My boyfriend is still hung up on his Ex. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has been out of his last relationship for over a year. We met Feb of this year and now are in a committed relationship but there is a struggle on his end because he is still dealing with getting 100% over his ex of 6 years. He says that it’s not a problem, no chance of them getting back together. He says he just needs to get her completely out of his system and that only takes time cuz they were together for so long. I don’t know how to feel about this. I almost want to brake up with him to give him that space and time he needs to fully get over her but he doesn’t want that. I also don’t but kinda feels unfair to me. Don’t know if I’m over reacting because he is open and honest about his feelings. Am I just being crazy?

[Anonymous]

I know it’s a hard decision and different for everyone. Some people would say to stick beside him and help him get through this time, and if you ultimately decide to do that then you wouldn’t be wrong. But personally I would end things and if somewhere down the road your paths cross, he’s in a healthier place and you’re both still interested then try again. I’m just really big on bringing your best self to the table when entering a new relationship, because as you said, it’s not fair for a new person to deal with any fallout related to an ex. With his head being where it’s at, he can’t fully focus on you because he’s stuck on her, and the last thing you want is to just be a placeholder, rebound or distraction for him. I just don’t think he’s ready for love despite how urgently he wants to move on.

[Danny_dan92]

Dumb him now or forever hold your misery

[Akam93]

Move on.