Is he Not interested anymore?

[Anonymous]

Well this guy and I talked for a while. We hung out constantly as well. Well I wanted a relationship and he didn’t due to family issues etc. He basically had a lot going on but I won’t spill all his tea. He said he liked me and his actions showed he did. He said he didn’t want to hurt me so he was telling me how he felt. He said I don’t want to hold you back. He said if you found some else I would be mad for a bit but happy that your getting what you want. But he didn’t want me out of his life so he asked if we could be friends.

Well one day he made me upset and I just felt like we wanted different things and it wasn’t gonna work out with just being friends (platonic relationship). Because I liked him. I felt like I couldn’t do it. So I told him not to talk to me again. (Plus I had a lot of stress happening)

Well the other night he sent me a follow request from his main account on Instagram and I accepted it. (Because I do like him still) well I sent a follow request to him and he took a long time to accept it. But I noticed when I dropped him, he start following a lot more people like it was weird to me. But currently he hasn’t texted me. I don’t know if he wants to be nosey and see what I’m doing? Or is he not interested anymore in me? Or is he afraid to say something to me because he thinks I’ll be mad still? Or is that he wants to make sure I find no one else?

[OlderAndWiser]

So much drama!

1. If he wanted you in his life as his leading lady, you would be there. You aren't there because. . . he doesn't want you like that. It's that simple.

2. Break make/make up works out all the time. . . in fantasy land. In real life, it is a very low probability event in special circumstances. From what you've described, these circumstances aren't that special. You are wasting your time.

3. Do you want a relationship with a real person or with an avatar on a website? If you want a relationship with a real person, try actually talking instead of sending DMs. There's a special feature on your iPhone that lets you actually talk to another person who has a cell phone! And it's more more efficient and productive if you are trying to become better acquainted with someone.

Yes, this is a harsh response. My guess is that you won't respond to anything else.

[Stevenk0964]

He might still like you. He probably took a while to accept because he didn’t want it to seem like he was desperate. With you and him not sending the first message it might have seemed to him like you didn’t care as much as you seemed to be and he might have assumed you moved on. Thus leading him to follow other people as he is trying to move on. But a small part of him might still like you. But hey, I could be wrong.

[coco765]

Guys are simple. If he wants to be with you, he would at any cost no matter what kind of issues you two are facing. He won't leave your hands. It seems like you like him and he used to like you too. When you took a pause, maybe he got a feeling that you no longer want him in your life and that you're happy without him. So he made distance for your happiness also. Maybe you two can have a talk and understand each other. And I hope it works out for both of you in the end.

[Anonymous]

Well, if anything he’s got your attention. Maybe you need to divert it elsewhere, like to an emotionally available man. Don’t forget, if he wanted to be with you he would. Everyone has trials, family issues, personal issues, everything, even you’re dealing with ample stress, yet here you are ready to give him another chance despite your situation. Because that’s what you WANT to do. If I were you I wouldn’t even entertain that, he has nothing new to say, I promise.

[kylee2437]

Probably trying to see if you still partake in some kind of interest for him. Don’t allow him back in - he had a chance to be with you and he didn’t take it

[spartan55]

And you truly believe all of that could facilitated through Instagram? 😂😂😂 Riiiiight.