Is it true that guys will only become friends with girls they think are attractive?

[thatshydork]

Yes

No

Depends on the guy

[MrOracle]

Exceptions certainly exist, but this is MOSTLY true in my experience, which is 40 or so years of being around people socially. Note that you have to differentiate between "friends" (i. e., people who spend time ALONE together on a frequent basis by choice) and "acquaintances." Guys may have acquaintances that they don't find attractive, but it's rare that they have female friends that they don't find attractive. This is ESPECIALLY true for single guys, and somewhat less true for guys who are married or in a long-term, happy relationship - though such guys are less likely to have many close single female friends in the first place.

[Losalt]

No.
How a girl looks works mainly as a "advertisement".
If she's attractive she'll definitely find it easier to get my attention.
But although less attractive girls might find it harder to start a friendship with me it's definitely not something that'll stop such a friendship from happening.

Indeed, if she does a good enough job of making me interested in her she'll *look* better afterwards because of how my feelings for her change.

[England4eva]

This is a good post

[Losalt]

@England4eve
Thank you. :-)
Just trying to be honest here.
Yes, looks *does* matter, but it's not a insurmountable obstacle 99% of the time.

[England4eva]

Feelings definitely change when attraction does. Meaning attraction can be "won over" some of the time. I've definitely found myself surprisingly attracted to a guy who I wrote off as "not my type." Chemistry can be a slow burner, especially when they does not make your initial wish list. But that can all change, when you start to see them in a different light.

[Losalt]

@England4eva
That's definitely true.
How you feel about someone can make such a huge difference.
Like seriously.
I'd rather have a girl give me a good genuine smile reaching her eyes then have her wear makeup.
It has far more impact for me.

[Nikki1989]

No, friends usually come together when they share common interests. Gender has little to do with it.

[BLP11520]

You are so right

[236color]

No, but if they don't think you're attractive, a friend is all you are. However, if they think you're attractive, "We're just friends" is followed by the unspoken "Until she agrees to be more than friends". Many guys are shy and take a long time to feel secure enough to ask a woman out. The problem is, by the time they've worked up the nerve, she's moved on. Women are attracted to confidence, and taking 6 months to get the courage to ask you out for coffee doesn't scream confidence.

[ohsheeT]

I guess it kind of depends on the guy and the girl I have to say no to this but I also look at who the person is on the inside if they're a great person I'm going to become friends with them for sure because good people are hard to find

So you can be attracted by the inside as well as the outside but I don't look at it that way

[syncheart]

I want friends, so I am willing to be friends with anyone that wants to be friends with me. But I find friendship with Girls to be hard. In recent years I've had more girls turn on me, or ghost me, then I have had with guys.

[thatshydork]

I’m sorry to hear that

[syncheart]

Thanks, I've been told that If I learned how to fake smile better then I would make friends.

[RavVid]

If I think she is attractive then I want to fuck her. If I want to fuck her it is simp to hang around hoping one day I'll get to fuck her. I can enjoy a friendship with a girl I don't want to fuck.

[Anonymous]

No, of course not.

But just like attractive women don't want to send the wrong signals to unattractive men.

Attractive mem don't want to send the wrong signals to unattractive women.

So if we think you misinterpret our friendliness we might just avoid contact altogether. Or engage in very limited contact.

[Lliam]

No. I've been friends with lots of girls and women that I didn't find attractive. They're people. But I wouldn't be sexually attracted to anyone I didn't find attractive.

[SnowedIn]

I think it depends on the guy. I've met guys for whom that's true and a lot more who don't care. Friendship doesn't depend on looks.

[Alex-Snow]

I have both guy and girl friends that may not be the best looking but I like them. It is the person inside the body that counts!

[Anonymous]

A majority of the time yes. I have a few female friends who aren’t the best looking but that’s cause they started talking to me first. The cute ones are the ones I started talking to first.

[Billlewis]

Maybe not always, but I think that's true most of the time.

[Anonymous]

Have you seen the Matt Rife take on this question?

I think it's the opposite - guys want to be friends with the ugly girl.

[thatshydork]

I have no clue who Matt Rife is. If he has a podcast, I hardly pay attention/listen to those people.

[Opinion Owner]

He's a comedian, probably has a podcast though

[MementoMori777]

that would all depend on intentions because to be friends they dont gotta be attractive

[genericname85]

i can only speak for myself. and to me, attractiveness doesn't matter when it comes to "friends". it only matters in romance and sex.

[MikeTheBartender]

I'm the complete opposite, if a girl is hot it's very unlikely we will be just friends.

[Sparkie460]

I think it depends on the guy. I think personality is more important than looks. I'll be friends with just about anyone who has a good personality

[PeteA380]

Not quite. Not 'attractive' in a marriage sort of way.

[dolemite58]

if a guy finds a girl attractive why would he want to be just a friend?

[Anonymous]

I don't think so. Its easier to like women for who they are more if your not attracted to them. Your less likely to think with your dick.

[inhua]

SMH at the virtue signaling

[spartan55]

Why would any guy want to be friends with a girl?

[gothbxtch]

not if they’re not gross

[LiamJHayden]

Some probably do. I don't.

[BrookeS]

Nope

[Christoff92]

No not really.

[Fuentes]

No not really at all

[riverrat3]

How shy are you

[jjj101010]

Nope