What can I do to make it better?

[artsy_dragon]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a few years and live together. I go to uni and work part time and he works full time so yes he pays for most of the bills.

I pay half the rent but by the time that goes through I have $100 for the rest of the month. This is for travel etc. I said it was okay for me not to get a present this year for me.

He said that was okay. He then starts looking at bb guns and said "you didn't say anything about not getting me a present, you can add it to what you owe me" I understand where he is coming from but it was they way he said it.

I've not even paid off his present from last year nor his birthday. I've said that I would pay him back and he knows I will it is just a matter when I have money. I've already spoken to him about it and he goes into a fit. I can't be bothered arguing anymore.

Just ignore him? Am I over reacting? Also I have no idea where he has pulled the idea of I owe him $2,000 from. I don't know anymore, all this talk about money is making me tired.

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I know how repetitive this is getting, trust me. I've only had my account for a few months and over half is about my boyfriend. I want to break this awful pattern but I've come to the conclusion that I can't bring back a dead relationship nor change someone 😔

[SnowedIn]

Oh Artsy. My heart hurts. Relationships aren't about accounting. The money is never equal and shouldn't be.

Honestly, I'm with @LazerBean on this one. I know you've talked about your feelings for him and I respect that. But, there isn't a single post where any of us have heard that he has done one thing -- not one -- that demonstrates care or concern or love or anything good/nice about or to you. Maybe time to abandon ship and embrace Artsy and care for Artsy?

[artsy_dragon]

I know you're all right but it is hard

[SnowedIn]

It is hard. And it's easy for me to say when I'm sitting at my desk with fresh coffee and sunshine. But the advice is still valid. Take care of you.

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[Andres77]

$2000 is a lot to just make up. He needs to justify that number. You're in a tight spot. I don't know how much you're each bringing in and all the expenses.

Are you hoping to get married to this kid? Is this the guy you want teaching your son how to treat women and your daughter how to want to be treated?

Use that as a lens through which to reevaluate your relationship and potential future.

I hope you find what you need.

[LazerBean]

Sounds like he is setting you up for domestic slavery. I'd personally move back in with my parents and send him whatever money you think you own him, that's a dead end relationship.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he's not taking into account that you are essentially a student and on less money. It's great you are paying half the rent. Forget the presents, you simply cannot afford them and I would definitely want to discuss his 2000. Get him to itemize it. You need to be smart and defend your budget.

[Anonymous]

Looks like he doesn't have any sense of understanding.
You deserve someone better that's all I can say.

[Anonymous]

I assume he was the one who asked you out and hit on you

[artsy_dragon]

No we were friends before. We pretend to date to make our exs jealous and things went from there

[Opinion Owner]

Just making a sarcastic assumption due to my lifelong resentment of that guys have to be the initiators