Can guys be just friends with a pretty/attractive female?

[lotv56]

I was friends with a lot of great guys and but they never tried to do anything weird with me and they never mentioned that they thought I was attractive. Years later they told me in high school they thought I was so hot and would sometimes check me out. I was shocked. This guy said all throughout high school even while he had a girlfriend he wanted to kiss me so bad. They eventually did try to get at me by seeing if I wanted to go on a date with them so in that case they eventually wanted to be more than friends although it took like 6 years later lol I said Nooo. But my best guy friend in high school treated me fairly, for example, he would tell me he saw me as one of the guys. He didn't find me pretty lol He would tease me and would give me dating advice. We were friends for sure and I knew he would never be interested in me and my parents could see that too. Well, this year he came out and apparently he's gay. I was kind of sad at the fact that I thought he was different than other guys but it was because he really wasn't attracted to me at all lol He's still a great friend though <3

[Anonymous]

Depends. I've seen it happen , guys befriending attractive girls but not being attracted to her or wanting anything more. But it's not common , usually ( especially younger guys ) will befriend a girl they're attracted to or an attractive girl either out of peer pressure or because he was attracted to her and wanted more , and ends up being friendzoned basically but sees that it's better to be friends with her , than to leave and be nothing with her. If we are talking about a guy who befriended an attractive girl just because of her looks then no he can't just be friends with her.
But a guy with self control and enough emotional maturity who just is friends with a girl who happens to be pretty , that is possible.

[EpicDweeb]

Yes, and ESPECIALLY when the guy already has a girlfriend (attractive or not). When a guy loves his girl... all other girls should seem to grow beards and compared to her they'll never be as attractive. There are guys who simply don't want to be in a relationships and they have the self control that they need to avoid developing any romantic feelings allowing them to be friends, even close friends, with an attractive woman. I remain good friends with my first girlfriend even though she's in a relationship with someone else now. She's one of my best friends and it's awesome talking to her still, but I'm happy for her and I'm honestly ecstatic that I get to be her friend and I don't care that she's not my girlfriend... so yeah. It's possible, it happens, been there, done that... life is awesome.

[ParanoidSeal]

Sure! Quite a few of my friends are absolutely stunning, but I'm just not attracted to them. Much to the confusion of other guys, who assume we're a couple when we're alone, and are totally lost as to why I'm not trying to get with the friend in question! Sure, I know the world thinks they're hot, but they're just my friend.

It's also nice to be able to help them find the right people! I really don't mind being the friend who subtly suggests that going over and talking to the really cute girl over there might be a good idea, always nice to see your friends happy.

[Logorithim]

Of course it is possible, unless the guy has no self-control. Having an attractive female friend can also help a guy when other girls see her with him (If he were a socially inept creep, such an attractive woman wouldn't be seen with him).

[Desconhecida]

Beneficial

[ak667]

It's the norm here in Japan for guys and girls to be friends with each other (sometimes from childhood) and hang out in groups (often to drink and socialize together), like so:

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I have plenty of female friends myself, including very attractive ones (one of my best female friends is gorgeous). There are some dirty thoughts that pop into my head sometimes when I see them in a bikini and bend over or something, but nothing deep, nothing that goes far beyond a stranger doing the same thing.

One of the reasons it doesn't go beyond that is because we're so close. They know what type of girls I like and I know what type of guys they like, and there's a mismatch. They've seen me date girls, I've seen them date guys. And some of their boyfriends also became my close friends, so that also helps to maintain boundaries since a respectable guy wouldn't sleep with one of his friends' girls.

[intothenight13]

While I answered yes because I believe it is possible, I do feel it is highly unlikely. Men are wired completely differently than women in a evolutionary way. The way for the any species to thrive is through procreation. Males not having a gestation period have always had the primal urge to spread their seed as far and wide as possible. The less mature the individual the more they connect with this primal nature. Females evolved to be caretakers. Sure there are exceptions to these rules in various species but it is rare. Look to the animal kingdom, the males are always trying to prove their worth over other males to potential mates.

All that being said, beauty is very subjective. Someone you find drop dead gorgeous could be just mediocre to someone else. There are too many different ways to be physically or emotionally attracted to someone else that it is hard to nail it down to a definitive yes or no. Also, since you didn't mention sexualities a gay male can easily be just friends with a female as there will be no attraction at all.

[Jjpayne]

It depends how things are going, if it turns into a relationship it turns into a relationship but being a friend is better than not. In fact, by being witty and now allowing him to date you makes him have to learn to deal with other attactive woman. I guess it depends on how you own it. Know you are attactive to him but also know your wit has the power to snap your fingers to wake him up. I mean you can really have fun with it. "Can you put your dick back in your pants so you can help with with this box?" I made it extreme to show you how far you can go. After a while he will get tired of being called out and will start behaving normal, at least I think so anyway. I think it also depends on your level of comfort with that but friends are completely honest with each other that will show you are a friend not a date, hopefully that makes sense

[brocklee]

It depends. If a guy shows the ability to be upfront and ask women out, I would say it is possible. If a guy shows signs of not being upfront, and always having problems with women, it is likely he is starting out the "friendship" with an ulterior motive (that means in a few months he will suddenly "catch feelings" for you).

Just look for the red flags. If a guy is insecure, not upfront with what he wants, is easily swayed, has never had or rarely ever has a girlfriend, beware of his intent. It is a super popular game insecure guys believe works.

[JSPlasmo1]

This really needs a Maybe field. It all depends on each individual person. I would say, in general, No. However, there are always exceptions. Some of my best female friends are Gorgeous, but they were very rare.

In my experience, unless the person finds you attractive, that makes the friendship work. If they aren't attracted to you, they will treat you like you aren't attractive. This is true for Men and Women.

It's much better to surround yourself in people who believe in you and think you'e beautiful too. Those are the only people you can call friends. Always remember that you are a reflection of the five people you keep closest to you. So choose your friends wisely. The heart is a sacred place.

[TheFacetiousCook]

I have a simple opinion with this it all depends on the person the common response to nowadays is know why because people have made it so I believe that people can have platonic relationships with people of beautiful nature as long as their mentality is I simply want to be their friend. Now if your mentality is I'll pretend to be their friend and then make my way into their pants now they're not being truthful and it's no longer platonic relationship it's now a premeditated deceiving of sorts. So yes on this case I do believe people can be platonic friends with beautiful people but it all depends on the mindset of the person as well as their morals

[Prof_Don]

I can and I am! I have several female friends that many would consider attractive.

There is always some incompatibility in our personality / situation why we never dated. I’ll name a few.

One of them is 10 years older than me, and she doesn’t date younger guys... and I want to have kids so she would be too high-risk to have kids with at her age.

One of them is too emotionally distant and not very affectionate; a person you would consider “cold”. I absolutely need attention & affection more than the average guy. Definitely would be a terrible girlfriend for me personally.

Several of them her and I have some ethnicity-based cultural incompatibilities; even through there is a physical attraction between her and I, our families and friends would never mesh.

[ScaryCool]

See the thing is for a lot of us, subconsciously it becomes a "why not? Scenario. I mean Think about it, you're good friends who get a long well and you find them attractive. That's what usually makes it hard to stay friends and not develop feelings for a lot of people I'm sure, not just guys.

[dragonfly6516]

They don't all find the same things attractive, and they don't all want women. They might not find *you* attractive. And finding something attractive doesn't necessarily mean that you want it. The only reason a man and a woman should not be friends is if one of them has feelings for the other.

[sam0017]

Maybe. They can. Maybe they cannot. What ever they name their relationship as. Best friend friend or whatever. Attraction will always be there. And we know if u r attracted to someone. And you stay with them for long. There is a high probabilty of falling for them. But exception are there.

[Anon-ymous1]

Truly actually honest-to-God deep-down truly platonic friends? Which means you are in no way interested in fucking or romancing them, ever, at all, in any way? Which is what true friendship is?

... No.

All the girls saying yes are simply naive-- not their fault. All the guys saying yes are either 1) dumb or 2) lying. This is the simple truth of the matter. That, or the girl isn't actually particularly attractive, at least not as pretty/hot as she thinks she is. If she's legit hot, we want to kiss/cuddle. fuck her. Period.

[AyushMate]

Yes, they can. I have seen girls who have more guy friends. Maybe some of them have attraction but not all.
We can be friends with anyone we want but there is a fine line between the friendship and relationship which everyone should think about before crossing it.
I have many girl friends and I'm attracted to few but I know that I can't get into a relationship so I keep my distance with them, but I'll be always there for them as a friend.

[al46610]

Yeah I have attractive female friends, some have bfs, married, or single. I find it better to not hit on every attractive female sowmtimes befreinding a attractive female can open the door to network yourself out to their friends and other people. Then if at some point she is interested go from their it's a win win either way

[Blackbrowny]

Yes, easiest solution for your anwser : he is gay. No Problem... But besides that, maybe you are attractive but not his type, or he already a girlfriend that he is really into so he doesn't see you in this way.
And yes... i heard that there are guys too that just dont want a relationship because they are smart enough to know before that you dont fit together at all.

[advaj98]

I'd be ok with being just friends with a pretty attractive female. Because I know one of two things will go down if I take it to the next level either they'll cheat on me, or they'll rip my wallet to shreds.

[Anonymous]

I can be with girls who I think have kind of the priggish attitude about them when it comes to their love life.

Like in a romantic context I think they're a bad person and they're shallow but when it comes to friendship they seem pretty respectful to guys I'll be friends with that type of girl. One because I like having friends. 2 they might have some other attractive friends who aren't as priggish in a romantic setting that I might date.

[SaintJonesy]

I could be, but the woman will always, always, ALWAYS assume that their male friend is just trying to bang her if he's not attractive. Which isn't very conducive to a healthy friendship. So no, not really.

[Anonymous]

It's possible, but rare. I've had one very attractive female friend who I never wanted to cross the line with because she and another friend of mine had a thing together and she didn't want to cross the line because I don't think she was attracted to me. She's super cool so more than happy to have her as a friend plus she's a pretty good wing-woman.

[stryder]

Yeah, i have a lot of really attractive friends according to my guy friends who seem to complain on how i get these girls, and I can't even imagine being with them in terms of being in a relationship with them, most of them have admitted their feelings for me, but I get close to girls and see them as family nothing else, and no I'm not gay lol I lol girls a lot, just that I'm avoiding them to not tempt myself into something I can't return from.

[delyon]

Bring in friendship with the pretty/attractive female only depends what you think about that person. Because, we all make meet people for first time and make friends with them but as time goes on some people upgrade their friendships to relationships. So a guy can be just friends with a pretty/attractive female without any love mind.

[Kurαȷ]

Personally, I can be "just friends" but I can't be "just friends without any non-platonic interest whatsoever".

The qualities that make someone a good friend, make a female attractive, at least in my case.

[TomasLyy]

First, they need to get rejected by said girl, and if the relationship is salvageable depending on both parties, they can be best friends. However, for the guy, there will always be the thought in the back of his head wondering what it would be like.

[Errantsquire]

It's still hard for me to interact with someone that's extremely attractive. I can do it but it takes extra effort not to blush at every turn.

[AndyOh]

A bit difficult at times, but it is done. I did it for years and now she is one of my best friends, decades later.

[Anonymous]

I could, but most girls I've tried to maintain friendships with have always seemed to think I was "out to get them" and would ignore me, or blow me off, when I was just trying to be friendly and nothing more. 🤔🤔

[Hurlyburly]

If she's taken, sure. My bestfriend is - as far as I can judge it - really attractive, married and most of her friends are guys.

[pookybear123]

Yes - although I wouldn’t put myself in the attractive girls camp but I have a couple of male friends. One I see socially more than the other. We talk about relationship stuff and life and we both find it good to have a female and male perspective if we have any issues. There is no crossing the line.

[DryJake2015]

I can. But if I'm attracted to her I'd maybe want to cut off the friendship if the feelings aren't mutual. To prevent future awkwardness.

[taleswapper]

Yup. All it takes is for them to be taboo for some reason. I personally just consider ALL women taboo, unless and until they themselves tell me otherwise explicitly. Saves time... ;)

[peachblossomluck]

Some guys can't handle it and I mean most guys. Some can, very few.

[whyisitso]

Straight guys in general are bad at being just platonic friends with any girls.

[Jaiyde29]

They can be friends but that won't stop them from trying

[TsundereMatrix]

For some guys that’s hard but it definitely can happen.

[Anonymous]

I have several Quagmires in my life who have expressed their desires for me for many years. We're just friends and I intend to just keep it that way. They know it and have accepted it.

[FMJ_Guy]

When Harry Met Sally!! Watch it!! The answer is there!!

[ThePetSquirrel]

I have a couple female friends that are gorgeous, but I wouldn't ever date because I've known them since I was in elementary school. So yes, it's possible.

[drafted]

The question/responses seem to think/presume *physical* attraction defines whether you can resist pursuing someone romantically, or I may be overthinking.

[icare370]

Yes. My best friends is simply but a hot girl. We get along really well, we've had many personal even intimate conversations and while i find her attractive, even told her and constantly check her out, she doesn't mind. I thought about taking it further but i think there are more advantages to being friends. It's just one of the best and open friendships i've had. We're both huge dog lovers and have dogs which i think just makes it better. I wouldn't trade the friendship with a relationship.

[bubble_tea]

Yes, but just on surface level. Rarely do they want to be besties.

[Prankster13]

Yes of course! How can I be anything else to her? Lol

[pitzi]

I'd say yes because most of my guy friends have admitted to find me attractive but we're fwwweinds

[rhody]

Yes, I am friends with a beautiful woman who is definitely a head turner.. been friends for years and nothing change

[Myrdices]

I mean I got plenty of female friends
Granted I'm a horn dog and given the opportunity I absolutely would not hold back but that's just me there's plenty of guys out there with self control

[Joker8]

They can definitely be on the outside... but instincts are uncontrollable so they might have some thoughts every now and then but not necessarily any actions so yes and no if that makes sense

[shybee97]

A man can have a platonic friendship with an attractive female, yes.

[Pftpftpft]

If you're in it just for the looks and nothing else, the relationship may not last very long. Because if your personalities don't resonate they'll just move on to the next boy/girl higher on the scale of attractiveness.

[Introvert94]

For me, if she's pretty I can be friends with her, but if I find her attractive and I'm single, I'm always going to pursue.

[smartassdroid]

Only of she has a boyfriend or is married. I've got great friendships with beautiful women, but i fuck the single ones too. Because life is short and why the hell not.

[LittleSally]

Those that are in stable loving relationships can...
I'd like to believe single guys can too, but a lot of the times I'm proven wrong...
(Sometimes not, though... so it depends on the people.)

[Aassem]

It's possible, but it's gonna need a lot of will-power in the beginning. Then as you get used to her, the friendship can become more natural. It's possible, but it's difficult.

[LittleRedKat]

In my experience I have found that most guys that I'm friends with try to be more. But there are a few who can be just friends, especially if they're gay 😂😂

[Iron_Man]

Only if they are not attracted to each other. Also once you have dated it'll never work out

[boulshyte]

he would probs hit on her then the girl would say wtf we r friends *awkward silence* then both parties would brush it under the rug forever.

[dinocro]

It is not just about the looks in the relationship. Maybe they are not compatible for relationship but are friends (and if she is hot hahah)

[Anonymous]

Of course. This question is asked almost every day for some reason and I don't know why. Being attracted to someone isn't enough to consider dating them, and I wouldn't sleep with my friends without marriage.

[FlamingPhoenix]

Of course, I have hundreds of mixed girls and guys friends. Some of them might be considered physically attractive, but I’m personally not attracted to them (and no I’m straight)

[Anonymous]

Yeah but will always be waiting to see if she will change her mind and want more than friendship especially if she is attractive unless he is gay then you won’t have to worry

[JSmuve]

Yes, if
1) he's gay/asexual
2) doesn't find you attractive
3) has a girlfriend who's hotter than you