What does it mean when a guy gives you his number instead of getting yours?

[blunty]

This guy I've met in my friend's birthday gave me his number but he didn't even ask mine. Is he waiting for me to text him?

[acoustic]

When a guy gives you his number instead of asking for yours, it could mean a few things. Firstly, it might indicate that he's interested but wants to give you the space to decide if you want to reach out.

Secondly, it could be his way of showing respect for your autonomy and comfort. By offering his number, he's leaving the choice of whether to pursue anything up to you, ensuring you don't feel pressured or obligated to share your contact information.

Alternatively, he might just be a bit shy or cautious. Some people are more comfortable giving out their own number first as a way to gauge your interest. It's a subtle way of expressing interest without putting you on the spot.

In my opinion ultimately, the key is to pay attention to the context and how he behaves afterward. If he's responsive and engages in conversation when you do reach out, it's a positive sign that he's genuinely interested. It's all about creating a comfortable and respectful starting point for potential communication and getting to know each other better.

[DaveJord]

Okay, so when I give a woman my number or offer her my number, I am expecting her to offer me hers. If she takes my number and does not offer me hers, I assume she is just being polite, but otherwise, not interested.

Now I could of just asked her straight out for her number, but when you do that, you are really putting her on the spot, and if she is not sure in anyway its best not to do that to a woman. So, you give her your number and se she how she responses. If she does not offer me her number, then I assume she will either take some time to think about it, or she will text me on her own.

But when you put on her on the spot and ask her straight out can make her feel pressured or uncomfortable. If you ask and she says no, then the conversation is over. But if you give her number, then you can continue to talk and see if later she comes back around. Sometimes when you do not have a solid feel for her, it best to give time and space to come around to it at her own time and pace without any pressure or being put on the spot.

Bottom line, if she did not offer me hers, then I assume she is not comfortable with me. Which is fine, its completely understandable. If she never texts me, then I can say at least I gave her the opportunity. At the end of the day, if I give her my number or if I ask for her number, it's all on her, because I made my interest known. If she is put off by that or thinks I should have asked for hers instead of me giving her mine, then she is not someone I would vibe with anyway. Because if she wanted me to have her number, she would of giving it to me, because I afforded her the opportunity to do so, and she did not pick up on it or was not interested.

[Fireguy17]

that way it's on you.
If you call great, if not there will always be someone else.
he probably has gotten tired of getting the number for a pizza place, fake number, or just blown off because it was a polite thing to give them a number instead of saying, I'm sorry I really do not have any interest in seeing you again.
Which really would be very refreshing to hear.

[Ozanne]

Romantic possibilities aside, when you are in a position where you give your number and not get one in return, the other person receiving the number is in a power position, and you never know what you're going to get. They either will or won't call/text you, and there's really nothing you can do about it.

I have two female connections who I've learned are not friends, but fail at communicating (with me). They're the "let's do lunch" flakes. The type who talk about getting together, but never do. One is a neighbour who I know where she lives, and must habitually go to her home and knock on her door to speak to her about anything. The other is an old contact from college who I've bumped into twice, with promises broken of getting together.

Because of these two flake balls, I decided a long time ago that if someone asks me for my number, before giving it, I get theirs also. If they refuse, it's telling -- therefore I in turn I will refuse.

I'm married, so this won't happen with men at this point in my life, but if I ever found myself single again, I would do the same thing. I will not let someone leave me hanging. If they are that insistent about getting my information, they should be accommodating enough to give me theirs in return or instead.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he got fake girl's numbers before and he wanted to make sure you two can keep talking

[coachTanthony]

He wants you to lead the interaction which is a shit move if you ask me. Men should pursue not the other way around.

[msc545]

Why should men take the risk?

[coachTanthony]

@msc545 Let's not hash this out all over again. You know why because he's the man. Men lead and go after what they want in life. Women, finances, excellence. This is the problem with many men who have problems with women they are timid and women can smell it.

[msc545]

A lot of men have died early painful deaths because of this attitude. I would hope you would be more enlightened than this.

[coachTanthony]

A lot of men have died at the hands of alcohol or a drunk driver …why aren’t you protesting vehicles on the road or Jack Daniel’s? Because people like you pick and choose what is bad for men because it’s personal for you. Just because some men can’t hack it doesn’t mean most men should follow. Imagine a man taking advice from another man who has failed in life and does nothing but complain …no thanks. And that wasn’t directly to you just in general

[msc545]

I am entitled to pick and choose as I wish for whatever reasons I choose, just as you are. Your objections to my choices is personal and business-related for you. I don't advise people to do things that are psychologically or financially harmful. And that wasn’t directly to you just in general - take it for what you think its worth.

[coachTanthony]

@msc545 I don't advise anybody on anything that I haven't already done. I am 5'7 bald and slightly overweight. I am not some guy who is a virgin over here telling others to do things I haven't. You think I am the only short avg dude that has success with women? No there are plenty of us out there and I won't allow a man to give up for shitty reasons. Sure there are one offs where the man is doomed I get it but even if that doomed guy tried to better himself he would be much happier then trying to recruit others to make him feel better of his decisions. So again we agree to disagree on this. Remember this isn't binary. I understand some men are doomed but doesn't mean my message stops because of the few that won't make it.

[msc545]

Ok, but th problem with your message is that you may be encouraging men to do things that wil harm them...

That said, I assume you assess the probability of success before dispensing advice?

[coachTanthony]

Bartenders don’t tell customers they’ll die of liver cancer if they drink too much before serving them …they are hoping the customer does there due diligence. Your argument can be made for any industry …. I’m not selling anything all I do is say here’s what I’ve done and clients have done.

[msc545]

I think its a bit different for men who are looking for women - many of them don't realize what the hazards are. You do.

[coachTanthony]

@msc545 With the internet at their finger tips they don't know? Do they care to know? Why are we taking away personal responsibility for people and putting in on others?

[msc545]

I think denial has a lot to do with it. They seem to literally not know what can happen to them. Denial would explain that. You do know of course.

[coachTanthony]

@msc545 Problem is you act as if MOST men are in denial or need some kind of rescuing... I don't. It's really that simple.

[msc545]

I don't think it's simple at all. It is very nuanced, but I think it is important for men to at least realize that at least some women do not have their best interests at heart and may act as if they do. I think your expertise as a dating coach implies some duties in this regard.

[coachTanthony]

@msc545 You act as if I am telling men to just blindly trust ALL women. It's not hard to understand there are bad people in the world and you need to be careful. If I have to say that to someone then they are in a world of hurt.

[msc545]

I don't think you are doing that, but you know full well that desire blinds judgment.

[Lionman95]

He might be too insecure to ask for your conversation. Maybe give start the conversation and take a look if he gets comfortable to take the lead from that on. If not he's probably not ready for a relationship or not that interested in you as he first estimated.

[ManOnFire]

Sometimes guys will give their number because they're scared to ask the girl for hers, scared that she'll turn him down, or even scared of the lie she might give him. But I always tell dudes do not give a woman your number if she won't give you hers, and if she does, ring it right in front of her.

[Anonymous]

Just a thought, but maybe he is trying to be polite and non-threatening. Yes, it does put the onus on you to call him.

However, on the flip side, he is not asking you for something that is private. He is giving you the chance to express interest and not put you in the difficult position of giving him a number that you might not want to give him.

Frankly, although a bit unconventional, I would view it as polite and well intentioned. It speaks well of him.

[zagor]

He may want to give you the option so that you will feel safe as he won't have your contact info initially. If a girl is ambivalent at the moment and not sure about the guy, him giving her his number gives her the chance to think it over instead of making a snap decision yea or nay. So it is actually a very considerate thing to do.

This is the true answer, not what other people said.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Im not going to post a long drawn out opinion like everyone else so im going to say my thoughts in one sentence. I feel that giving a girl your number gives her the option to engage with you and it gives her time to make a decision instead of putting her on the spot.

[AviatorTom]

He's taking the old chivalry route. By giving you his number, he gives you the option of you giving him your number, which he Hope's you will do.

If you like the guy, text him... that will give him your number.

[CatVader]

It means instead of taking the ball, he is giving you the ball.
so it becomes your initiative if you are interested or not.
this is also to not be pushy and waste his time if you are not interested

[BoopBoopBeep]

Yep. Too many women give out fake numbers to guys they aren't interested in. If you're not into it enough to call/text me I'm not wasting that slot on you.

[Anonymous]

He wants to know whether you have the interest and the courage to do what women typically expect men to do. It's no different than you giving him your number, except it will force YOU to be the one to act, and if you don't he'll have his answers about you.

[ProbablyClueless]

Of course he's waiting for you to text him... there's no other reason to give someone your number. He didn't ask for your's because he wants you choose whether you want to be in touch with him or not.

[Anonymous]

yeah. dude has probably went through so much rejection, he's just hoping someone else will start it so he knows that the girl is actually interested if she texts him first.

if you're not interested in dating him, don't text.

[serious]

Well, I think he has put the ball in your court. Means he has left the decision to you to decide if you wish to text him or not.

[DarkWinterNights]

Something I might consider doing. If you don’t call or text then he doesn’t waste any of his time or money. If you do then there might be something there.

[sage2021]

At least you won't be starring at the phone ☎️ waiting for him to call 🙂

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, he's dialing every number combination possible until he stumbles on yours randomly and you answer 🙄

Yes he's waiting for you to contact him...

[LiamJHayden]

A lot of women are understandably reticent about giving their numbers to strangers. Giving her his number tells her he is interested but not pushy.

[ginger_snap]

Yes, he's putting it in your hands to decide whether to connect. He is waiting / wants you to ping him.

[Finchie40]

LOL what do you think? If he doesn’t have your number , how would he contact you first lol

[ronaldo75]

He doesn't have time for games, begging and chasing by asking You for your number. He gives you his number and that's that, you might call... you might not... it's up to you.