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Is it up to him to message me after that and ask me to hang out, or should I message him? I smile and ask him questions about himself that shows him I pay attention to what he says, or what he's posted online, whenever we're around each other in person.
Not really. If you are making an effort to be around and he isn't known for being a shy guy and he is not making time to concentrate with you more he's not into you or doesn't think you are a possibility. If he is shy and shown some interest you are going to have to be the aggressor. Once he is confident enough that he has the green light things will change.
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790 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. You liked or followed him, so it on you if you want to talk more with him to message him.
I get likes on dating sites all the time... I like them back and message and they ghost or never response. I don't even waste my time anymore.
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Well is good to asses the situation from afar first and see where it leads to.
565 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. It's not "up to" men to do anything. Time's have changed. For various and valid reasons.
Sending a friend request is a vague signal, but too vague. It needs more. Follow up. Guys need clear communication. It's too risky for them nowadays to assume anything. They might get accused of 'stalking', etc etc. Although that's not a big deal online, they've been trained into submission. So help them out, and take the next step. Besides, all this pussyfooting around wastes a lot of time. Isn't it more fun to get on with it? If it doesn't work out, you move on. "Oh, well, no biggie."
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when a girl hits me with a friend request, i always try to hit them up and most of the time they say something like “just because i sent you a friend request, it doesn’t mean that i want to hookup with you” when all i said was yooo let’s kick it… so yeah we never know what it means forsure, you should definitely send him a message
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Just add him as friends and see if he DMs your first
He just might not be that into you. But he also might be “playing it cool” and letting you pursue him.
It isn’t all about a power trip. At some point men figure out that women aren’t dumping when they are chasing. But he will eventually reach out if he’s interested. Just let him know the door is open
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That's literally putting in 1% and hoping they go 99%. I don't understand why girls are so afraid to make their intentions clear. Something as simple as "Hi. I added you because I think you're cute and I'd love to chat." Like even if the guy isn't interested or taken, a girl will most likely get more attention and be able to find another guy much more easily than he can find a girl. Just go for it and don't be afraid to be a little aggressive.
What I'm about to say is probably not going to help you. Rather I want to express my frustration with social media, and the odd ideas people have about it. Related to your question: When I first started on social media, I thought that one should first make a friend and then add them to the friends list. Then I learned about social networking. The idea is that through friends of friends of friends you meet people and get things done. I tried both approaches and got nowhere with people. I even got criticized by people for adding people to my friends list. It is really frustrating to know how to be online. All I wanted to do is get a girlfriend. Before you say anything back, yes I have tried dating sites too. But I'm just saying that social media has been a huge let down for me. Even just for making friends, it has been a huge let down.
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Maybe, but if the guy gets a friend request from many random people, there is a good chance your request won't be special/gets lost in the follower count.
713 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. It can be but don't count on it. I have plenty of experience in this regard and just learnt to test if she's actually interested by randomly not initiating a conversation anymore to give her the oppertunity to do so. If she messages on her own I know she is genuinely interested to either be my friend or more than that. While if she doesn't take the oppertunity I know she is merely going along.
Everyone wants something new to do everyone is online looking for it but outside IRL we rarely connect in unique ways. The creativity in relationships is waning... So many rules and not enough values that guide us.. So be creative with the conversation outside of social media.
- 546 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
Assuming you don't mind making the first moves:
Soon after he accepts your friend request, let him know casually that you appreciate the fact that he accepted your friend request.
If he continues the conversation, that's "impetus" enough to suggest a date.
- 944 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
That's the equivalent of matching on a dating site. It's zero effort. It gets zero effort in return. Sorry, but if you can't say hello and a few more lines, I'm spending that time with someone who did. There's limited time in the day, after all.
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Why not just be direct? Tell him and see what happens. If it doesn't work out you haven't lost anything and you can move on. I say go for it. If he likes you he certainly won't mind. Good Luck
- 333 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
No. I am not a very talkative person I don't post anything on social media so friend requests are worthless I talk when I want to and I don't when I don't want to. Must guys will talk if they want and if they feel that they were not welcomed we pick that up real quick and stop
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but... what if he received another twelve or twenty friend requests as well
then, you would be just one more in the bulk... make a difference, don't leave it to chance, lol -
Usually face-to-face is better, but it does let him know that you are interested in talking with him
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Sending a friend request can be a positive step, but it's also okay to take initiative and message him. Engaging in conversation, asking questions, and expressing interest can encourage him to talk more. Don't hesitate to take the lead in suggesting activities or hanging out – it's about finding a balance in communication and showing mutual interest.
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A friend request is nice but it wouldn't potentially be enough for me to message them first. Leave some smart comments on his posts. Or DM if you're interested and tired of waiting.
All a friend request tells me is that you looked at my profile and don't find me offensive. -
SOUNDS LIKE YOU'RE ON THE RITE TRACK... BIT DON'T FORGET THAT ON THE WHOLE... GUYS ARE STUPID...(DON'T TELL ANYONE LOLOL)... NO BUT THEY (WE) ARE.. ESPECIALLY AT THE YOUNGER AGES..(I'M 45 NOW)... AND THE DATING HAVE IS CHANGING SO FAST, SO MUCH, WE OFTENTIMES DON'T KNOW WHAT THE GIRL REALLY WANTS.. SO IF SHE CAN HELP US (EVEN A SMALL AMOUNT, US 21ST CENTURY MANLY MEN ARE MUCH OBLIGED...
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Absolutely not. You can be, in your mind, so extra flirty, and it will STILL go over a man’s head, let alone only sending him a friend request. I’ve sent old high school friends and bosses friend requests, it’s hardly a steamy move lol
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At least sending a friend request shows you have some interest for the person, and whether this is enough for him to answer may depend on many factors, but nothing prevents you from starting the conversation. What is there to loose?
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