When did you consider yourself a man?

Question

A lot of people just say when we get our period we are now a woman. What was it that made you say I am not a boy anymore, I'm now a man?

davnerLeL · Accepted Answer

i think, men are made men when they are either broken, or treated in a highly specific way.

both these ways aren't easy though, and also not always the case.
let me know if you relate to these by the way.
in general. a boy becomes a man because of one girl that breaks his heart. and this doesn't happen because she is super ruthless. but because he gives his complete trust, his love. all of which are extremely fragile at first. the more he loves her, the more fragile it gets. even after it breaks, he still gives it to her. the pieced back heart. until its completey shattered.

at that point. she still has the heart. but his mind, his body. changes. his heart returns, but its an empty shell, no spark. no love.

by this time he either gives everything in his life up and stays the same or gets worse.

or he grows the f up. realises girls aren't like how theyve seen in those movies, especially not in these times. realises theyve been doing absolutely nothing with their lives and just giving it all away cause of a girl. they hit the gym, start making more money, buy the things that they want. get the life that they want. but dont easily fall back into love. and in his mind, if someone truly loves him, they will try to get him. and no matter what happens, that someone won't go to another guy cause this didn't work.

on the other side though, a man with a lot of responsibility, a boy with a long term goal from a young age, a boy where his father was actively present in a positive and supporting but PRESSURING way and not just a negative and anxious. his mother was support and loving unconditionally. both of them wise and teaching him every single thing they knew.

he is also a man. no matter what the age.

but a woman can break him too. which circles back to my first definition
i wouldn't blame a woman all the time though. but in general this is the case. they can make a strong man by either beaking them or making them. they have no idea the power they have.

ChiTown33 · Accepted Answer

Probably when my father died. I mean there's many rites of passage as male grows from a boy to a man. But after my father died I was the only male in my family and I felt it incumbent upon me to look out for my mother and sisters. I still feel that way. I know my father wouldn't ask it of me but as a man it is my job and I know he'd be disappointed of I didn't.

HaleyCatgirl · Accepted Answer

Whenever I draw a mustache on myself and buy a dildo and start doing the helicopter the most manliest thing ever oh well holding a beer and a 12 gauge shotgun

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

My ex told me I turned him into a man and that loving me encouraged him to be a strong man who’d take a responsibility.

Bloodfeast · Answer

When I realized the truth of women.

My entire life I wanted to believe that women were sexually attracted to righteous men.

Good men who fight and protect. Who provide and ensure everyone else's life with more than they could by themselves.

Then I realized the truth that women are not attracted to righteous men.

I became a man when I realized that the majority of women are not worth dating. That women are equally as attracted to evil horrific men, disgusting violent beasts.

That for a woman, it is all about power.

That is when I truly became a righteous man and a "real man." I see the devil in the hearts of women and their sick dark desires for sick dark disgusting things.

Most men spend their lives wondering "how do I become attractive to women?"

Once you realize the answer to that is that you satisfy women's dark cravings, you can finally let women go. Stop trying to be attractive to ALL women and only be attractive to those few rare women who deserve you.

Very few women deserve to be with a true righteous man.

But all men are angry that women are not truly attracted to the righteous man.

To become a man is to realize who you really are, and to go down that path and not worry about all the women with dark cravings for dark evil men.

To disregard them and walk a different path.

Wallythewalrus · Answer

According to my mother, it won't be until I'm thirty. According to my wife, I'll never be a man. According to my doctor, it's when I had my first wet dream. According to me, it's when I was in third grade and would sniff the girls hair that sat in front of me. Her name was Julie and I would have died for her! Her hair always smelled like strawberries.

Nifrayu · Answer

I never did. After I lost my virginity my girlfriend at the time asked me if I felt like a man now. I said "no. I don't feel any different."

I have no idea what it's even supposed to feel like. On the other hand I sometimes still feel like a kid. Usually that is just when I play with my kids.

mobiusforniner · Answer

When my kid had to go to the hospital, I fell to my knees and cried about losing what I worked so hard to care for and build. Knowing I can’t control the outcome of everything and I do need help. When I told other women “no”, when they wanted me to cheat on my wife, knowing that integrity is more important than honesty. When faced with immense pressure or the high likelihood of death but doing it anyway, knowing that courage is being scared but continuing forward; that there’s a bigger purpose to life than just “me”

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

When I found the maturity to take my employment seriously, and become an actual "boyfriend" that supported and was interested in the happiness of my partner.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Sort of? I am still very young and have a lot more to learn through experience, but I do still carry myself in a way a man should in a lot of ways. Anything else I am missing will come with time while learning from mistakes and overcoming obstacles.

HouseMoat · Answer

In the jewish religion, you become a man when you're bar/bat mitzvahed, so, I officially became a "man", at 13, which is when you're bar/bat mitzvahed. But, I believe I became a man, when I turned 26. It's when scientists believe that the body and mind have fully matured. That after 26, you slowly start to deteriorate, VERY slowly.

Mansearching · Answer

Tbh... when I became a caregiver for my parents.

stratford · Answer

Never, I still think of myself as a shy teenager.

Constatine · Answer

everything around me was crumbling down. My parents devorced, half year later my fiancée died... Had to do everything on my own and could not count on no one but my self. I did not consider myself as a man... Life did

Lionman95 · Answer

when I realised that I alone carry the responsibility for my life. That was when I had an argument with friends and later with my parents about the future and realised that I have a different perspective and different goals than they do.

syncheart · Answer

Physically you become a man after puberty. Mentally you become a man when you can handle responsibilities that comes with being a man.

Grond21 · Answer

I do only in some ways. Unfortunately, the way we best become men is either through overcoming some extreme challenge or being recognized as a man by another man.

Most of us don't have the opportunity for either.

NathanDavis · Answer

probably... around age 22/23... which is when I moved out and started to be and go on my own bigger responsibilities, I guess

aceleon · Answer

since i had to live in the streets for whole winter when i was 6, from that point i never considered myself as a child.

Anonymous · Answer

What's your bachelor's? And what masters are you getting?

AydenHazor · Answer

I don't think there is a defining moment where I suddenly considered myself a man. Honestly, I don't think about manhood vs boyhood much at all. The whole concept of "becoming" a man or woman has an icky feel to it

Bricealan · Answer

When I found myself making decisions in my life that I felt were responsible, forward looking, and socially relevant, for a better life.

SimpleGreen · Answer

Today! I said on this site that I didn't like women with cocks! A "man" was outraged by my statement! lol

I don't aspire to be rich or famous, but is it too much to ask that I find a nice pretty lady that doesn't have a cock?

BobbieBoy666 · Answer

I feel more womanly than I do manly. though. 💞

Naruse · Answer

I didn't. I feel like a child pretending to be an adult.

Iron_Man · Answer

When I could beat up an adult as a teenager when I had the skills I knew I could win if I ever got into a fistfight I was very advanced

OfMiceandMen · Answer

When I left my parents nest and I knew I was out on my own.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

When i was 19, started to work and took care of my parents than took care of my family all by myself and provided their needs and was there for everyone...

Still-alive · Answer

I let others decide this for me. i can say i feel like a more mature person than i used to be now. as to whether that constitutes being a 'man' or not, eh i dunno. I'm just me.

Mike87479 · Answer

Not trying to be gross or sexual but I would masturbate when I was younger. I did it many times and it felt good butt I never came. Then one day I finally did. I remembered feeling like I was now a man because I had the ability to get a woman pregnant.

exitseven · Answer

I graduated from high school and was working full time. I guess it was probably then

jamesgoldman · Answer

I guess 16, I had a job, a girlfriend, bought my TAG Heuer and started buying my own jewellery rather than just the money making stuff

worldscolide · Answer

When I was 16, emancipated from my parents, had a job, and my first apertment. And a no contact order with my mother.

tfan1 · Answer

When I saw my son come out of my wife’s vagina 👍🙂

fastandsubaru · Answer

around 10 or 12 when I got hair on my testicles

andreasderjuengere · Answer

That must have been sometime between 15 and 60. It was a slowmotion transition that took a while.

FellowTraveler · Answer

The moment I joined and completed Military Boot Camp.

Unit1 · Answer

When i turned 18 years old. Textbook definition of a man.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

As my father would say, it is when you can stand up to your parents for your own beliefs and stick to yours guns on a situation.

zagor · Answer

It happens gradually. But that process is definitely complete when the kid who is the cashier at McDonald's calls you "sir".

findacure4wokeness · Answer

When my first son was born and I had to step up and look after my new family.

Starrrboy · Answer

When my little nephews called me dad after spending the day with me lol...

nawtee_me · Answer

Wher he drops his nuts and can get a girl pregnant for the most part even though most of them are still boys….

Sparkie460 · Answer

I considered myself a man when I moved out on my own at 19. I had responsibilities.

Hanrej · Answer

When you know enough and are capable enough to function without aid from others.

DextroShade · Answer

When you realize no one is coming to save you.

Taenevachill · Answer

Well dis kinda goes for both genders, you can feel like a man/woman all you want. But realistically!! Its how people view you. Or at less thats what i do. And girls these day be having periods at the age of 9 and their definitely not a women. I think it deal with how fully developed you are, and how wise and mature you are. Age play a important role too. After a man pass 25-30, you automatically look like one. For as women tho, 22-29 anything pass that, ohh shawty you uh cougar🤣🤣…

HaveNoName · Answer

When I recieved my first Pay Cheque of my first professional job after graduating.

Anonymous · Answer

When I stopped thinking women were special, that I was obligated to sacrifice my freedom and safety for women who are strangers to me, and that I should always put their desires and needs first.

When I did that, in my own eyes I became a man instead of a slave, and women became equal In every way, to be treated no better or worse than anyone else.

legalboxers · Answer

the day I started an internship in HS for the district attorney

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I had an immaturity problem so I felt like a grown man around mid 20's.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I was a man the moment I was born. I peed everywhere

Anonymous · Answer

Two things come to mind First time i had sex which was when i was 21 And then more recently when I'm starting to feel like i have enough money to retire

zikky · Answer

When I begun to work and earn a living for myself

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I considered myself a boy and still do

DaBiggestBird · Answer

I have ascended beyond both of those and am Da Biggest Bird.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Still waiting for it.

Anonymous · Answer

When I got kicked in the balls, ahh what a day, to be keeling over in a fetal position. Let’s see what you have to say about that @_maya_

Andres77 · Answer

I was well into my 20’s.

123jc · Answer

When I went to prison the first time actually when I got out the first time.! If Andrew you expecting

Pterodon · Answer

When I joined the Navy at 18

The-Stud · Answer

People started asking money

SolitarySolace · Answer

When I realized actual female nature

Charliefretz329 · Answer

When I graduated boot camp

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