Guys, have you ever projected your own insecurities onto someone?

[Anonymous]

[DaveJord]

I think couples so this to each other all the time.

She feels this way about this, which makes me feel this way about that, which makes her feel even more strongly about this, which in turns makes me feel even more strongly about that.

At some point who is really projecting on who?

I mean I do not feel I am projecting, but she is doing these things that make feel not good, which in turn makes me feel insecure, about her, about myself, or about the situation all together. Or it could have nothing to do with my insecure and all about how she is just making me feel. Or me just not liking how she treats me or speaks to me... I mean is not likening something, a sign of insecurity or just knowing what you want and what you are not getting.

At what point am I projecting or just feeling something? I mean I can tell her that I am feeling something, and since she is a woman, she wants to know what I am feeling. But I cannot really talk about how I feel, unless she understands how the way she is acting is making me feel the way I feel... is that projecting?

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For example, we see a dead cat.

I say that is too bad, oh well. Life goes on.

She says, it's terrible and I am profoundly sad about it.

I say okay, I understand... but let's go nothing we can do here.

Now she gets upset because I don't care about that cat.

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In this scenario who is projecting?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nah I don't really have much insecurity, I'd say most of my insecurity comes from my past and it comes from how people will see it, I don't think there's really a way to reflect that lol

[ColHathi]

I dunno. I'm not even sure I know what you mean, but I try not to avoid doing stuff like that as much as possible.

[Anonymous]

I probably have, but I'm not entirely sure.

[elaphe]

I don't believe so.

[Anonymous]

All the time.