My boyfriend ex was putting him down, but he stayed?

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

He says she was abusive and aggressive, she was hitting him

She was humiliating him and putting him down, he felt like shit

He said he always did what she wanted and he did it all and was never enough for her

Now with me he wants to be better person, he says he wants to progress

That he never felt like this before, that he has more connectiin with me and that i make him feel better

Why he stayed with her for so long then? when they were fighting and he even went to live in anothe house she came back looking for him and he took her back again

After all the damage she did to him

[Curmudgeon]

"Now with me he wants to be better person, he says he wants to progress

That he never felt like this before, that he has more connection with me and that i make him feel better"

And you should take his praises for you and leave it at that. Don't read too much into it.

"Why he stayed with her for so long then? when they were fighting and he even went to live in another house she came back looking for him and he took her back again
After all the damage she did to him"

1. Did he know you then? And more importantly, did he know you *were interested* in him then?
2. Some men were raised to try to salvage a relationship, even when they should not, a. k. a., be a martyr. Hopefully you can disabuse him of that notion.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

No he didn't know me
And i t was him who stsrted flirting with me first, while actually living withvher
But i knew he was living with that woman so i rejected him and never payed attention

He is very hot temepered, goes from 0 to 100
I hardly can see him trying to solve it with her
Its like if she was hot and cold with him all the time and he liked it
I dont get it

[Curmudgeon]

@ItsMykolaJenkins Well, take heart that you are making his life better, and hopefully he does the same to yours. Yes, he has "baggage". But with your help, he is unpacking it.

[Andres77]

if he's broken then being with her and being beaten is better than being alone. not a happy place to be. i'm glad i got out.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Some guys get really attached to the girl they're with. It's hard for a lot of people to move on.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

But she was horrible to him

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

How can you get attached to a person who hurts you

[ThrillSeeker01]

Sometimes it is physical attraction

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

He said he slept on the couch and sometimes didn't have sex for months

[ThrillSeeker01]

Eeesh...

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Whats

[Anonymous]

Why didn't he slap her back?

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Who does that? he is a man