How to be strong against so much hate and abuse from men?

[catarecute]

really struggling to stand up for myself with men. this site has really help me become better at it but i am still really weak.

[Anonymous]

For a start you don't need to deal with abusive men or anyone for that matter. Don't try and change someone, You are not weak, you are only weak cause you think by standing up to them, you can change them.

Before getting into any relationship with a man, take your time to find what he is like towards you.

If anyone is abusive towards you, at anytime during the relationship, just walk away from him. Kicking his ass, or getting into a good shouting match won't change him.

You deserve to be treated with respect, and if anyone treats less than that, you walk away from them, they are not worth your time.

People won't change for you, changes has come from within themselves.

Walking away from an abusive is not weak. I have myself had to deal with abusive friends, standing up to them doesn't work, the only thing that worked was walking away from them, and cutting them out my life.

Solution, walk away from abusive men, and also stop focusing on abusive men, its not a healthy mind set. Cause not all men are abusive, just same as not all women are abusive. Just about finding someone, who treats you the way you deserve.

[Opinion Owner]

www.youtube.com/watch?v=bCdFzjEuQrY&t=325s

A very good video to watch.

[Finchie40]

Just walk away , if someone is treating you like shit , putting you down, criticizing you and belittling you , the best thing to do is just walk away , and realize they mean nothing to you and they honestly shouldn’t mean anything to you period because they are nothing , so surround yourself with people that do appreciate you and care about you that want to bring positive and happiness into your life , kick out negativity and misery as much as possible , Not everyone on this Earth is going to like you and accept you , so best thing to do is just walk away and act like they don’t exist

[catarecute]

that's so true. thank you will definitely do that.

[Finchie40]

No problem , it’s something I learned to do as well , by doing so , I feel my life turned for the better. People that are judge mental that can waste their time and energy being rude and mean to someone else , are usually the ones that have the issues and insecurities about themselves , They are the type of people that thinks the world revolves around them , and the truth is they are nothing , so don’t listen to people that can put you down and criticize you and make you feel bad about yourself , because they are nothing , they are the ones that need a wake up call and realize their shit stinks just as bad as everyone else’s does , they are not better than anyone they are more than likely losers that only care about themselves

[SakuraBlossoms87]

Using GAG & saying all men - are hateful & abusive - this is like saying all Hispanics are car thieves and all African Americans are drug dealers. And has zero accuracy.

GAG is predominantly full of embittered individuals often with quite obvious personality issues (possible mental health problems) that are more adept at blaming everyone else for their own flaws or failures (with a handful of more decent folk).

It is an EXTREMELY poor example of what is normal behavior by men and women.

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Personally as someone who is medically trained I am concerned with your seemingly rather low self esteem. I am honestly suggesting you speak to your doctor for help.

You after all are getting overly upset about the "hate" and "abuse" - reality childish immature conduct & inability to act like adults - of what are complete strangers who'll you likely never meet in your life even if you are lucky enough to reach 150 years old.

[catarecute]

getting upset with abuse is healthy actually. someone who would not recognise abuse and not be upset by it would be unhealthy. no offence but i don't trust doctors. they misdiagnose people too often and nearly killed me twice with their mistakes. i stay well away from them.

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@catarecute - getting upset is normal. Your response is not. It screams of low self esteem and likely depressive personality.

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@catarecute - as for doctors making mistakes they are human. However, the majority of "mistakes" can be attributed to the patient not communicating properly. I've dealt with patients wherein a 5 year old could communicate better than someone in their 80s.

[catarecute]

yea ok i dont know if you are a doctor or not but i dont like how you are talking to me and telling me what to think of feel that is gaslighting. and sorry but blaming patient communication for all the mistakes made by doctors makes me think you can't be a doctor. what do you do if someone is autistic or has down syndrome? you seem like a troll tbh

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@catarecute - it's not gaslighting. My goodness. You do have some serious low self esteem / childish issues. As for people who are autistic - first off those with poor communication usually have a care taker - furthermore I've met people who ARE autistic who catch on better than you do.

[catarecute]

i dont know you and yet you caim you can read me. do you know my name? no do you know where i live? no do you know where i went to school? no you are a freak seriously you need to get a life

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@catarecute - of course I can read you. Your behaviour is extremely obvious to anyone who is medically trained. You have severely low self esteem that is why you are easily offended by the comments of others whereas people who aren't low self esteem / insecure really wouldn't be bothered and likely are depressive as well.

[catarecute]

i didn't ask for your diagnosis. i dont care if you are medically trained you can't just diagnose people online under a false account you have never met. there are laws against that. if you was really medically trained you would know that. you are a troll

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@catarecute - I'm not diagnosing you. Diagnosing requires a treatment plan. Please invest in a doctor's visit, as I said originally, to get a proper diagnois of obvious issues.

I am analyzing you. It's entirely different.

[catarecute]

you have issues even more serious than anyone on here. i dont know if you are my stalker under a false account but if you are stop stalking me and if you are not. you need to stop working in the health care sector. thank for reminding me why i dont trust doctors or waist my money on them. on this note dont reply to my comments cuz you are really toxic. if you reply one more time i will just block you tbh.

[FellowTraveler]

@SakuraBlossoms87 - I could not have said it better. While I acknowledge I have to work on myself, I am astonished at how similar most of the questions and responses on GAG. Whether the abuse is delivered by a man, or woman, it' still not a good idea to contend with any form of abuse. Just leave and be done with it.

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@catarecute - kindly stop indicating your mental health problems, this is the first time I've come across you on GAG so how can I be a stalker. Kindly get a dictionary or better yet a job

[Anonymous]

Do you find it hard to say how you feel? If you can do that you can take the next step which is setting boundaries and cutting them off the second they cross it. Im also someone who finds it hard to stand up for myself. Im a little better now but its still there. It feels good to stand up for myself finally. To let him know that im not as easy to fuck with as i was before. To be fair I've only had to do it with a guy i used to date. It took more than one time of verbal abuse before i could tell him to fuck off, but i did. I think if you realize that youve had enough, you learn how to not take shit. You just have to know that you’re worth more than how those boys are treating you. Little steps and patience with yourself goes a long way.

[Opinion Owner]

In a perfect world we would tell them to fuck off the very first time they disrespect us, but its not as easy as other people make it look.

[catarecute]

its not easy but i am getting there.

[coachTanthony]

Love your haters they're your biggest fans.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have had a very annoyingly dominant man stand on his knees to kiss my hand.

I was just being sweet… Look at each person differently, fire can burn out everything, but it can’t burn the water.
Be the fire with a man who’s susceptible to it, be the water with the one whose weak side is water. Let men fight for you not with you. You are a woman. That’s a title, miss,

I was once a VP and had a team of highly masculine and dominant men…

I developed a nice relationship with each one of them, they followed my lead not only because I was their VP but because they had a tiny crush on me and wanted to make me happy.

[jeffend888]

I’ll take things that never happened for 1,000 please Ken.

[GreenLanternI0I]

It sounds like you placed yourself in an environment of highly testosterone men and trying to stand up to them? or trying to dominate their circle? It would be equivalent to me going to a feminist movement full of serious women and trying to stand up to them while trying to impose my authority over Their circle or something to that nature. If this is what is happening in your life, you Don't, because you never will, you have to change your environment that suits your biological sex, there is no other way around. This is what I'm getting from your question. I might be wrong and if I am I need more information to understand your question better.

[catarecute]

so some stuff i read on hear is really emotionally abusive from men. its beyond me how they can't see it. i have also been abused outside of gag by men. ghosting is also a form of abuse. and i know you will say no its not but yet it is.
deffinition :use (something) to bad effect or for a bad purpose; misuse:

ghosting has a bad effect on people and every knows that so if they do it they are abusing. making women feel ugly or old when 1 they are not that old and 2 you are not in a relationship is abuse. even if they were old its still abuse. basically the majority of men abuse women they don't know it or don't want see it.

[GreenLanternI0I]

Your question and your respond is valid and yet they are So Deep that nobody will be able to give you a correct answer. I have tried many times and all it does is, it leads to a conflict and hate, because nobody want to hear the truth, nobody wants to acknowledge how did it came to this way in the first place. There are very few open mind people on this forum and unfortunately there A Lot of women who share your views on men, that most if not all men are evil, sadistic bastards who must be burned alive in a furnace of fire.

[catarecute]

i know there are a couple of nice men on earth but they are a minority. i am sorry but this is true.

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

Men get ghosted too.

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

They’re a minority because men learn eventually that women don’t want nice guys lol.

[GreenLanternI0I]

Do you know why there is such a small amount of nice men? Because most of them got extinct and killed out. Why? because this world doesn't like or even want nice guys, because they are a nuisance with their righteousness and good heartedness and weak looks. Most if not all women in reality do not want a flowery, nice feathering guy and deep down you know that too. They want a bad boy (Rich, Powerful and Influential). Nice guys cannot obtain Any of that, because it is not in their nature and what women doesn't want a Strong, dominant, rich and most powerful man on earth? and if you said that you are not one of them you are lying to me and yourself. How do I know that, because you are almost 30 and I can bet you my car you have been approached by definition Nice Guys when you were in your teens, but instead of marrying them when you were 18, 19, 20 and settling down and having kids with those nice fluffy guys, you ignored them and said NO. because they weren't exciting enough and bad boy looking.

[catarecute]

@CaliAttorneyGuy i ghost men really rarely if i see red flags that i just can't ignore. like today i ghosted a man on dating site because his photo looked like he had dark circles in his eyes and he says he isn't sure about kids. that tells me the guy isn't serious about a family and he doesn't look after his health. sometimes there are red flags we can't ignore. i make sure if i ghost someone its really early before forming any connection. men do it way more and in the most cruel way after going on dates having sex and forming a strong bond.

[GreenLanternI0I]

@CaliAttorneyGuy You beat my truth comment by 2 minutes. lol.

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

Believe it or not, some men do want a serious relationship. But we have our own red flags to watch out for. If a man marries the wrong woman, she can wake up any day and decide she doesn’t love him for whatever leave, file for divorce, seek half his stuff plus spousal support and child support (if they have kids together), etc. I see it all the time as a divorce attorney, and women initiate something like 80% of divorces. I’m not saying there aren’t bad men out there, but it sounds like you’re going after the ones who don’t want to commit.

[catarecute]

i rejected many people in my 20s because i wasn't mature enough to date. now i am ready for marriage as i have life experience and feel i have learned most of what i needed about life. nothing to do with nice or not nice. men who are abusive are repulsive. some women like being treated badly as it is womens nature to be submisive but they soon realise their mistake and divorce. i dont know any of the men here so what ever you think isn't my place to change them. i have already made my mind up on most things in life.

[SakuraBlossoms87]

@catarecute "f nice men on earth but they are a minority" - nice men are quite common, stop hanging around with low lives and you'd learn a thing or two about the real world.

[GreenLanternI0I]

It is not your fault, it is the fault of people who surrounded you when you were young (both your family members, your friends and your friends family members) They should of made many things Very clear to you and they should of passed on all the necessary life experiences on you, when you were younger. But people are beyond selfish, close minded and ignorant. And there lies the problem. It is a never ending broken cycle of close minded, gullible, selfish and greedy people, who think only of themselves and how to make themselves feel good yesterday and now instead of thinking of how to make entire society (beginning in their own home) a better place for tomorrow and 100 years from now.

[catarecute]

you are right about this everything i know about life i learned myself. noone taught me. i self taught everything from social skills to table manners cooking searching for work earning money looking for a house. and i still struggle with a lot of things. but the fact that there are a lot of very unkind men out there is true. its sad for nice men like yourself but sometime its just better to accept things as they are in order to change them.

[GreenLanternI0I]

(Sometime its just better to accept things as they are in order to change them.)

I'm a big fan of DC Comics, as I'm sure you already figured out, there was a quote spoken by Bruce Wayne (Batman) and it goes like this. "" You can't kill murder, you can't get revenge on evil, you can only begin to fight such things by not doing them and you can only fight them where they live.""

[catarecute]

@CaliAttorneyGuy yea i only loved one man who i knew i would never hurt or never divorce and he ghosted me. men ghost the women who love them and get surprised when the hot chicks they marry fuck them over.

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

I’ve seen women do similar things. I have female friends and clients who get beat up by their boyfriends and yet still go back to them over and over again. “Deep down he’s a really good guy” or “he only did it because he loves me” etc. It’s like they’re addicted to the drama lol. Obviously, not all women, and these women I’m talking about have a lot of trauma, insecurity, etc. I know women whose boyfriends put them in the hospital due to bearing those women up, and they still go back to them and think they can fix them or whatever. I’m not saying this applies to you. I don’t even know you. But one thing I’ve learned is if someone ghosts you, you are not their priority at least not at that time. Most guys who aren’t players are very simple. We just want as little drama as possible, don’t want a girl who has guy friends she hangs out with without us around, want intimacy and a deep connection, and want a girl who will support us as much as we support them. But there also has to be some level of attraction too. Men who have options will exercise those options at least until they find a woman who makes them happy. At the end of the day, that’s all it really is for men: does this woman make me happy and can I trust her? It sounds to me like you were way more into this guy than he was into you. I could be wrong. I don’t know either of you.

[catarecute]

@CaliAttorneyGuy dont worry i dont need anyone to explain what happened withis guy i have alreadt figured it out. it was just an exemple to show you what men are like. i could have use any other exemple. men like a hot young (practicaly a teenager woman. with bleached hair and platic surgery. rather than a high value woman who loves them and want to create a happy future wth them have children and be there for them encase of a crisis. their dick is their priority.

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

Not all men want that. I'm 43. The girl I'm currently pursuing is 41 and has a daughter from a prior relationship. I normally would not date a single mom, but I've known this girl for almost 30 years ever since we were in high school. We've always been good friends and stayed in touch over the years. About a year ago, she told me her boyfriend at the time was beating her up on an almost daily basis... 1/2

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

... This boyfriend has a long criminal history and many felonies, including for domestic violence. It got to the point that she was scared to leave her bedroom light on at night, because he would just show up. She was afraid to go to work since he might show up there too. He finally went to jail for punching her mom, and the Judge issued a protective order, ordering them to stay away from each other. While that was all going on, I invited her to come visit me out of state in Arizona if she wanted to get away from the craziness. I genuinely was only offering as a friend, and I honestly did not think she would take me up on the offer. Well, she asked her mom (who likes me) who put her on the next flight out to Phoenix. She stayed at my place for four nights. After I picked her up from the airport, the first thing she said to me when we were alone in my room is that she asked her daughter how her daughter felt about this girl dating me, and the girl said her daughter approved since I'm nice. The girl also told me she did a tarot card reading about her and I. I told her I was a little superstitious about tarot cards and didn't want to know what it said lol. Anyway, we had a great 4 nights hanging out. I showed her around Arizona and took her out to places to eat. She flirted with me, but I didn't tell her I wanted to date since I didn't know if she was going to get back with the psycho ex or how we'd even date if we live in different states. I'm not interested in any long distance relationship. Anyway, we had a great time just hanging out. She'd flirt with me a bit, but then she flew back to California. Around December of last year, I told her I might be moving back to California and near where she lives since my law practice was taking off (I was working remotely with a paralegal who lives in California near her). She started to text me a lot asking when I was moving back, saying she missed me, etc.

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

Fast forward to April of this year, and I told her I was officially moving back in May. She was excited and couldn't wait to hang out, etc. I move back and find out she has a boyfriend, which is fine. I wasn't mad about that since I never actually officially asked her out, and we are not in a relationship. So I wrote it off as she has a boyfriend and didn't pursue after I took her out for sushi as a friend. But then she starts blowing me up in July saying she wants to hang out more. I've never met her boyfriend, so he's not a friend of mine or anything. But she was starting to pursue me a bit, so I agreed to hang out with her. She always got dolled up and wore a dress every time she we went out to eat. She was also fine hanging out with me in my room alone, and she'd still get dolled up and wear a dress.

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

I come to learn that this new boyfriend is psycho too, and he beat her up as well. He also has a long criminal history, including for domestic violence, and he's a bum with no job and was living at her place (really her mom's place) without paying rent. The girl's mom finally had enough and told her to go see me while she dealt with the new boyfriend. The girl comes over with her daughter, and we go hang out at the beach. While we were there, the grandma called the girl and told her she should stay at my place since the boyfriend hadn't returned with the girl's car and phone yet. The girl nervously laughed and said she didn't think I planned on having a sleepover, but I said it was fine. So she slept in my bed while the daughter slept on the floor with blankets and pillows.

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

I didn't make a move since the daughter was there in the room with us. Before bed, the girl was making direct eye contact with me while smiling, so I kind of smirked and made direct eye contact back for about 4-5 seconds. She didn't look away and seemed to enjoy it. The next morning, she told me she was leaving her shampoo and conditioner in my bathroom since I only had cheap men's shampoo lol. She also left some facial scrub stuff and baby wipes (she likes baby wipes for her hands). After we dropped off her daughter, the girl went with me to the gym, and we worked out for about an hour. Then we went back to my place again, so she could use my computer for work (she's a college professor). She starts coming up with all kinds of ideas of things to do, places to visit, etc. She even said we should go to this ranch/resort that has rooms that open up to jacuzzis. So we were making all these future plans of things to do. Well, then she ghosted me after that starting about a month ago. So I knew the boyfriend was back. I didn't chase or blow up her phone or anything like that. About two weeks into the ghosting, she texts me from her daughter's phone and asks me to save screenshots of a text conversation between the boyfriend and some other random lady. I asked if she was ok, and she said yes but she thinks her "man" is trying to fraudulently steal money from her mother and her. I told her to call me when she can and offered to represent her in a restraining order against the boyfriend if she wants that. There has been no response from her ever since. It's been a little over two weeks since that text exchange and about a month since I have seen her in person.

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

Lastly, I should mention that she's a drug addict, but a functioning drug addict. She claims the boyfriend threatens her with reporting her to CPS if she leaves him. She claims she wants to leave him, but he won't leave, etc. When he's around, he controls her phone and won't let any guy speak to her or text her. One of those screenshots she sent me was the boyfriend telling this random lady that he was in a bad relationship with this girl and was moving out. But it's now just over a month since I've seen her and a little over two weeks since she texted me. So I figure the boyfriend is back, and she's on drugs again (she never uses around me), but I think that's odd since I'm pretty sure the grandma would never let this boyfriend move back in. But maybe they don't hang out at her place. Alternatively, I hope she's getting help and getting clean off drugs, but I'm not holding my breath. I'm not going to chase. If she contacts me again and wants to hang out, I will officially ask her out and let her know no hard feelings if she's not interested. I won't be mad if she's not interested, but I will ask her out the next time I see her in person. But I know I can't fix her. If she does not want to get off drugs, there's nothing I can do that will make her do that. I've known plenty of addicts over my life, some of whom are now dead because they never got off drugs. But I still care for this girl and would date her if she could ever get away from this boyfriend. But she has to be the one to want that, and I would help her if that is what she wants. But for now it's nothing but silence from her. Meanwhile, I just continue to work and make money. I won't chase any woman, but I will pursue if they show interest and I'm interested.

[CaliAttorneyGuy]

Also, one more thing I wanted to add: Although she has a ton of drama in her life, there has never been any drama between her and I. We've never even had an argument or yelled at each other or anything like that. When we're actually hanging out, we get along very well. I know this is at least partially due to the fact that we're not officially dating, but that's the reason I will keep hanging out with her when she calls me. And usually she is the one who initiates contact. I'll reciprocate of course, but I won't chase during this ghosting period or whatever it is. When we are hanging out, she does make me happy, and I am attracted to her. She's not the plastic surgery blonde type you mentioned. She's a brunette and all natural. She's not a toothpick either. She is in good shape, but she is curvy. I think she's a 10 personally, but objectively she might be a 6 or 7 lol. To me she's a 10 based on looks, her personality, and the connection we have.

[Bricealan]

@catarecute... to begin with you MUST have a high opinion of yourself, and never put yourself in a position to be abused by any bozo. My wife was really pissed off at me for going to the defense of a girl being battered in a parked car, and at one point, a girlfriend and I stopped on the highway, and took a woman away from a drunken husband who threw a huge rock through the window of their car to get her out. A woman has to have enough judgment to know when some guy has the ability to become an asshole, AND GET AWAY, AND STAY AWAY! We see it all the time and read about it, SADLY

[catarecute]

see that why guys like you are married because you are one of the rare guys who are decent. i think you are right some women dont realise they are being abused. i am trying to get better at it.

[Bricealan]

@catarecute You must... I can't be there to protect you from a batteref.

[catarecute]

yea i know it exists and its scary

[Bricealan]

'batterer... people that go to the aid of battered women risk their lives by doing that, and I do fear losing my life to some wife beater... but have done it two times.

[catarecute]

i will take martial art incase some wife beater tryes to punch me. i used too do judo and kungfu tbh

[HiveBee]

Most of the men on this site are pathetic weak little boys who get their wittle feewings huuwt when someone says literally anything to them.

I've been replying to retard comments here and there calling out the dismally pathetic fucking men on this website.

And I'll tell you ladies, y'all need to seriously ignore these fucking LOSERS on this website because you women are RAPIDLY taking on their BS and becoming raging losers yourselves.

Seriously I see so many pink commenter saying crazy shit and stupid things too

But it is all in reaction to the weak and pathetic men on this site.

[jshm2]

You don't.

Either fight the battle, or run. Don't try and be a martyr. That shit only works in literature and movies.

If the men in your life are being abusive, then speak to their women. If that doesn't work, then report them. If online, then the report button is there for the same purpose.

Just remember, there is no law in life, religion or society that you must talk to and get along with everyone. Sure, don't be a prick, but there is nothing wrong with walking away from people you don't want to interact with.

[ShesRad80]

lets take a different POV to help you-- if you had a daughter going through what you are, what advice based off your question would you give her?

[catarecute]

i would tell het to just a girls question on gag and not men. to block all men on gag

[riverrat3]

Well said

[lightbulb27]

getting that much really? I got a lot of hate and abuse from girls. Truth is though... it was only a few which colored my whole world. If you don't like the company you keep, change it. Find better people. no reason to put up with others.

Look into building your self esteem and values, church can help, therapy, meditation, prayer, understanding, forgiveness... all powerful tools.

[RoseySarah]

Wow so much hate from women! None of them giving advice!

Or guys pretending to be pinks!

Just baby steps and don't be hard on yourself for things! Don't beat yourself up about not saying something.

Just slow steps to becoming bolder and stronger!

Also saying nothing is usually the best action with guys who are bullying you for a reaction.

Best thing is pepper spray! Around here I use it a lot! Next is self defense lessions!

[Willlovewinintheend]

I don't understand why someone would engage with idiots. When a guy on the street says something stupid I just tell him fuck you and leave. It's not worth my time or energy. But you actually take what they are saying seriously and now you need therapy because of it.

I stay away from toxic people and don't talk to them. I only talk to people who make my life better. Why do prefer to be talked down to and abused?

[catarecute]

i think maybe this site is the problem

[Anonymous]

There are really good guys out there that are both masculine and kind. However if you’re attracting the ‘bad’ guys who don’t treat you well you might need to focus more on healing whatever it is that leads you to attract them. I know for me I was very insecure and would accept whatever love was given to me because in my head that was better than nothing. As I became more secure in myself and fixed the flaws in my appearance I started attracting much better men.

[Anonymous]

Why do women always seem to blame the fact that they get no rspect from men... ON sexism or misogyny?

I'm going to let you in on a litle secret... people (male or female) don't respect people (male or female) who don't earn their respect. Trust me when I say this... if YOU were a male who behaved like YOU do, you would not get any more respect from people than you do now.

[Opinion Owner]

I see my point flew right over your head. Oh well.

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't read beyond the first sentence because it made it clear you don't understand the important point here and you want to remain willfully ignorant. As long as you don't understand what I'm telling you, you will continue to have the same experiences that led you to ask this question.

[Opinion Owner]

I owe you an apology. I just realized you are not the user I thought you were when I responded harshly. I'm sorry.

There is a lot of hate between men and women today, and I try to stay above that. I'm not always successful. Sorry again.

[catarecute]

no i dont understand what you are saying

[Opinion Owner]

Which part don't you understand?

[catarecute]

none of it plus how do you know how i act uless youu are spying on me. if you are my stalker, realise that what you see on webcam and my life atm is mainly the way because you are stalking me.

[catarecute]

i would never move from one place to the next if i wasn't stalked

[catarecute]

i would have a full time job and probably stable relationships and friends

[catarecute]

i have messed up my degree because of moving around from hotel to hotel

[catarecute]

i have to start my own business just to make a living.

[Opinion Owner]

Did you read my appology?

[catarecute]

no i didn't see an apology. i dont even know for sure if you are my stalker.

[catarecute]

i dont get your mind game i am not a user i am a normal woman trying to live her life and being unfairly spyed on. i have no privacy. even if one day you wanted sex and felt i wasn't to old and ugly for you i would feel to embarrassed to give you want you want because of how you spyed on me.

[Opinion Owner]

I am not your slalker. And if you didn't see my apology, try scrolling up. It's there.

[catarecute]

you are him i am not stupid colton

[Opinion Owner]

I don't stalk anyone, including you. But whatever.

[catarecute]

ok so flying a drone over my hotel and pressing every single alarms in my hotels to get my out isn't stalking. what is it then. i send you a couple of messages and tried to rescue you from your church and you told me i was stalking you but following me around Europe and hacking my laptop isn't stalking? what is it then?

[Opinion Owner]

Woah! I don't know if any of what you said there is true, but if it is, I am definitely not that guy.

[zagor]

You're obviously seeing the wrong men. Have you sat down and thought about where and when you are meeting these men you are having trouble with? Since not all women seem to have this issue, the problem is clearly... you. And the choices you're making.

[lildkman1090]

If they can’t hurt you then bully’s/men scum is what they are with no amusement and dragging you down they will leave you alone or just grab a baseball bat hit them once in the leg and leave it at that

[Kayla45]

If you're facing abuse if these men in particular then why don't you separate yourself from them? There's lots of great and kind guys in the world, but there's also jerks and dickheads too.

Just have to find a good guy and not a bad one. 🤷‍♀️

[Dargil]

What MONSROUS men are HATING and ABUSING you this week, or is this more brainless nonsense? I think you are just drum beating Feminist misandry. If you are really East Asian, shame on you.

[Anonymous]

its unfashionable to ay so but some women are born victims and only feel themselves when being abused,
battered wives who stay married forever as an example.
You may just need to adjust your opinion of yourself in order to be happy

you're not strong

[BLP11520]

Ignore any comments about your appearance. Your job, education level. Things you hold dearest to your heart do not share openly here. Message those who you can trust.

[MrOracle]

It's hard to take you seriously if you can't give any examples of this supposed abuse.

[ManOnFire]

What kind of hate and abuse are you dealing with from men?

[Radiate143]

Oh just ignore them. Why are you so triggered?

[catarecute]

cuz i am sensitive

[Radiate143]

Me too. But relaise, that these are just some random people on the internet. Use your logic as well.

[Radiate143]

Also, use the block feature.

[catarecute]

thank u i will

[Radiate143]

Good 💌

[exitseven]

You are a good kid and everyone here knows it. Anyone that treats you badly is an idiot

[catarecute]

thank you

[strateguy632]

you shouldn't need. when that happens you separate

[Nikki1989]

This is the worst site to be on for that. There are a lot of women-haters on here.

[LiamJHayden]

People who hate and abuse others are almost always bullies and cowards. Keep reminding yourself of this whenever some dude does that to you.

[catarecute]

thank you i am starting to see that tbh

[love_conquers_lust]

Talk to some of the girls who fight back. Read what they say and run with it. They’re having fun with it.

[_no_one_]

Personally i would suggest moving out to the fantasy world of wonder women where they are all females. That should work 10/10.

[jeffend888]

Ok then get off social media. Because this is going to happen. You can’t stop it. Ever. I don’t condone it, but that doesn’t change reality.

[OddBeMe]

Sure it’s not really hate and abuse from women? You bitches are horrible to each other.

[Vegasrunner]

@catarecute What part are you struggling w/ specifically?

[catarecute]

men in general not knowing how to treat women. i could make a list but its too long.
a couple of examples. you go on a date then the man asks to return to your house or sex. thats one exeple out of my long list on millions of others. that might not be abuse but its just rude. i would make other exemples but my fingers hurt from typing and i would be here all night and run out of data.

[catarecute]

a lot of people... obviously not you.

[catarecute]

i dont want to have sex with him. i am dating to find a guy. on the first date you are not really a couple. the first date is to know someone. the second date is to form a bond. after that only you start being official. you can't just have sex with someone after a first date, that's ridiculous.

[catarecute]

the way you speak is verry rude. you obviously dont have good intentions with your advice but thank you anyway. you said enough

[catarecute]

yea i dont know who u are. if its you colton i dont know why you are doing this to me i had nothings but good intentions for you all i wanted to do was to cuddle you and be your personal slave for the rest of your life. you are throwing abuse at me under a fake profile is making me love u less and less everday. actualy i dont think i love you anymore tbh.

[catarecute]

i know its you colton why are you doing this to me. you used to be so nice and wanting to follow god now you are acting like a complete duck under a stupid pseudo vegas runner seriously. why are you doing this to yourself?

[catarecute]

sorry i meant dick. colton i know its you. get the devil out of your body. he is possessing you.

[catarecute]

colton stop gaslighting me. you are not this vegasrunner. this is a demon from hell from to much satanic rituals. look how you are talking and acting like a complete dick. you was never like that before. you need to turn to the bible and stop baptising dead people.

[catarecute]

colton remember when we went to baptise the dead? i repented for my sin. now you need to. you are an angel possessed my daemons. i love you.

[catarecute]

colton i dont know what you are doing but i wish you could luck in life. you are not part of my desitiny and it isn't god plan that we would be together. i probably will never see you again. i loved you so much but now i have to stop loving you as we are not meant to be.

[catarecute]

colton stop playing games. you are choosing evil, remember when we met to do my baptism meeting and you told me you felt the spirit. you smiled when i talked to you about god because you wanted to know god. you was born an angel and satan took over your life and tricked you. i tried to save you because i loved u but you loved somebody else. it hurt so much but this is destinity. i am in great pain but god is helping me through it. today i heard an angel encouraging me to keep strong as i was again in pain from not being with you.

[Vegasrunner]

Very strange

[catarecute]

dude i know you are not colton but you are a complete arse hole to be honest. get a life

[Vegasrunner]

@catarecute Isn't it odd that you claim to be a victim yet its you using the derogatory terms? This is a great example of female delusion.

[catarecute]

i am with you because you are one of the worst person i have ever come acrros you are so rude and evil. that question about telling a girl she isn't special shows that your soul is completely damages. you have zero empathy.

[Vegasrunner]

@catarecute Originally you claimed that abuse was all men. Perhaps the issue is you?

[Friendlybro79]

Therapy would be way better than here. Look into it if you can and be safe.

[pethouse]

What kind of abuse are you receiving if you don’t mind me asking

[catarecute]

just abuse from the smallest thing to the biggest. i would put a list on here but its to time consuming

[pethouse]

So verbal abuse?

[Guardian45]

You DON'T have to tolerate abuse from ANYONE, whether they are family, 'friends' or strangers! You're NOT their punching bag! Tell them to F OFF!

[noohair]

I avoid toxic, which helps me. I also ignore idiots. And it has been a long time since I worried about what people think about me.

[LunarEclipse433]

Why are you experiencing so much hate and abuse from men?

[catarecute]

because i am lucky that i can recognise abuse due to having had so much therapy. about 80% of people are being abused but just don't know it.

[Xoirwinkan]

Why are you getting so much negative attention from men?

[BrokenWorld]

It seems like this post was intended to get attention.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Men in general or your boyfriend?

Ignore them

[Carina0]

Let me know if you find the answer

[catarecute]

the answer is looking at how your carrer treated you growing up
thats how men will treat you exactly unless you get therapy

[catarecute]

your mind learned to justify that behaviour from a very young age if you are abused so its hard to rewire your neuropathways

[RingOfFire]

Just kick 'em in the nuts. DONE! 👍

[swettannie]

hate and abuse from men?

[grega239]

Stop caring about them

[TallAnon]

Surround yourself with better people.

[justabuddy]

It gets better with age.

[YAsQuen]

The truth hurts

[shades777]

start by saying no