My boyfriend makes no sense
We were about to meet at his house tomorrow, with me staying for the night
I sent him good night kiss and said "see you tomorrow"
To which he responds:"ill pass tomorrow babe. Nobody lets me have some rest, not even you. We are not meeting at my place. If you want we go to yours"
I say"ok i just check with my mom"(i live woth mom)
He says:"no, leave your mom alone. we can have a walk, becaue i dont want to stay at my house. I need some space and sone rest"
Well im confused:he doesn't want to stay at his house but says needs space but doesn't want to stay at ny house
Wtf
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Maybe you’re smothering him with needing his time or attention. A general amount is fine, he is your boyfriend after all, just don’t overdo it, as people still have boundaries/limits. If he’s feeling overwhelmed and wants a bit of space, that’s ok, just be clear about what that entails. Like if he wants to see you tomorrow instead so he can be alone today, that’s fine and it’s healthy.
But i wasn't bothering him whole day!!!
He was the first who sent me a messages"babe look i changed a pic of us 2 on whats" before he went to work
I sent him"babe have great day, i won't annoy you with messages , you text me when you can"
It was like 9.50
Then at 15.00 or so i sent him funny tik tok
And then at 21.00 i sent good night kisses and "see you tomorrow thing"
He was angry at his friend who apparently messed up his phone.
And he is taking his rage on me, i did nothing bad yo him
Im not annoying and very careful with his spaces and to be alone time
I always respect that
by the way
When he said:"you won't let me have rest"
I said:"ok no prob. have a nice rest, good night"
I was done👍🏽
But its Him who came back at me:"if you want we can meet at your house" (knowing damn well my mother situation😤)
Its all weird from every angle you look at it
It doesn’t sound like you’re trying to bother him, you hardly sent or said anything. I don’t know how every other day plays out with your interactions, but clearly something about it has caused him to say what he said. In which case if I were you I’d be asking if he’s interested in a relationship right now, and if he is then what exactly is he asking for? Because I think if you did any less you wouldn’t speak at all, which obviously isn’t ok.
What do you think would make his say you aren’t giving him rest? Are you together and/or talking often? Aside from him asking for this space of course, I mean prior.
Another weirs stuff he says he wants to be left alone and have rest because he works hard and wants his space
But says he doesn't want to stay at his house... what sense does it make?
He also doesn't want to bother my mom and stay at mine, so he says maybe go somewhere else because he doesn't want to be at his house
Ill keep you updated tomorrow lol
How can i undersrand that?
My boyfriend is a psycho lmao😂
I think he is mad at his friend
He said "everytime i try to rest i get messages, its bullshit..."
I feel like others Warmed him up and made him angry (he is short temper and impulsive) and i was the cherry on top and he took it on me😒
But im damn girlfriend... i should not get this retarded reactions, dont you think?
He acts like im the love of his life at the morning
At night he "needs space"🤡
I agree, that’s why I think it would be good to clarify with him like what does he mean about wanting space? As a boyfriend, he doesn’t get to just check out, he has to communicate and tell you wtf is going on lol you’re not a mind reader. Even if it is him being mad at his friend, repeat with me: you are no one’s punching bag. You’re not there to take the brunt of his anger and short temper, you’re there to support, listen, and give advice if he wants it. But all this is just not ok, and why specifically space at night? What happens if you lived together one day, you know?
Yeah... i really start to question everything
No he wanted space tomorrow
We didn't plan to meet tonight
All this was about tomorrow meeting
I understand like when he wants space, the question is why. If I were you and being labeled as one of these people who don’t let him rest, it would make me feel like a burden, because what else can that mean? He needs to be clearer about all this.
If im so bad and dont let him rest why change picture of us and tell me that
He talk to me first many times
Update:he canceled😁
Said:"good morning. I want to have a rest and to clean my house. And see football later, we will meet during the week. Have a nice day"
I wished him good day as well.
Im out.
Wtf is that
BS that’s what that is smh I’d be done. I don’t know what’s wrong with him and needing rest or whatever but if I’m part of the problem let me offer a solution.
If i am the problem i was the fucker be honest
And stop talking nonsense to me as yesterday, fucking embarrassing
Whats more hurt me is when he said"eveytime i pick up my phone, the fucking audacity in sending me texts"
Like... he is blaming me and others i suppose to send him so many messages he can't rest.
not even this hysteria about where we meet, his house cannot be (that was weird too) mine not aswell
And finally he stayed at his house he said he didn't want to
I mean... i date him for 2 years and 5 month. He NEVER had ANY picture on his whats.
He uses whats a lot espwcially for work and his friends. For him putting our picture was a really big deal. He put1 pic las week and yesterday morninr he changed to another, better one. We do look good there.
So what i dont get is if for him having my picture there is like screaming to the world :this is My woman
And then he trrats his woman like this, canceling
I dont understand
Putting your picture on WhatsApp is not the flex you think it is, it’s bare minimum and honestly within nearly 3 years it should’ve been posted ages ago. He posted it because he knows he’s an asshole and trying to manipulate you into staying, but please don’t take that as romantic or heartfelt— that is toxic, it’s not cute or desirable. It’s a child’s game. Whatever he’s going through, I’d be done making it my problem. You can’t love him into changing or having different views, so why put yourself through being a punching bag? Then dismissing it as ‘he’s just my psycho boyfriend🤪’ lol no offense babe but no! You don’t want that shit.
Our relationship is more complicated we were working together
And dating
And hiding for not being fired
So it was lots of preassure, lots of stress
I got fired eventually a month ago
Now thats why he put a pic we are not coworkers anymore
Our ex boss sees the pic its kinda fuck you to her and to all te people who tried to seprate us , destroy us and start shit among us... ohhhh its soo so much deep you can't even imagine
Im planing to break up with him
He is getting paranoid and scares me
Ful
Ohh okay, makes sense, but damn 3 years of a secret relationship? That’s a lot. I think finding a new person and having a better start would be nice. You deserve that much!
Yeah im getting tired
I dont need thi shit
His mental or drug /drunk problems are not my problems
Im tired repeating the same shit
Exactly, you’ve put up with a lot from him only for him to act like this it’s not cool. He wants space so bad, let him have it and enjoy your life. There’s too many men in this world to settle for bs!
He sent me
"Morning😘"
... i respended with the same
Thats all communication for today
No asking how am i
No more explanation
He goes 18 house without talking to me
Sents me morning
Then goes other 10 hours no talking to me
So he’s basically fine going 10-18 hours not speaking with you, cancelling your dates, saying he needs space, the man is a coward who can’t end thing’s properly so he’s pushing you to do it.
Why he sends me morning 😘
It makes no sense
We date for 2,5 yeara... not months
I dont get it
I plan to ignore him
I ordered some stuff for him from shein a week ago
When i get it
Ill message hey when can i come leave you your stuff
Because its gona be this week
Im so sad and confused and vurt it suck so much😭
Girl... he called me we talked for like 2 hours said he is sorry he was a cunt
Now even sent me a picture of his food
I would need a break from you too.
Wtf
Why he posted my picture, today, as his profile on whats then?