What does it mean: a guy I casually hook up calls me drunk says he thinks 'you're so sweet and that if I didn't have kids we would be a couple now?

[Solstraale]

[Surely]

Since he was drunk. He was probably lonely and horny. I would say that he either doesn’t want to share you with your children or doesn’t want you to be associated with another man account of your children.

[Guido]

It means he has feelings for you that he won't act on because of his kids but as he is drunk, he let it slip. Now you know what he is really thinking and where you stand.

[Solstraale]

Im the one with kids. I just talkt around it and didn't mention it again cause I don't want to rush into a relationship - do you think he wanted to talk about it or just tell me I'm sweet but it'll never happen for real?

[Guido]

Sorry I misread your question regarding g the kids. Since it is you with the kids, it sounds like he is not in a place in his life where he wants to have kids or be a step dad. He wants you but not the rest of the package you come with. It's sad that he said that but those are likely his true feelings. When drunk, honest answers come out. Please do not let your kids get attached to him as he is not invested in them.

I am a step Dad to one a my wife is a step Mom to two. I know first hand how important it is to put the kids first and it's a huge commitment.

[Solstraale]

He hasn't met them and is not going to cause I see it as a casual thing. Their dad is very present and I don't want a new man in their life. Just wanted to understand why he would mention it. If he wanted to have a conversation on my thoughts about where we stand. I never said anything about wanting a relationship or that I wanted him to meet my kids, cause I don't want him to

[Guido]

You are doing the right things for your kids and yourself. I commend you for that. It's extra hard to find that perfect relationship when you have kids.

[spartan55]

It means he is talking out his ass. He also told you what he really thought of you. Did you catch it? Why are you in an friends with benefits?

[Solstraale]

I did not can you help me translate?

[Solstraale]

Also I'm not in a place where I have room for a boyfriend but I miss physical touch and closeness?

[spartan55]

He doesn't respect you because you are a single mom.

[Solstraale]

Really? Who do you get that? Couldn't he just not be interestet in being a step parent?

[spartan55]

That's part of it.

[Solstraale]

Where did you get the lack of respect from?

[spartan55]

He is essentially saying your kids are in the way of being in a relationship with him. He doesn't respect that they are part of the deal or he never would have said that. I'm trying to figure out why he would say it at all.

[Solstraale]

I see. I never said I wanted him in my life in that way. I have talked about my kids but I do that to everyone case Im proud of them and they are a big part of my life. I don't want him to meet them and never hinted it. He once asked me to hand her the phone while we were talking but I refused. You think he wants to tell me he's not interested?

[spartan55]

What does you not wanting him in your kid's lives have to do with this?

[Solstraale]

That I don't get why he'd mention it when I've never hinted that I wanted him around my children?

[KrakenAttackin]

@Solstraale. Why aren't you with the father of your children?

[Anonymous]

Drunk talks mean sober thoughts. However, I believe that was debunked. He sounded like he wanted to get pussy. And but there is a bit of truth to what he is saying. However, never take confessions of a drunk person as serious or meaningful. Most likely he isn’t serious

[bowenw]

He must have some feelings for you to say you are sweet. I suspect he could see it being more, but doesn't want the responsibility of kids.

[nawtee_me]

He thinks you don’t want to have anything todo with someone else’s kids or doesn’t want his kids to be around you.

[Solstraale]

They are my kids

[nawtee_me]

Okay I miss understood and in that case I would get rid of him since he clearly doesn’t want to have kids or at least not raise someone else’s kids. That makes him a jerk in my opinion.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It means he's sweet talking the shit out of you to keep fucking

[loveslongnails]

He's drunk, it doesn't mean anything except he wants to get laid.

[KrakenAttackin]

It means you have made a lot of bad choices.

[JamesRandiDebates]

It means he has the right mindset about not getting involved with single mother's.

[Slim57]

Means he'd hookup with a single mom but nothing more

[Jmmmfi4]

HE'S DRUNK I WOULDN'T WORRY ABOUT IT

[Finchie40]

It means he only wants you , not your kids

[Tim2nice]

Tell him to fuck off. Kids come first.

[Alex-Snow]

He was drunk and just wanted sex

[Staximus]

I means your hoeing got to his heart

[QuietRunner]

he wants to be your exclusive lover