What does it mean when guys always throw themselves onto you immediately when you meet them for a date?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating (for the first time) and I have noticed that when I speak to them on the phone and text them - no red flags. But as soon as we meet face to face and they see me; I can immediately see that a switch inside of them happens and their whole persona changes and they immediately start throwing themselves at me. From physically groping me as we are greeting each other to kissing me within minutes of introducing each other. I’m very shy, quiet and introverted by nature and it takes a long time for me to get comfortable and warmed up. I don’t throw myself at them or present my body in a specific way to invite such behaviour. I’m fully aware that they’re attracted to me and vice versa or we wouldn’t be meeting. But this is the first date and I tell them before hand to not to do anything and how my only intention right now is to get to know them. how do I stop them from throwing themselves at me or at least give me a brief perspective to why this always happens?

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I always meet them in public places.

[SueShe]

You obviously give unwillingly this signal that men can touch and be up close and personal with you. Perhaps that you behave in such a way that they misunderstand it as an invitation to be too close to you.

You should make it very clear from the start that you will not tolerate any infringement on your privacy and that would include touching you inappropriately, kissing you, holding your hand or even hugging you without your specific consent.

Also, ensure that they understand that you will not allow any intimacy on the first date and that they should refrain from even asking questions that are too private.

This way, you make it clear that you have your boundaries and that they should respect them.

[Chayce]

Holy smokes are you a lawyer? That’s the first time I’ve heard infringement without it being related to a legal case lmao

[StephiC]

They're horny and have poor self control.
They want sexual gratification and to usenyour body for it.
A lot of men get left in the dating pool for a reason. It gets harder as you get older to find q decent guy because the concentration of trash increases

[eagle1951]

meet in a public place or have them over at a friends place if you don't want them to know where you live

[eagle1951]

next thing carry a newspaper a hit um on the nose if the start lol

[Wise4myage]

Desperation?

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

They're horny

[In_Trance]

Wants to smash