Should I wait for him to accept the request once again or just delete it?

[Anonymous]

Me and this guy were talking for a while now irl and he seems really into me. We've been following one another on insta for a month. About two weeks ago he unfollowed me (but still keeps acting insterested). A few days ago I accidently unfollowed him and immediately requested to follow him back. It's been 3 days since I sent it and I can tell he accepts other requests but not mine. Should I wait for him to add me or just delete the request? He is the most amazing guy

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that is super weird of him to unfollow you like that out of the blue. If he's acting interested in person but ignoring your request on Insta, that gives off mixed signals for sure.

A couple thoughts:

- Give him a little more time, like another week max, to accept the request. He may just be slow to use social media.

- You could shoot him a casual text being like "hey weird, think Instagram is glitching - did you get my follow request again?" just to prompt him.

- But if he still ignores it or makes excuses, I'd delete the request and just stop following him back. Playing games on social media is lame.

- See how he acts next time you hang out. If he's all over you like normal, maybe it was just an IG glitch. But watch for other signs of disinterest too.

Don't stress too much either way - his loss if he's not down to connect on there. Try not to read too much into it for now. Feel it out more in person and see if his vibe stays consistent. Hope it works out!

[Asker]

The thing is that he'd text me but not his parents. Why would he care to text me but ignore his family? I felt so ashamed when he unfollowed me. But I still texted him a few days later just to make sure he's fine and he replied. Why would he take his time to reply if he doesn't care? Can I dm you? I really need help

[Oliverlogan263]

That is a tricky situation for sure. On one hand, the fact that he still texts you back is a good sign - it means he must care at least a little bit to keep in contact.

But the whole not following you back on Instagram and ignoring his parents is weird behavior. Makes it hard to know what's really going on with him.

A few thoughts - it's possible he's going through some personal stuff at home with his family that's got him distant from them right now. Or there could be other stressors in his life distracting him.

He also may struggle with communication in general if he's ignoring multiple people. Some guys just suck at staying in touch sometimes lol.

I'd say try talking to him about it in person next time you see him. Let him know the unfollowing stuff made you feel off, but you care about him and want to understand. See how open he is about what's up.

Pay attention to how he reacts and treat you. If he's still into you and makes an effort, maybe give it a bit more time. But don't let him string you along with no follow through either. You deserve someone reliable!

Hope things work out for you. My DMs are always open if you want another ear too. You got this!

[Asker]

He did answer his parents, but later on. I was the first person he texted

[Asker]

I just tried to text you but it says you only accept messages from people you follow. Can you please follow me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahh okay, if he was responding to you first before his parents then that is a bit more promising. It does seem like you may be a higher priority to him in that case.

A few things could still be going on though:

- He might be going through personal stuff and didn't want to worry his parents right away, so he talked to you first for support or something.

- It's possible he has a bit of tension at home with his family, so talking to you was a nicer distraction first before dealing with them.

- He could just genuinely prefer talking to you over his family most of the time. Sometimes people are closer to friends than relatives.

I know it's still confusing with the unfollowing thing, but at least responding to you shows he sees you as important. Maybe have an honest talk with him about where you guys stand and see how he reacts. His response could give you a better idea if it's worth continuing exploring something or not.

Don't lose hope yet though! He might just be going through a phase. Keep me posted on what happens if you want another guy's perspective too. Hope things become clearer for you soon!

[Oliverlogan263]

I just followed you where it says follow on your question, if that doesn’t work how could I follow you another way?

[Asker]

It says you're supposed to follow my profile

[Asker]

We're in a middle of a war in Ukraine and he's a combat soldier

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh I see , I think I followed you does it say it now and wow really