How to move on?

[Anonymous]

This guy and I went on several dates and we liked each other and I thought he wanted to have more until one day he said he wasn't attracted to me, he said it wasn't anything I did and that it was the best time he's had in a long time, if that's the truth why would he give up so easily bc my heart is broken right now I feel he can move on like nothing even mattered but maybe he just wabted sex

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you’re heartbroken, but definitely an array of other emotions. Hurt, used, discarded, disappointed, it’s ok to let yourself feel these things so that you can heal and move on. Dwelling over your conversations with him, your chemistry and the future you wanted is counterproductive because it prevents you from accepting the reality of the present time. He just wasn’t the one, and I know you’re tired of going through all this and looking, but the right guy will come. Until then help yourself along the way. For instance, if sex isn’t just a means to an end and instead it’s your most vulnerable state, then be very picky about who you share that intimacy with. I stopped having sex until I was seriously dating the guy, which was about 4 months in.

[TruthBeTold77]

Girl it was just 7 dates. Glue your broken little heart pieces back together, spend some time focusing and working on yourself and when you've on forgot about him and started feeling great again then get back on the dating scene.

[BarryLiverstone]

I agree. But sounds like the asker doesn’t want to stop getting his attention.

[BarryLiverstone]

He gave up because he never intended to start a relationship. You move on by knowing that you had fun with him

[Asker]

But he talked about future events with me

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes, that’s common for people to share future dreams. Doesn’t mean he intended them with you

[Asker]

I was mentioned stuff he wanted to do with me I don't know he still talks sometimes with me

[BarryLiverstone]

Why do you let him talk to you?

[Asker]

I don't know I guess I have hope I know it's stupid

[BarryLiverstone]

Or is it that you like the attention he’s giving you?

[Asker]

Maybe both but more I want him

[BarryLiverstone]

You move on by realizing that right now you will never get today back.. if you waste time with him this year you never get 2023 back.

So do you really want him or do you actually want to connect with someone genuine and feel loved and safe? Honestly answer that and you can decide to stop wasting time and block him.