Why does he not look at me during the lecture but at the end gives me one glance when he thinks I don’t notice?

[Anonymous]

He used to have a crush on me but I think he doesn’t anymore since he hardly looks at me.

[DaveJord]

So if you saw a guy that you thought was attractive... would you sit there and stare at him through the lecture and hope it's not weird. Or would sneak a peak here and there, as to express and interest but not make it creepy?

Now when I do it, I will look when she is not looking... wait for her look at me and then I smile and look away. Maybe once or twice... then try to catch up to her on the way out.

But I am a confident and bold 47-year-old man. So, I don't really give a shit if knows I was looking... but younger men are more hesitant and understandably so.

[Asker]

I think he doesn’t like me anymore since he used to glance frequently at me and now only once at most. Also he tries to sit near to his new group partner every time (who happens to be more his type physically since she is skinny and blonde) and acts kind of nervous

[DaveJord]

Ahhhh... your better off then.

[Asker]

so you think im not reading too much into his behaviour and that he really likes this other girl now?

[DaveJord]

Yeah, see that's the bullshit... you can run yourself in circles trying to figure out the why. But the truth is that it doesn't matter. You're better off knowing what you do know at this early juncture. You do not have to make any assumptions about the guy, other than it didn't feel right and are passing the putting yourself through the mind fucking.

I still believe when the right one comes a long it will not be anything like what you discuss here. It will be a non-factor because you have lived through it before, and now you know what wrong looks and feel like. So put your trust in that.

[Asker]

What if I’m just imagining things with every guy I meet?

[DaveJord]

I ask myself that all the time of myself with woman. But what I have learned from women in this, they will not settle for less than they feel they deserve from a man. That is fact... well any woman I would want to be with would agree with this. But if they deserve better, they will give better.

I was married for 24 years, I thought I had shit figured and in the two years since divorce I have went on well over 20 date with 20 different woman and sex with 7 of them... and I am still single and hopelessly confused as shit.

So, is it me, maybe... a large part of has to be right? But if you really are looking of something special you will know when you find it. This one or all the other ones just was not the one. and that could be for any number of reasons.

I have been done so dirty by woman, I don't even know if that one is out there... but if she is it will not be because I did not put forth the time and effort to find her. And when I do, you will know she is special, because I a might very well be an asshole. But a 47 I have dated a lot of women, and they tell their stories of things men have done to them... and honestly if those stories are true, then I can't be that big of asshole.

But question you ask, is the eternal question, that drives most of us nuts and we never really figure out the why, until we meet that someone special and it all doesn't really matter anymore.

[Anonymous]

It's possible that his feelings have changed, or he may be trying to be discreet about his lingering interest. People's emotions and attractions can evolve, so it's challenging to pinpoint the exact reason without more context. If you're curious, consider talking to him to gain clarity on the situation.

[spartan55]

It means he looked at you.