What do u do with my brother?

[Anonymous]

So basically I and my brother go to school together and we share funds. I pay for our transportation and then at the end of the day we calculate everything then he pays me his half. But I've noticed that when it comes to him paying his half he'd playfully threaten me that he wouldn't pay. It gets me angry and I usually tell him I don't like it but he keeps repeating it. He then says I'm getting angry over small money but that's not the case. It's annoying how he keeps playing with my feelings like it's a joke. What do I do? And is what he's doing right?

[OfMiceandMen]

It isn't right and he should be more mindful.

If he keeps on with it, then get up early some morning and leave his ass behind one day and let him scramble for a ride.

Sometimes, you have show people (even family) you're not a pushover.

[Nik1hil]

Okay,
It's funny to watch our sisters get angry..

Just insult him or hit him, punch his shoulder.. That's like a compliment...

It's a really dumb thing to say, but as kid our mother have punished us, and after growing up a lot of man expect a little Anger and mild hits from their wife and sisters..
It brings joy, a sense of Validation, that his Wife and Sister actually cares about him..

Hit him with average strength and watch his face lit up with Joy!.

[far2gud4u]

Can you not just get him to pay his own half up front then?
Brothers are made to annoy their sisters. It's genetic. Mine is like this too :(

[Asker]

Like he's so annoying and he's still claiming right over everything. He'd say he'd pay the next minute he'd say he wouldn't. It's just toxic. I tell him I don't like it and ge keeps repeating it over and over again

[far2gud4u]

Because its fun to him to stress you out so you tell him he pays you or you dont help him next time. Be strong, stern and simple.

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[far2gud4u]

Brothers are hard to deal with. Mine is 4 years older and he's a nightmare! Even now as an adult he can still be petty and self centred. I shouted at him last week for not pulling his wait in caring for our mother. They never change x

[Nik1hil]

It's not annoyance, it's a test.

"Insult him or hit him on shoulder or abs.. " - men look for this Validation to check if the women in life actually care about them, by acting like Brats..

[far2gud4u]

@Nik1hil nah... mine is just to get a rise out of me, he gets some sick pleasure. Now I have the better career though and I can take care of myself as he taught me to... haha

[OlderAndWiser]

Tell him that "joking" about this is upsetting you to the point that the next time you hear such a "joke," you are going to withhold transportation. . . and that's NOT a joke. If he then makes a joke about it, withhold transportation for a day and he will start to get the idea.

[msc545]

Good solution!

[SnowedIn]

Stop paying for him. Stop giving him rides.

YOU are enabling his behavior.

[Asker]

I'm thinking about doing this

[SnowedIn]

🙂 go you!!!

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Make sure he pays you BEFORE he gets anything. Make him prepay and don't let him bully you about it.

[Asker]

He wouldn't

[glennos89]

Why you should do is pay for your own shit and let him do aswell for himself. That's the only way you can avoid him trying to manipulate you with not paying his share 🤷‍♂️

[ArrowheadSW]

It sounds like the age that he is at, to be inappropriately joking like this. Yeah I hear ya, it can be very annoying.

[strateguy632]

i would involve parents and only risk their money not what you earn, his debt to them.

[Asker]

Well it's our allowance given by our parents we use

[CuriousMufuxka]

Why don't you both take turns every other week?

[Asker]

I think that's a good thing

[Asker]

I just Hope he listens

[RHK36]

You're both children that are getting money from mommy and daddy. You can't expect him to be mature when you're both immature.

[imfreeze95]

Play hardball make it so joking about this is not even an option.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

Get yourself sugar daddy and get him a sugar mama

[Billlewis]

Now, that's an excellent idea! But here's an even better one -- get yourself an obedient male pay pig to serve you and your boyfriends on a long term basis.

[In_Trance]

stop sharing funds

[Asker]

I have no choice.