I send my crush a picture of myself and now he doesn't seem as interested anymore - do I look that ugly and hideous?

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The title says it all. He was all chitty chatty and into me but when i sended him my selfie (obviously with a little bit of filter) he kinda turned cold. I regret it so much that i send him my picture, I feel extremely ugly and unwanted right now...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You don’t look bad.. I don't know if you’re a man or a woman but the photo doesn’t look bad.

but I will say 1 thing
if a guy ever sent me a photo with a filter, I’d never talk to him again or at least lose interest in him as a potential partner because even the slightest filter upgrades a person and that for me shows lack of confidence which is so unattractive for me and that slight change could make a person look totally different in person, which then leads me to thibk I don’t even really know what this person looks like.

for most men this is not the case because I see a lot of girls using filters and guys still go after them ignoring the filter, for me it’s a big turn off.

and also if I saw that he had injected himself to get bigger lips or anything like that, that also shows confidence problems.. and is highly unattractive for me to see anyone doing that.. but again, most men prefer that so I don’t think that was the issue with you. Perhaps he just lost interest for other reasons
OR PERHAPS he hasn’t lost interest and you’re looking too hard into it?

this kind of happened to me yesterday..
I’m taking to this guy and he always calls me and has his camera on, when he goes anywhere.. and yesterday I was exercising and I sent him a video of me exercising and I thought I looked weird so I put “haha I look funny in this exercise machine” and he took long to reply.. and when he finally replies he just says “yeah” .. and I felt awful like damn, he lost interest lol

and few minutes later he said he’s going out and like have a vice day, when usually he would call me and put the camera on the entire time he’s out..

so I felt awful, I even cried lol this was last night
and I thought to myself I bet if I had used a filter like what most other girls do, he would probably still be interested lol.. and I was so confused that I send him a message asking if he hates me now.. and again he took long to reply and when he finally replied it was a dry solid “no”

so I felt good about the “no”, but felt sad and just put a “ok” and stopped talking to him.. I thought I would not try to talk with him again..

amd then in the morning he was calling me and then I saw he had left a lot of messages so o got happy again. I have no idea why his reaction was the way it was when I sent him the video but it seemed somewhat like how you’re feeling now.. it’s not a good feeling but perhaps we look too deep into things when it’s not that bad? I don't know..

I guess we can’t please everyone and we shouldn’t get sad so easily but we still do.. because sometimes we can’t help it.. but if we become stronger and try to not let us face us too much, it won’t affect us that deeply.. I’m still sad about it lol even if I laugh about it.. I have no idea what he really thinks..

I have no idea what to advice.. I just realized when I stopped contacting him, that’s when he reached out to me..

good luck!
and a lot of guys like masculine features. It doesn’t mean you look like a man, wether you are one or not, it’s just features and some people like them better than round or soft..

Jemini_Crocket · Accepted Answer

You are very attractive. Not masculine, really, you do have model-like features in my opinion. Sharp and clear and that is attractive. (I'd give anything to have sharp high cheekbones) ♥

Most guys are just dumb af. I'm sorry this happened to you. You might not be his type or he might even think you're not that person but that doesn't make you any less attractive.

And about the idiots in the comments who are calling you trans or a man, ignore them. They are probably too confused by the internet and social media.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Meh. You don't look that masculine. You probably have ancestors in Russia / eastern Europe judging by your higher cheek bones and the shape of your eyes.
In case that soothes you: I consider myself 100% heterosexual and yet I got blown by a tranny in Brasil as I did not recognise "her" as an ex-male... Females I like can have far more edged faces.
Also many top-tier models have even more contoured faces than you, so my preference cannot be that rare:Here are just some very quick random results...

(images from thephotostudio.com.au )

On_the_other_hand · Accepted Answer

That isn't it. You look great. The problem is a good looking girl can still be someone born a boy. I once checked my bathroom and found a used tampon and was glad to know she was legit. Many girls have a little mustache stubble that makes you wonder.

My guess is you looked too good to be true, so he was looking for "the catch."

You have nothing to lose. Tell him people suggest he might think you a biological boy and offer him to prove it any way he wants (birth cert. DNA etc... Again you've already lost him so give it a shot.

btbc92 · Answer

I think it is a lot more than that for him to just behave that way. Maybe he recognized you somewhere prior based on what somebody else said. Other than that, looks should not MATTER. And in my personal opinion you are beautiful and still beautiful regardless. This person may have come off as if you were stuck up or a "b" or something. I'm not saying you are. But my assumption is that you have RBF going on from what I see, and he probably disliked it. I think you should distance yourself from this person. You deserve better. Not to be treated like that.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Good grief, why are some people calling you trans? Ignorant fools; ignore these twits on here...

Second, I feel your pain; I do. I have been in that same situation LOTS of times with guys online in the past: we would be getting along great, connection was there, they admitted that I was their type- until they saw my picture. Then they either ghosted or friendzoned me :

Yeah, really.

They liked my personality, but not my looks. That's one reason I no longer show people my picture online- crap like that really does hurt your self esteem and confidence.
But I digress...

Don't let one idiot make you feel that way: that's his loss, not yours! Look, you're not unattractive, nor do you look masculine. Apparently some people just do not know a good thing when they see it. Delete him, and find yourself a guy that does appreciate your beauty and what you have to offer.

Thecrazylucaone · Answer

First thing that came to my mind is that you're so gorgeous 😍😍😍 , he must be blind , anyways you should not care about him , his loss 😏, you can get any other guy easily , we are not for everyone , I"ve has a very similiar experience , it just wasn't my crush , just a guy who seemed intrested talking to me but when I sent him my picture he went silent for month , just blocked him and moved on , it won't make me think I'm ugly or anything , you should not care and you probably way hotter than him and deserve a better guy 😊😊😊😍😍😍

Jake1415 · Answer

I was your "updates" to the question and I agree with the fact that you have a little masculine features. HOWEVER, I could NEVER say you're ugly or not pretty because you are ( or at least to me. ) You have a clear complextion/face, your name up looks good and not exaggerated ( which I like ) and you have pretty/nice hair. I'd willing to go out with you if we met, we lived in the same area, and you were obviously into me ( I'm TERRIBLE at social cues.)

Hope you find someone who's into you as much as he is to you and you find someone can find you as attractive as I do.

SjE78 · Answer

dont know where these masculine features are, and no you dont look ugly, it does sound though like he was playing you, dont give up though as someone genuine will come along and want to get to know you more even want to spend their life with you

just dont let the bad apples ruin your search for the ripe ones

jshm2 · Answer

I think you misunderstand.

He did not like the pic, not you. He was clearly ok with the banter you offered.

I suppose you just need to improve your photography technique as that is not a good pic to send for an "impression".

Maybe pick up a few books on the subject as photography is an art form. These days, every dipshit with an isomething from apple thinks they are automagically an "artist" now.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Honey with all my Heart and Truth, You are very Pretty and I'm sorry if anyone has said or put you down or any guy has said anything not good to you, Something in life you got to ignore people and or haters out there :) -HUGS- <3 <3<3

ZackBan · Answer

Might need some context. You met online or in person? Has he ever seen you or just in pictures?  It matters to know what he might have thought

PhoenixItalian · Answer

I think you’re attractive, I think men are sometimes used to women being overweight which makes their bone structure appear more rounded. So they assume a defined bone structure is inherently masculine which I believe to be false

itsmyownname · Answer

Maybe you're just not his type (you're really beautiful tho) but he could've just say that.. this reaction is kinda weird but has nothing to do with you being ugly..

AmeerX · Answer

Someone shoot me. If this is ugly , I think I would best go to your country and get ugly girls like you😍

Guardian45 · Answer

I have to agree with some here, if you're hideous, then it begs the Q what does beautiful look like? LOL 😆 🤣 😂

Anonymous · Answer

*After opening picture* Girl I-. He has to be gay. Lol but on a serious note, guys like a bit if a chase. So the next time he texts, leave him on open. He could also be talking to multiple girls at once, so be weary.

Apope16 · Answer

You are NOT ugly. You are feminine. You have large kissable lips. Also good lips for a blow job. You have nice long hair. You aren't fat. Nice eyes. You are not ugly

1truekhaleesi · Answer

You look great. Don't change yourself. If he's not interested that's his problem.

nxxxxxxxxxxxa · Answer

You are NOT ugly. You are literally a blonde Kendall Jenner. Fuck him, you don’t need him :-)

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Well you have a masculine figure but your not ugly, anyways it's okay if someone doesn't likes you! Maybe if he showed you a picture of himself, you wouldn't like him too, have you thought about it?

YHL6965 · Answer

You don't look ugly, but you look suspiciously like a trans somehow even though you're not. It might be the angle or the filters. That said, to me, since now it's clear that you're not a man, I think you look good. I'm not a fan of the filter though.

Furthermore, to me, personality matters so much more than looks so, even if you looked less beautiful, it would ultimately be your inner beauty that makes or breaks the appeal for me.

iambae · Answer

Move on and find a man who will love you and value you.

MissLlyn · Answer

I ask are you trans female? Not asking in a rude way because most are putt off my trans females. However if not, if you're into girls I'd totally date you. 👌 you look pretty to me.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel you. some guys are weird, and they doesn't like compliment. I'd prefer run into guys who are not weird

Massageman · Answer

Well if this a "hideous", I'll take it and be quite happy!

Potatocream · Answer

I think you're pretty hot 😂 I don't know maybe he is into fat girls or smrhf weird lmao

jeremy_09 · Answer

well that's a pretty nice picture so i can't imagine that's the problem

Anonymous · Answer

I think he might be blind uno. Or maybe he's intimidated by beautiful women.

Hazelstar99 · Answer

No. He's surely blind. You're beautiful.

namelessking1 · Answer

Ur xhin and cheeks looks manly and ruins ur perfection

54lonewolf68 · Answer

He's got the problem not u u look great I'd sure chat with u and take u out on the town

Anonymous · Answer

You look good, I would love to date someone as beautiful as you are.

asshole_ · Answer

How you mean "not as interested" maybe he was never interested int he first place

Wise4myage · Answer

You must be kidding? Your gorgeous. His loss.

KingJared24 · Answer

Aww you look beautiful. Shame on him

msc545 · Answer

Forget him. You look *beautiful* !

Gedaria · Answer

You look great...

jcnum10 · Answer

Ask him. We can't tell you if your his type or not

jaybob88 · Answer

seriously! absolute stunner

gandolph3 · Answer

he is an ass, you look very nice

socksguy · Answer

OMG you're gorgeous.

Smirnoff23 · Answer

You look stunning

cootjuh · Answer

Damn he is crazy

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