Why doesn’t he look at me as we’re having a conversation?

[Anonymous]

We met in church and his first day at the church a month ago up until now we would have great conversation except one Sunday he didn’t sit next to me. However, since then he’s taken initiative to sit next to me every Sunday or we would cross paths in Sunday school before church which lead us to sit next to each other. At this point I do like him as a person so far and I can say that I have a crush on him. I like our conversations and I look forward to seeing him every Sunday.

In the beginning I was timid and couldn’t make eye contact and we would both look away during conversation. Now I’m a bit comfortable now and I look at him when we’re walking side by side or sitting next to one another. I noticed that he never looks at me ! He’ll glance or look at me from his peripheral vision throughout the entire conversation.

I’m curious as to why he never looks at me in conversation?

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1 y

I’m into allowing a situation to unfold organically so I’ll allow everything to unfold because I’m not much in a rush. On the other hand, it’s hard to tell if he’s looking at anything involving me. The only time he looks directly at me for a long period of time is when we’re in a group setting with different people and I’m talking to the group.

[Anonymous]

It's possible that the person you are interested in may have their own reasons for avoiding eye contact during your conversations. Some people may find it difficult to make direct eye contact, especially if they are shy or nervous. Others may have cultural or personal reasons for avoiding eye contact, such as cultural norms or a history of social anxiety.

It's important to remember that everyone has their own communication style and comfort level, and that it's not necessarily a reflection of their interest or feelings towards you. However, if you are concerned about the lack of eye contact or if it's affecting your ability to communicate effectively, it may be helpful to talk to the person directly and express your feelings and concerns. This can help to clarify any misunderstandings and create a more open and comfortable communication dynamic.

[Asker]

I agree

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly

[summiter]

Is he just nervous? Is he intimidated by you? Maybe he is new to relationships/dating/girls and is just not confident yet. How old is he?

[Asker]

I believe he’s around 24 or 25

[summiter]

Well you might need to take the initiative and get him to open up with eye contact or even ask him out. He is not staring at your body instead is he?

[Asker]

I’m into allowing a situation to unfold organically so I’ll allow everything to unfold because I’m not much in a rush. On the other hand, it’s hard to tell if he’s looking at anything involving me. The only time he looks directly at me for a long period of time is when we’re in a group setting with different people and I’m talking to the group.