When did you consider yourself a man?

[_Maya_]

A lot of people just say when we get our period we are now a woman. What was it that made you say I am not a boy anymore, I'm now a man?

[davnerLeL]

i think, men are made men when they are either broken, or treated in a highly specific way.

both these ways aren't easy though, and also not always the case.
let me know if you relate to these by the way.
in general. a boy becomes a man because of one girl that breaks his heart. and this doesn't happen because she is super ruthless. but because he gives his complete trust, his love. all of which are extremely fragile at first. the more he loves her, the more fragile it gets. even after it breaks, he still gives it to her. the pieced back heart. until its completey shattered.

at that point. she still has the heart. but his mind, his body. changes. his heart returns, but its an empty shell, no spark. no love.

by this time he either gives everything in his life up and stays the same or gets worse.

or he grows the f up. realises girls aren't like how theyve seen in those movies, especially not in these times. realises theyve been doing absolutely nothing with their lives and just giving it all away cause of a girl. they hit the gym, start making more money, buy the things that they want. get the life that they want. but dont easily fall back into love. and in his mind, if someone truly loves him, they will try to get him. and no matter what happens, that someone won't go to another guy cause this didn't work.

on the other side though, a man with a lot of responsibility, a boy with a long term goal from a young age, a boy where his father was actively present in a positive and supporting but PRESSURING way and not just a negative and anxious. his mother was support and loving unconditionally. both of them wise and teaching him every single thing they knew.

he is also a man. no matter what the age.

but a woman can break him too. which circles back to my first definition
i wouldn't blame a woman all the time though. but in general this is the case. they can make a strong man by either beaking them or making them. they have no idea the power they have.

[ChiTown33]

Probably when my father died. I mean there's many rites of passage as male grows from a boy to a man. But after my father died I was the only male in my family and I felt it incumbent upon me to look out for my mother and sisters. I still feel that way. I know my father wouldn't ask it of me but as a man it is my job and I know he'd be disappointed of I didn't.

[ChiTown33]

I think being a man id's the acceptance of all the responsibilities that come with being a man.

[_Maya_]

That's tough losing a parent like that. Thanks for sharing.

[ChiTown33]

Thanks. It's OK. I may have only had him for 26 years. But it was an amazing 26 years. The imprint he left on this world was massive even if most never new his name. And I know he's in heaven and feeling no pain. That gives me peace as much as I miss him. ❤️

[_Maya_]

That's an amazing testament to a parent. Got me teary.

[ChiTown33]

Thank you. I really appreciate that. Because mere words cannot convey the full reality of who he was. The fact that you understood brought a smile to my face. 🙂 he's still making an impact.

[_Maya_]

I normally get so many answers to my questions I don't select MHO since there are so many the same. This was my first and well deserved.

[HaleyCatgirl]

Whenever I draw a mustache on myself and buy a dildo and start doing the helicopter the most manliest thing ever oh well holding a beer and a 12 gauge shotgun

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My ex told me I turned him into a man and that loving me encouraged him to be a strong man who’d take a responsibility.

[mrlongdongsiilver]

Damn that's hard why y'all breakup

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@mrlongdongsiilver Life doesn’t always go the way we have planned. Nobody’s to be blamed, that’s just life.

[Bloodfeast]

When I realized the truth of women.

My entire life I wanted to believe that women were sexually attracted to righteous men.

Good men who fight and protect. Who provide and ensure everyone else's life with more than they could by themselves.

Then I realized the truth that women are not attracted to righteous men.

I became a man when I realized that the majority of women are not worth dating. That women are equally as attracted to evil horrific men, disgusting violent beasts.

That for a woman, it is all about power.

That is when I truly became a righteous man and a "real man." I see the devil in the hearts of women and their sick dark desires for sick dark disgusting things.

Most men spend their lives wondering "how do I become attractive to women?"

Once you realize the answer to that is that you satisfy women's dark cravings, you can finally let women go. Stop trying to be attractive to ALL women and only be attractive to those few rare women who deserve you.

Very few women deserve to be with a true righteous man.

But all men are angry that women are not truly attracted to the righteous man.

To become a man is to realize who you really are, and to go down that path and not worry about all the women with dark cravings for dark evil men.

To disregard them and walk a different path.

[1073sucks]

🤯...

[MicroViewer]

That's exactly what I was raised in and didn't question for the first 12 years. It was a bit exaggerated.

I mean until like age 5 I kept trying to latch onto mommy.. to get disappointed.. And until 12 I had no ability or chance to question, and what your described was the only view I was fed until then.

I'd say from my experience now, the truth appears in the exact center between what you're saying and a beta boy's view.

Because when most people are selfish instinct followers, (and our survival instincts are mostly selfish, male or female), they get confined in their habits, and rigid minded or "predictable" to a point that they become "average".

Going too far away from "average" you risk going mentally insane, but if you don't, then it's appealing. Don't women like unique men?

I mean above all else, health and fertility trigger our genitals, nobody wants to replicate a sick person. And fertility = higher gonadotropins & pheromones = stronger urges.

Women have twisted desires, but then if every man acts accordingly, which instinctually our subconscious knows all about gender dynamics... then a "righteous" type is in shortage, and will stand out.

To women it is more important to fuck that UNIQUE guy... he yet has to stand out.. while men are wired to accept that AVERAGE chick. It happens in any non monogamous animals.

[1073sucks]

@MicroViewer your mommy didn't hold you when you were 5?
okay I feel sorry for both of you that have had such awful women in your lives that you have this horrible perception of us. But I'm sure you guys are not dumb and know that every single human is not like the next one.

[MicroViewer]

@1073sucks yeah every fingerprint is different. But every genital is engorged in the presence of a hormonal cocktail, and reproduction has a lot to do with genetics and immutable instincts.

There's truth to the opinion above, but I disagree as much with him as I disagree with spineless weaklings often referred to as "betas" and "simps".

I am very well aware that no human is the same, yet has something in common, and one thing we all have in common is nobody likes to be dominated in their lives, although explicitly during fucking women instinctually have comfort in being dominated, it's just hormones.

[Wallythewalrus]

According to my mother, it won't be until I'm thirty. According to my wife, I'll never be a man. According to my doctor, it's when I had my first wet dream. According to me, it's when I was in third grade and would sniff the girls hair that sat in front of me. Her name was Julie and I would have died for her! Her hair always smelled like strawberries.

[_Maya_]

Thanks for sharing. Means something different for everyone.

[HaveNoName]

Hahaha. Thoroughly enjoyed this comment. Apart from Strawberry hair, same experience.

[Nifrayu]

I never did. After I lost my virginity my girlfriend at the time asked me if I felt like a man now. I said "no. I don't feel any different."

I have no idea what it's even supposed to feel like. On the other hand I sometimes still feel like a kid. Usually that is just when I play with my kids.

[Nifrayu]

It's kinda weird to me that people would suggest girls become women with their first period. That can sometimes happen very young, sometimes as young as 8 years old. And if it's only the ability to breed that determines it, then I suppose the equivalent would be when our testicles drop. But both concepts are icky to me.

[_Maya_]

I agree that having a period does not make me a woman. There is much more to it than just that but sadly some view that as the defining moment... being able to bear children.

[mobiusforniner]

When my kid had to go to the hospital, I fell to my knees and cried about losing what I worked so hard to care for and build. Knowing I can’t control the outcome of everything and I do need help. When I told other women “no”, when they wanted me to cheat on my wife, knowing that integrity is more important than honesty. When faced with immense pressure or the high likelihood of death but doing it anyway, knowing that courage is being scared but continuing forward; that there’s a bigger purpose to life than just “me”

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

When I found the maturity to take my employment seriously, and become an actual "boyfriend" that supported and was interested in the happiness of my partner.

[_Maya_]

Thanks for sharing.

[_Maya_]

I like the young at heart vibe some of ya got.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

For me, perhaps, maturity is best taken in small steps, not giant steps, attacking world problems :-)

[AaronKrieger]

Sort of? I am still very young and have a lot more to learn through experience, but I do still carry myself in a way a man should in a lot of ways. Anything else I am missing will come with time while learning from mistakes and overcoming obstacles.

[AaronKrieger]

I thought the title said "Do you consider yourself a man?

I'll consider myself one when I experience a lot more of life and know how to do things a man should.

[HouseMoat]

In the jewish religion, you become a man when you're bar/bat mitzvahed, so, I officially became a "man", at 13, which is when you're bar/bat mitzvahed. But, I believe I became a man, when I turned 26. It's when scientists believe that the body and mind have fully matured. That after 26, you slowly start to deteriorate, VERY slowly.

[Mansearching]

Tbh... when I became a caregiver for my parents.

[_Maya_]

Great answer!

[Mansearching]

Its true.

[stratford]

Never, I still think of myself as a shy teenager.

[_Maya_]

Young at heart. Good for you.

[Green96]

Why?

[Constatine]

everything around me was crumbling down. My parents devorced, half year later my fiancée died... Had to do everything on my own and could not count on no one but my self. I did not consider myself as a man... Life did

[Lionman95]

when I realised that I alone carry the responsibility for my life. That was when I had an argument with friends and later with my parents about the future and realised that I have a different perspective and different goals than they do.

[syncheart]

Physically you become a man after puberty. Mentally you become a man when you can handle responsibilities that comes with being a man.

[_Maya_]

Yep agree.

[syncheart]

You could say the same thing about becoming a woman.

[_Maya_]

Of course!

[Grond21]

I do only in some ways. Unfortunately, the way we best become men is either through overcoming some extreme challenge or being recognized as a man by another man.

Most of us don't have the opportunity for either.

[NathanDavis]

probably... around age 22/23... which is when I moved out and started to be and go on my own

bigger responsibilities, I guess

[aceleon]

since i had to live in the streets for whole winter when i was 6, from that point i never considered myself as a child.

[AydenHazor]

I don't think there is a defining moment where I suddenly considered myself a man. Honestly, I don't think about manhood vs boyhood much at all. The whole concept of "becoming" a man or woman has an icky feel to it

[Bricealan]

When I found myself making decisions in my life that I felt were responsible, forward looking, and socially relevant, for a better life.

[Anonymous]

What's your bachelor's? And what masters are you getting?

[_Maya_]

Undergrad was psychology and studying criminology for my masters. Goal is to get into forensic psychology.

[Opinion Owner]

Nice I had a friend that worked in criminal psychology.

He taught me a lot about criminals. Like He told me a lot of criminals try to pretend to be mentally because they want to go to the hospital instead if jail.

He taught me how they detect when they are pretending. Like they would ask them if they are hearing voices, they would say "yes", he asked if they are seeing things they would say "yes" they would say yes to every symptom. And they would scream and yell trying to exaggerate their symptoms.

But he could see through it because most people it's normal for a person with schizophrenia to hear voices and they don't freak out and yell because they are hearing voices.

[_Maya_]

I'm assuming he likes the field?

[Opinion Owner]

He left it to become a regular therapist.

[SimpleGreen]

Today! I said on this site that I didn't like women with cocks! A "man" was outraged by my statement! lol

I don't aspire to be rich or famous, but is it too much to ask that I find a nice pretty lady that doesn't have a cock?

[Naruse]

I didn't. I feel like a child pretending to be an adult.