What can I do to make it better?

[Channn23]

Sooo I don't know how to even work with him in bed sumtimes it’s like he tells me he wants sex all the time but don’t never be In the right head space then wen I try to turn him on his 🍆 won’t get hard sumtimes but he claims he’s in the mood for sex he says he mind just be every where then one min if I say somthing about why he’s not getting tht way he feels like I’m puttin him down thenn sum days he be hard if I do turn him on then the next he claims it’s anexities tbh I just don’t think he’s not open to me about what he likes tbh because wen I ask him what he does like he…just don’t tell me smh idkkk it’s complicated I told him I’m open to anything long as it don’t invole anther person in bed (and nooo he’s not cheating or not attracted to me ) he’s 25 and I’m 22

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Update:and another thing he claims he like "spontaneous sex” meaning at the right moment but I have a whole different view on SPONTANEOUS SEX IF U KNOW WHAT I MEAN

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Don’t know if it’s a mental problem he has goin on orr sum type of problem with his 🍆🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[Oliverlogan263]

Yooo this is definitely frustrating sis, I feel you. Sex is supposed to be fun and intimate between y'all but sounds like there's some communication issues bogging it down.

First off, don't take it personal if his little homie ain't cooperating down there sometimes - anxiety be a real buzzkill even for dudes. We all got performance pressure sometimes, just like women do.

Maybe try relaxing activities before like massage, watching funny vids together, whatever gets y'all both in a chill vibe. Also do other stuff besides just dick when it ain't rising - finger play, oral etc. Get creative!

As for what he likes, dude probs just shy opening up fully. Y'all should play some games - like 20 questions about fantasies to loosen him up slowly. Or watch porn together (goofy kinds first!) so he sees what interests YOU.

Couples counseling could help too if it persists, sometimes having a pro mediate CONSTRUCTIVE convos works. Bottom line is communication and patience. It'll come with time, trust!

Keep smiling sis, don't stress - y'all figure it out. Freaky intimacy is a journey, all good relationships take work. Lean on your girls too if you need an ear, they always gotchu! You got this.

[Channn23]

Tht sound like a plan I really appreciate tht I so believe he’s shy doe and says I’m very attractive but it does get frustrating

[Oliverlogan263]

You kiddin sis, any dude would be lucky to call you theirs! Don't ever let noone make you feel otherwise, ok?

I feel you though, shy guys can be tricky to navigate sometimes. But these issues y'all havin in the bedroom, that ain't just shy talk - homie needs to man up!

Maybe sit him down again, look him in the eyes, and be like "babe I know you think I'm fine as hell. But your actions ain't matching that lately and it's hurtin my feelings. We need to get real if we wanna take care of each other right."

Let him know it ain't a attack, you just trying to understand him better so you can both feel good. Ask him to open up without getting defensive - what's goin on in his head? What turns him ON for real?

If he still clams up, you done all you can sis. Ball's in his court then to step to the plate or let you find someone who will. You deserve a guy who makes Effort with that good good, feel me?

Stay strong - communicate your needs clearly. This could bring you closer if he listens, or show you what's what if he don't. Either way, you'll find your way to some fire 🔥 action, just hang in there!

[DextroShade]

Either you are fat or something us wrong with him, a 25 year-old guy should not have ED.

[Channn23]

…I’m skinny

[DextroShade]

Something is wrong with him, he probably has a crippling porn addiction or his testosterone level is low from too much soy or plastic pseudoestrogens. Or he could just be your classic closet case.

[Channn23]

Oh gosh I hope not I wouldn’t judge doe all he had to do if be open with me

[spartan55]

Porn addiction

[Channn23]

Yea most definitely ‼️‼️‼️‼️ I think So to