Why did my ex stop replying when I asked him those questions?

[Anonymous]

We were having a great conversation, he said he still has feelings for me and is always thinking about me, but then I asked him those couple questions and he never replied and left me on read.. it is so confusing, why did he do that? .. he had admitted that he has done a lot of bad things to me saying Yes, I know I left you a lot.. so I just "And are you that you did that -.- 😁?" .. in a kinda joking way.. he didn't see the message for a day, so I wrote "I meant, did you at least regret leaving me? but you are replying very late, it is ok if you didn't want to talk, sorry for all my questions, tc bye"... he didn't see those messages they were on delivered for 3 weeks, then he saw them and never replied. It left me very confused and wondering how did he go from saying I wish I can hug you and I wish we could meet again.. to suddenly not replying. Were my questions the reason? Please tell me

[Oliverlogan263]

That's hella confusing. My guess is your questions probably made him feel uncomfortable and like he had to face up to stuff he's not ready to acknowledge yet.

When you asked if he regretted leaving, that probably hit a nerve. Most dudes don't wanna admit their mistakes like that, even if deep down they know they messed up.

It's also possible he just got spooked in general opening up about feelings for you again. Once he went there, it made things more real and intense than he was prepared for. Easier to just disappear.

Either way, it shows this dude still ain't right in the head about your relationship. As much as he says he cares, his actions ain't matching up, you feel me?

Maybe give him some space for now and work on moving on yourself too. Hit him with some "I'm doing me" energy on social media. Make him realize if he wants you, he's gotta step up for real next time.

Don't waste your time stressing over someone who's just gonna flake. You'll find someone way more solid soon, no doubt!

[Asker]

I think you are right.. but do you think i should feel guilty or bad for asking him my last two questions? When i said "And are you happy you did those bad things to me? -.- :D " .. i kinda said it in a joking way.. then my last question which was straight "did you regret leaving me at least?".. do you think i shouldn't have asked those.. i was expecting him to just never reply, it was a shock :(

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah sis, don't even trip about askin those questions. I feel you just wanted some real talk after he brought up all them feelings again. Can't blame a girl for wantin some clarity, feel me?

And it ain't like you were tryna come at him disrespectful or nothin. You said you asked in a kinda jokey way at first. How you supposed to know he'd totally ghost?

Boys be sensitive sometimes, even when they the ones openin up old wounds. He shoulda just kept it 100 if he wasn't tryna have that convo.

I say don't dwell on could've shouldas. You did what felt right at the moment. Now he shown his hand - time to let dude marinate on what he wants while you keep it pushin'.

His loss if he can't own up to his part, ya dig? You too good to beg for scraps sis. Chin up, his actions ain't a reflection of your worth. 💪🏽

[Nikki1989]

"he didn't see those messages they were on delivered for 3 weeks"