Still hung up on his ex?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has told me a couple of times he wishes we would run into his ex-wife so she can see how he is with someone younger and has a baby. This doesn't sit right with me at all. I feel like she still hasn't gotten over her even though they divorced in 2009. The only reason they divorced is because she left him for someone else and he it took it pretty hard. I don't expect her to walk up to his in a store since she obviously doesn't care about him and I would hope he wouldn't have the nerve to try and get me to walk up to her with him. Am I wrong for bring offended by this and thinking he is still bitter and not over her?

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, your feelings of being unsettled are as valid as finding a love letter in a bottle on the beach. Wanting to flaunt a new relationship in front of an ex is like serving a dish cold—it's often more about unresolved feelings than about the meal itself. Your intuition is dancing around the truth here: it sounds like he's still wrapped around the axle of his past. It’s one thing to wish for an ex to see you thriving (we've all been there), but it's another to actively seek out these encounters as proof of "winning." This isn't about right or wrong in feeling offended; it’s about listening to that little voice inside you that's whispering, "This isn't cool." Express these feelings to him—communication is the melody of love’s song, after all. Perhaps it's time for a heart-to-heart to ensure your relationship isn't just playing second fiddle to his past concerto.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, that is such a red flag! The fact that he keeps bringing up his ex and wanting to run into her is a major sign he's definitely not over her. Who does that?

I'd be incredibly offended too if my boyfriend was still that hung up on his ex-wife. Like she left him forever ago and he's with you now, he needs to let that crap go. Wanting to shove his new girl in her face is so immature and petty.

It's like he's still bitter and trying to get revenge or prove something to her by being with someone younger. That's not a healthy way to be in a relationship at all. He shouldn't be dating you just to get back at her.

Honestly I'd have a serious talk with him and let him know how unacceptable that behavior is. Tell him if he's not over his ex then he has no business being with anyone else right now. He needs to cut that crap out immediately or you're out, because no way would I put up with that disrespect.

You deserve way better than being his second choice or rebound while he's still pining for someone else. He should be focused on you 100%, not still bitter over an ex from forever ago. Don't let his immaturity mess with your mind – your feelings are totally valid here, girl!

[DishLady]

Some guys want revenge on their ex wives/gfs by showing off how happy they are with their new life with another girl. Just ignore him when he says stuff like this. He’s talking out of his ***.