Is it a little crazy for a guy to do this?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to this guy for a month and we’ve been having sex. All of the sudden he starts trying to call me 10 or more times after I told him I didn’t want to talk on the phone. Then he starts saying how he’s going to pull up to my house and he's on the way. I told him not to and he kept saying it will only be 5 minutes and he has something really important to get off his chest.

He literally said his heart is racing and he's just excited to tell me and how I’ll like what he has to say? I told my friend about this and she thinks he wants to tell me he loves me? But like that’s a little overboard no?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, that does sound kinda intense for only talking a month. A few red flags I see:

-Blowing up your phone after you said no calls is not cool. Dude needs to respect your boundaries.

-Saying he's coming over even when you said not to is pushy and kinda scary. Like what if you're not dressed or just don't wanna see him?

-Claiming he has something important but won't say over the phone is sketchy manipulation to make you agree to meet.

If he really loved you, he'd wait til you're ready instead of pressuring you. The whole thing feels way too fast. I'd be curious what he has to say, but not if it means letting him cross lines you set.

Maybe have a serious talk and say you need space if he keeps this up. His behavior is coming on waaaay too strong, sis. Please be careful - trust your gut over his words if it doesn't feel right. Let me know if you need any support!

[Jjwright]

Sounds to me as he has some serious dependant affectif issue. Girl run from that 🤣

[BarryLiverstone]

Not logical. That’s him acting on past trauma