Should I be concerned that my boyfriend likes selfies of a 14 year old on instagram?

[Anonymous]

He is on vacation visiting friends and one od his friends has a 14 year old daughter who posts bikini selfies and skimpy dress selfies. He liked most of her pics on instagram and her most recent skimpy dress pic. Should I be concerned?

[TheorionMage]

A suppressed Psychological Study performed irrefutably at Kent State University found that 90% of ALL heterosexual men innately harbor a potential arousal response to suggestive imagery of preteen and young adolescent females.

Based on objective studies, rather than anecdotal evidence and adamant denial rants (which mean nothing), about 90% of men are attracted to preteen girls.

A peer-reviewed scientific journal study (Behavior Therapy 26, 681-694, 1995), conducted by Kent State University, 1995 (Lori L. Oliver, Gordon C. Nagayama, Richard Hirschman) was conducted on a sample of normal (adult attracted) male volunteers using the "penile plethysmograph". (In effect, an in-arbitrary ‘bullshit detector’; concupiscent erections DON’T lie. )

The team carried out hundreds of tests exposing men to female adult and child images.
95% exhibited arousal to the female adult images.

A staggering 88.7% exhibited arousal to the female child (less than 12 years old) images.

Prior to the study, 80% of the participants claimed to have no attraction to children and all of them had no history of illegal or legal youth-attracted behavior.

THAT he is attracted, is not a concern; WHAT HE ELECTS TO DO ABOUT HIS RESPONSE, is what you must be circumspect regarding.

Statistics affirm that one out of every four Western females (25%) experience societally 'inappropriate' pre-18 interactions; likewise one out of five (20%) Western males likewise share similar 'minor' sexualized interactions. FBI profiles affirm those so sexualized, historically repeat behaviors into the next generation, especially if they intermarry. I speak from personal firsthand Victim experience~
One of our society's hypocritical 'little secrets'.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Thank you for that enlightening read. I would like to believe I didn't agree however, and until proven otherwise I refuse to. None the less, it was fascinating to read.

[nitsuj86]

I would certainly ask why. And he better have a very good reason. So I would say yes.

I would also ask him if you were to tell his friend about this, would he be happy about it? The fact that he is liking his 14-year-old daughter's pics. If he gets weird about it, you have your answer right there.

It could be just being friendly, but hard to believe. If it was my daughter, I would have a talk with my friend, and never let him around my daughter again.

I feel like this is something that the Father and Mother / his friends should know. If they don't care, then it's probably nothing. I have a feeling they will care though.

[jeemm]

His friend has an underage daughter who posts provocative pictures? Yeah worst case scenario he's taking advantage of his position as a "family friend" and hopes to groom her. Even if that's not the case it's still inappropriate and you should not only talk to your boyfriend about it but definitely talk to her father.

Even though it's not directly your business what she does or whether or not her dad allows that it's still unhealthy and dangerous for a girl her age to post that stuff.

[SometimesASiren]

That's really, really bad. Definitely a cause for concern and a valid reason to breakup. He shouldn't even be following 14-year-old girls on Insta, whether they're friends' kids that he knows personally or not.

Fair warning, HE won't think it's a valid reason to break up and will probably argue about it. But it definitely, 100% is. And this is coming from an incredibly open-minded chick.

[bamesjond0069]

Yes its not a good look. However this is normal in todays age. The issue really is the friend allowing his 14 yo to dress in a sexualized fashion. I know someone like this the 12 year old wears string bikinis crop tops has facial piercings and vapes and mom encourages it all. Its quite fucked up. But then at 14 they are old enough to have conversations and a friendly relationship with the parents friends so then it gets awkward. I dont think its a big deal. I think its not a good idea but if he truly has been talking with her then thats what it is and he's just somewhat of a doofus.

[TommyMountainFigure]

What a thought provoking question.

My immediate thought is, yes of course you should be concerned, but after reading the insightful reply from @TheorionMage I am now perplexed as to how to advise you.

[Blackcosmo]

Yeah that's definitely fishy. It's not good to encourage a 14 yr old to wear such skimpy clothing by liking it and that the girl's father is ok with this.

[JohnK123]

Where’d u get that the dad is ok with this

[Blackcosmo]

@JohnK123 I think I read it wrong.

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

I don't know. I am red flagging all over my brain to this question.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I know exactly what you mean!

[dustybiker]

If I was her parent I would definitely have a problem with that. He’d be seeing momma bear. I wouldn’t want to be with anyone doing the same either.

[spartan55]

So, if he just looked at them, but didn't 'like' them, then everything's cool right? 🙄

[Asker]

Maybe because she's 14?

[spartan55]

You completely missed my point.

[SeekingVirginWife]

Looks like you need a good husband who is not a pedophile. I am ready for marriage.

[leighbee]

Yes as someone who has been in a similar situation this is a red flag 🚩

[Faith18letsgo]

No I don’t think so, I have lots of younger family friends and I like their posts.

[ODC2112]

I like people on instagram that I am not attracted to because they are friends or relatives, it is not that if one likes others he is automatically sexually attracted to them.

[Jamie05rhs]

First of all, why is he even connected to a 14-year-old on Instagram?

[007kingifrit]

about this specifically? no. about a man having an instagram at all? yes

[JohnK123]

Most people just like posts just because don’t take it too seriously

[Whatever2929292]

As long as he is not being a pervert

[DarkWinterNights]

Well. That is definitely weird…

[Asker]

Is it a cause for concern?

[DarkWinterNights]

Personally I would be. But being a single guy (without kids) I never want my niceness or my being friendly to be misinterpreted in any way so I wouldn’t go around “liking” minor’s posts.

On a totally random thought- is it possible his friend asked him to like her photo’s because she’s insecure and her dad is trying to boost her confidence? Still weird considering her age and the swimsuits though…

[Asker]

I totally get it. I too wouldn't want niceness to be misinterpreted, and photo liking in today's age is usually a sign for flirting. I definitely don't think his friend asked him to like her daughter's pictures. She isn't as active on social media. Do you think this would be a cause for breaking up?

[DarkWinterNights]

I don’t know. It’s a weird situation. Have there been other red flags or is this the first? How long have you been together? Maybe you could ask him about it? Not sure how that would go though…

[Asker]

He hasn't shown any big red flags before. He used to check out women in front of me and comment on their assets. I told him this bothered me and he stopped. Maybe I will bring this one up

[Asker]

We have been together for 7 months. Do you think I should tell him it made me upset?

[DarkWinterNights]

I wouldn’t confront him directly on it. It could end up causing a lot of tension and problems and there could still be a reasonable explanation. You may wait for an opportunity to bring it up in a not-so accusatory manner just to gauge his reaction. If he comes across confused or dismissive it may not be anything. If he gets defensive or upset that could mean something else. I think you just have to play this one by ear.

[Asker]

I see. Do you mean to say it would be better to bring it up in person when he is done with vacation?

[DarkWinterNights]

I definitely wouldn’t bring it up over text or phone. All it will do is turn into an argument about why you’re looking into his socials. Which ironically is what you should probably start doing. If this is an isolated case it’s something to watch for in the future, if it’s not you should probably bring it up in person. How to, without sounding accusatory and causing more issues is going to be the real challenge. Then again- something like this is a big deal, especially if you’re hoping for a future with him.

[Joker_]

is your boyfriend @ballsack

[Ballsack]

lol‎

[Alcoholic_Wannabe]

No.
Aoc is a joke.

[In_Trance]

Why is he still your boyfriend?

[Nahid1707]

What do you think of this now?

[lofii]

He's boosting her clout

[Anonymous]

Not just you; but his friend too.

[Asker]

A cause for a break up?

[Opinion Owner]

I would. Do you really want to date a pedophile?

[slatyb]

No, you shouldn't.

[Asker]

Not a big deal?

[slatyb]

No, it's not. Most 14-year-old women are sexually mature. It's normal for adults to find some of them attractive. It wasn't so long ago that young women "came out" at 15, ready to be courted and married.

I don't think teens should be allowed to marry before 18 under any circumstances, and it's not normal for adult men to make advances to women in their teens.

I'm happily married, but I still enjoy seeing images of attractive women, or seeing other attractive women when I'm out somewhere. My wife and I tell each other when we see someone attractive, male or female.

[Asker]

So in short, I should not bring it up to him?

[slatyb]

It's a bit odd that it's someone known to him, but she's posting them, so presumably she wants the likes. I wouldn't worry about it.

[WhiteBoyChill]

@Exterminatore The left’s philosophy of sexualizing young children….. how lovely

[Exterminatore]

@white

Good point

[Fuentes]

@slatyb 14 year olds are not "WOMEN" They're young girls dummy and compared to your age their freaking babies!

[slatyb]

@Fuentes Most 14-year-olds are sexually mature. It's normal for adults to find some teens attractive. I also said "It's not normal for adult men to make advances to women in their teens." Some teens are adults.

Until about twenty years ago, the fashion industry employed some 14-year-olds to model clothes intended for adult women.

[Fuentes]

A 14 year old is a child

[slatyb]

@Fuentes Legally yes. So what? I'm not advocating that adults should be allowed to date 14-year-olds. The minimum age for marriage should be 18, no exceptions. Mostly the age of consent should also be 18, with close-in-age exceptions.

by the way, it's the red states that have the most marriages between teens and adults.

[2facedfa1ry]

yea you should

[RobEurope]

Not unless he does this obsessivly.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Terrible...

[Asker]

Valid reason for breaking up?

[Rockstarrrrr]

I think so yeah...

[Asker]

Do you think I should mention to him how it made me upset?

[Rockstarrrrr]

No... I think you should ask him what's up with that in a passive aggressive way

[Asker]

Why is it better to be passive aggressive?

[Rockstarrrrr]

Half you f**kin disgust me / half I shouldn't care that much about someone like you

[Asker]

I should tell him that?

[Rockstarrrrr]

With your attitude yes

[Anonymous]

Yes, and so should her father.

[LigmaBallsack]

🚩🚩🚩

[Fuentes]

Red flag he's a Pedo