Did I strike a nerve or annoy him?

[Anonymous]

I was talking with my guy friend that I hadn't seen in like 10 years (we were friends since childhood but kinda went separate ways and lost touch) and was telling him about my ex fiance and was kinda ranting on about how guys don't want a nice, good girl, they all just want mean girls with attitudes and he went from staring right into my eyes to turning away and looking forward. To me it seemed as though he was annoyed or upset even though he was still listening but after seeing him react like that I apologized to him for venting and started talking about something else. I'm very certain he has strong feelings for me than more than just a friend, the signs are there so could it be that he was annoyed that I talked about my ex? He didn't turn away until I said "guys just want mean girls with attitudes" so not sure if I upset him. Either way, we talk and visit still so I'll take that as a good sign.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, it's hard to say for sure what was up with him turning away like that. A few things it could be:

- He might have feelings for you still and didn't want to hear about your ex. That line about guys wanting "mean girls" may have touched a nerve.

- Guys can get defensive if we feel like a girl is generalizing all men in a negative way. Even if it wasn't about him directly.

- Or maybe hearing you vent just made him uncomfortable since you broke up so long ago and things are different now between you two.

- It could also be completely unrelated - like he just got distracted by something else in the moment.

I wouldn't read too much into it, sis. The fact you're still talking and hanging shows there's no bad blood. If you wanna clear the air, maybe just casually bring it up next time - "Hey, was everything ok when I was venting the other day? You seemed kinda thrown off for a sec."

Gives him a chance to be honest if something did bother him, but takes the pressure off in case it was nothing. Keep things light and you'll be straight!

[HippoDino]

Im guessing he wants you, and when you say something like guys dont want nice women. He takes that personally since you basically are saying you aren't interested in him.

[Asker]

I never thought of it like that. The reason I said that was out of hurt because in the past when I've been very giving, it hasn't really been appreciated or reciprocated much. For example: I gave a gut some apple pie and he never even said a single word about it. I'm one of the most kind, caring, loving, soft big hearted girls out there but it seems to not be enough for some guys or it either scares them off. It seems that way anyway

[HippoDino]

Well when you say guys dont want a nice good girl like yourself, and when you say guys you mean guys you would be willing to date. Don't you see how if he likes you, he sees that as you basically saying you aren't interested in dating him?

[Asker]

I honestly never thought of ot that way, but we talk/visit. I do like him. I think there has always been a part of me that has always liked him, but was scared, but he is very sweet. He gave me a bracelet when we were 11 years old (a diamond bracelet) and he told hos best friend that we sat and talked until 3 in the morning lol and he has invited me over to his place which I have went and seen him, plus we hug when we say good bye. I'm just scared of having my heart broke again. A guy I liked ended ghosting me after I was so nice to him. Brought him apple crisp etc but he didn't even say a word, not even a thank you, but I know with this guy he's not like that, he even said "I don't scare easy" plus he been watching every single one of my snap stories for 2 years straight pretty much lol. I'm scared I might scare him off if I pour my heart out so I'm being careful. Thanks for your help.

[HippoDino]

That alone won't scare him off so don't worry.