This guy had a crush on me (his friend told me) and tried to make eye contact from afar on several occasions. A week ago however he tried to avoid looking at me and seemed uncomfortable because of me looking at him. What has happened?
Guys, Why does he feel watch me when he thinks I don’t notice but feels uncomfortable when I watch him from afar?
What Guys Said
Honestly, you are 25 to 29... adults don't give a shit about crushes or playing games. At 47 I crush on any attractive woman that walks by, so it means jack shit to crush on someone.
So, you are making eye contact, and he is acting weird... I mean yeah one would think he should not be, but honestly who the fuck knows, until someone decides to be the adult and actually talks to the other person.
Sure, you can pull the man card bullshit and say that he should be the one... but what's stopping you honestly?
I mean I hear it all the time. YES, he should be a man and approach you. I agree... but he's not. And honestly who can blame him, I have had so many women in my life give me attention, or at least I thought they were. Well, wrong. she's making eye contact from afar, maybe I am imagining that. Days go by and it happens a few times, so you go and talk to her. And nope, she's not interested.
You end up asking yourself WTF, how could I have gotten that so wrong? But then on the other hand, in 2023 if she was interested then WTF is stopping her from talking to me?
The feminists won. If you are a woman and you are interested in a guy, then be a man about it and man up.
I don’t Want to bother him. If he tries to avoid my gaze now he doesn’t seem to be interested anymore
Only one way to really know, you are making assumptions. One think you must learn about dating is this.. never make assumptions. Never assume the worse, but you can't assume the best either... unless you make the time and commit to a process. Which, very simple means talk to him. Start a conversation with him.
Do not assume he is disinterested, but at the same time do not assume he is ready to date either.
It sounds like you might intimidate him.
How?
Maybe he finds you really attractive.