Im about two weeks old at my high school. if a guy from my class asks for my instagram what should I say to not be seen as easy?

[Anonymous]

i heard a guy likes me but they haven't talked to me yet or asked for my insta what should i say. i dont want to seem ‘easy’ as guys like to call it. he also might not be the only one who likes me so if i just give my insta when he asks how do i keep my options open

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, I feel ya on not wanting to seem too easy right away. But don't worry too much what other people might think either. If you're interested in the guy, maybe just calmly say something like:

"Thanks for asking! I don't give out my IG to just anyone yet since I'm still new here. But we should hang out sometime and get to know each other better first. Then we'll see!"

That way you're leaving the door open while also making him work a little for it. And it shows you're cool enough that you don't need social media to validate anything.

As for keeping your options open - just be friendly to everyone for now without playing favoritism. No need rushing into anything serious so quick. Who knows, you might end up liking someone else better you haven't met yet too!

Just stay cool, keep your head up, and let people prove themselves to you. Instagram will still be there later. Good luck and have fun! High school is what you make of it.

[Asker]

isn't saying we should hang out sometime like saying lets go on a date. that seems much more than giving an insta

[Oliverlogan263]

You've got a point, straight up asking to hang out could definitely be seen as asking for a date. Giving the Instagram is a little less committed than that. Here are a few other options you could consider:

- If he asks for your Instagram, you could say you prefer exchanging Snapchats instead. That way it's not a full social media add right away.

- Suggest getting each other's numbers "to work on a group project together" or something casual like that instead of straight up hanging out alone.

- Mention you'll be at certain school events/games coming up and he should come find you there if he wants to chat more. Keeps it public not private.

- Simply say you just want to get to know people right now without commitments. Leave the ball in his court to try talking to you again later.

Point is, start casual and don't fully close any doors until you've had a chance to check him and other guys out. Gradually give more personal info over time as long as you're feeling the vibe. Hope this gives you some options without coming on too strong! Let me know if you need any other advice.