say

[Asker]

It was condescending

[boggboss]

No it wasn't lol

[Asker]

To me it was. Another person said that he maybe he liked me but we just wanted different things.. he said “ you’re very nice person and kind hearted person. It was very nice to get to know “ that’s just too much lol

[boggboss]

No it wasn't it honestly just looks like u are salty that he didn't want ti be with u and looking for reasons to be upset instead of moving on

[Asker]

Because it’s fuck*d up he gives me compliments while rejecting me

[boggboss]

No its not its polite to do so

[Asker]

Do you think it was because we wanted different things or he just wasn’t attracted to me in your opinion?

[boggboss]

I have told u my opinion over 3 different questions now I understand I are insecure for some reason but the reason he provided seems pretty normal just because u can't get your head iver it dont make him a lier

[Asker]

So he wasn’t just making an excuse?

[boggboss]

How could I for a fact know the answer I'm stating what I believe lol

[Anarcamus]

Reread your debate with this commenter. You are just upset at an ego bruise here really...
1 date and you want them to compliment/shame you like they were your life partner?

[Asker]

@Anarcamus I meant if he just said he isn’t interested it would have been enough

[boggboss]

When people end thing they tend to try to soften the blow by being polite nothing here was wrong

[Anarcamus]

He did...

[Fanfare690]

Because he knows it's not you.

[Asker]

What do you mean it’s not me?

[Fanfare690]

You arnt his soul mate & he knows that.

[Asker]

But why did he sai ”I’m very sure you'll find your soulmate” he can’t be sure about that..

[Fanfare690]

Whatever the case may be.. it's NOT him!
Regardless however you feel darling you are NOT for him.

[Fanfare690]

I'm sorry it hurts but learn to cry & let it go. Not cry cry & cry. If you do you have to eventually learn to let him go. He's not the one for you. If you fight it you'll end up really hurting yourself. I hope you will be okay. Take care

[In_Trance]

He's no more or less sure than you are

[Asker]

What?

[ioandan]

I think he wants to broke up with you

[Asker]

Well that was obvious..