How can you determine your level of attractiveness?

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I don't know where I stand at all because guys almost never approach me and of the few most have been narcissistic or just wanted sex from me, most aren't even really attractive to me. Also the way guys in my community are, you can't feel special because it's like they talk to anyone. I've seen some of the girls they talk to.
I have seen generally unattractive women dressed plainly get guys talking to them, even out of car windows. I've seen basic looking girls get talked to, and guys call them "bad" even though they re not.

Here are some things that occur:
-Walking down the street some men honk
-some have slowed down
- I've heard people call me different terms used for attractive
-ive received grades in school from male teachers that I didn't work for (I saw this mentioned as an experience others have)
-family and family friends call me pretty (although they can be biased or tell you it just because)
-I work in schools and the younger boys and teens seem to like to hit on me
-ill hear people calling me pretty or whatever and trying to stare without me noticing
-ive seen people's behavior change around me
- I walked down the street one day and a group of guys just hung & stared out the window at me
Sometimes I notice people's reactions but I second guess it as something else because the men in the community/ culture are usually shitty and can be rude. So I don't want to mistake disgust as interest.

I just don't know if I'm really pretty because there are less attractive girls getting guys talking to them left and right. While I'm just here. I don't know if it's that I look like I could be about 14 or I look "unapproachable". On the bright side a guy that was an 7.5-8 thought I was cute.

ChurchOfIron · Accepted Answer

Guys view around 80% of women as acceptably attractive. How you know your range within that is a good question.

I disagree with the idea that "everyone views beauty differently". Beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, but the beholders are human--and we have the same general structure, hence why most of us do not look like tigers or horses. Commonalities. There are definitely generally attractive people. We put them on the movie screen for a reason. It's more true for men than it is women, since women have a wider range. But most men can agree on generally attractive traits.

For instance, facial symmetry is something humans view as attractive. You can get it measured. There are also apps for it which gauge various characteristics. Dunno how accurate they are, but that's an option. A computer algorithm will probably be able to tell you if you're objectively attractive or not. Though, I wouldn't put 100% stock into it.

Women also judge male physical attractiveness on a negative curve, so that 7.5-8 guy is probably more like a 10. And if a 10 viewed you like that, you can prolly be pretty sure you rank fairly high.

Generally speaking, people treat attractive people better. So there's that. You could also examine how you are treated in contrast to ugly people.

Boppy · Accepted Answer

I don't know how attractive I am, either. Looking in the mirror doesn't show anything.

I haven't had people act in the ways you mentioned, and I only ever got a compliment on my appearance one time, from a scammer who said I had beautiful eyes, and one time from an aunt who said I have nice legs.

I tried using photofeeler. com, but that sent me down the rabbit hole of portrait photography. With photos, the artistic skill of the person taking the photo matters a lot, maybe more than the person's appearance in real life.

Lauren2019 · Accepted Answer

If you’re getting more attention than most people around you, that means you’re above average in physical attractiveness. Guys might just assume that you already have a boyfriend, or that you’re stuck up, or that you’re high maintenance, or they’re intimidated by your attractiveness so they don’t approach you. If they’re intimidated, smiling at them will make them feel much less intimidated and one of them will likely approach you, especially if you’re by yourself and not surrounded with other women. If guys just want to have sex with you, that’s a HUGE sign that you are attractive. Men will not approach ugly women just to have sex with them. Men don’t give unnecessary attention to ugly women. They just don’t. Men give unnecessary attention to pretty women.

Fanme · Accepted Answer

I think you're either commercially attractive or not, but however you look you'll be ugly to some and hot to others.
Ever seen an ugly guy your friend thinks is nice? It's like that.
But really most people are average, that's thy its called average.

cavmanier · Answer

When I was younger, I had quite a few attractive girls initiate interest in me so that made me think I wasn't ugly at least. Another thing that helped a lot was when I was your age I put photos of myself on a rating site where no one knew me (so they don't lie to be nice) and I got an average score that told me a lot. I recommend trying the rating site out. Don't do it on this site though because people would give their rating when having contact with you. A site where they just click numbers makes it anonymous.

Ayer93 · Answer

Attractiveness is subjective. When you go from one country to another and even different cities within those countries you'll find differences in what the majority of people in those regions tend to be attracted to. There are many factors that play on what we're attracted to. Experiences in our lives, what kind of features people have around us growing up, what the media portrays as attractive, peers opinions, etc. If you look at different time periods you'll notice pretty big differences in the ideal man or woman's shape.

Right now the standard for what is attractive in the modern American society is displayed all over the media. Generally sharp facial features, captivating eye colour and lips that aren't overly large or thin.

Bigfappa · Answer

its hard to tell cos a lot of guys could think ur pretty, but then it turns out they jus have really bad judgement and ur actually ugly and those guys think ugly girls are pretty,
the most reliable way is to find out is to look at ur self in the mirror or a picture and try to visualise urself as is if u was looking at another girl and not u, then what u would think of that girl... if she's pretty / ugly / average.. etc, etc

also a lot of pictures u look different some look ugly, some look good, so that makes it even more frustrating... the best thing to do is to take a picture of 1 of ur friends who u think is pretty and 1 who u think is ugly and stand inbetween them both, then take the picture and anazlyse urself to see where u stand on the attraction scale

fueledbythc · Answer

im having a hard time staying single these days. women are "scared" to approach me in the sense like how men would approach a girl but i see the way how women come across to me. this week showed my level of attraction espeically to Asian and arab women. i got a new job and had two Asian women as my trainers for the class and from the get go one of them was extremely shy and the other one kept staring at me intensely and wouldn't stop staring.

I've had a girl straight up call me handsome right when she first saw me to getting my ass grabbed on public transit. my first girlfriend once she got to know my personality, she threw herself at me and went for me so hard.

i personally think im ugly as fuck looks wise but its my personality and demeanor that attracts women.

LokiWhite · Answer

It is so ridiculously subjective, you honestly would not believe. There is a brilliant channel on youtube called CUT and they do one video where people say how many people they have dated/ had sex with, and the guy who had the most successful dating life was a short fat hairy dude, and he was fucking rocking it in the dating world. There is no legitimate scale of attractiveness, there is just too many ways a human could look to rank them.

Passinggas · Answer

I still don't know your objective with this question. Are you looking for attention from the most guys possible? Sex? Relationship? I go for average women because they are either the most responsive or picking me up. I have seen it too many times; this girl looking for the ideal prince fantasy love affair while the rest of the world is passing them by. If you just want to know if you are attractive, what is the point if you are never going to use it?

eshedd · Answer

It all depends on the dude, I like a girl how dresses in causal clothes compared to dresses and makeup, I like girls with glasses and blues eyes the most, freckles, and longer hair. But that’s just my ideal girl in my head and those are features I’m most attracted to, I do make exceptions at times. All guys are different, we all have different preferences and what we are attracted to, just like you girls are. Attractiveness is realitive

ariadneR · Answer

It's hard because everyone had their own idea of beauty. What is ugly to one is beautiful to another- hence the sayings "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and "and another man's trash, is another man's treasure"
You have to believe that you are pretty and gorgeous and then it will come from their. It will shine out of you and everyone will be able to see it.

Hawky_ · Answer

Post a picture I'll tell you.
I spend a lot of time looking at attractive females because I work in pictures for a fairly well known magazine. The world is awash with attractive women and those that aren't we "enhance". Not all are attractive on the inside tho. Achieve that and you truly will be beautiful

rgb008 · Answer

Looking at myself Attention from men What type of compliments I receive (looks vs anything else).

Alpha09 · Answer

I tend to go by how attractive the person I'm seeing is. Not so much numbers. But attractiveness can be subjective so do we really know?

TheThinker92 · Answer

I don't know its weird. Sometimes ill attract a bunch of girls everywhere i go, sometimes ill attract no girls at all

Just_a_human · Answer

I genuinely believe that a person can tell how attractive they are by looking in the mirror.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Attraction is very individualized. I look at lists of the allegedly most beautiful women on the planet and rarely see anyone I'd give a second look. Then I see women whom people call "average" and I find them very appealing.

zagor · Answer

Why does it matter? You don't want a shitty, rude guy, do you? Go to places where you can meet a better quality of man, do activities that involve active, together people. You don't have to be a supermodel to get a guy.

Clarity01 · Answer

Guys find different things attractive. My guy friends were talking about celebrity crushes and were sometimes surprised by each other's tastes

BeHappy1985 · Answer

Post your face and let the roasting begin. But the easiest way is to set up a dating profile. If you get 1-5 likes per day you're ugly, 10-50 your average, 50+ above average, 500+ you're so hot your ass is on fire.

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

Don't over complicate it. It's simple, just ask members of the opposite sex, whom you trust to be impartial for their ratings. That's what I did!

Sugisaky · Answer

Is mostly the vibe one have, some people look angry all the time and others just easy to talk too, maybe your looks too I mean 14... yeah nope

Anonymous · Answer

A picture of you would help. You can ask this question again in the "How do I look?" category. Leave out the details about how "men in your area" approach just about anyone.

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