What do u guys think about a man who claimed to love me lots n promised me to marry me only but he just used me and left me in a condition like hell?

[Anonymous]

I was innocent or i can say wasn't clever enough. I'm still not mature enough as compared to my age. He used to claim that he loves me a lot and he used to promise that no matter what, he is going to marry me only. And so he wanted to have sex by promising of marrying. I agreed just for his happiness i swear. But after having it, he just made me feel so lonely and useless, not giving time to me and not talking to me like he used to do prior to this. And he just left me without any rsn , without even giving me any reasons, he just left away. I am feeling so used since then. I haven't even recovered from the situation till now. I get into tears the whole night thinking about what was that. Did he just used me and threw. I am not going to fall in love ever again or trust anyone in future. I am badly trapped in such a darkness of self doubts, guilts and doubting my self worth.

[ZiaCowel2000]

Forget the dude. I’ve always been cynical so I’d never be in your shoes. The only thing you can do is feel what your feeling, then try to maintain yourself and move on. If I was you I’d feel more frustration with myself then the guy. I’d feel disgusted and angry that he wasted my time. Word of advice even the people who love you, you shouldn’t hold all your trust in. Be it small or big it hurts more if you have high expectations of them.


( I’ve never loved anyone except my family. And the only reason I love them is because of the time I’ve spent with them, and the emotional stability they’d give me.) He seems like trash if he just ups and leaves. Words mean nothing without actions.

[Asker]

Yes we shouldn't trust anybody that much 🥲

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Men will claim anything to get to your vagina. You’ve got to be patient and not believe everything you say, listen to actions not the words.

[robhazelnut]

You say that he promised to marry only you, then promptly left after getting sex from you and now you feel used and are in darkness of srlf doubt, guilts and doubting your self-worth, and that you will never fall in love nor trust anyone in the future.

You have my deepest sympathy, even if no one has your trust. To start, there are many mysteries here. To start, my first thought is to say that his integrity of prediction, capacity and perhaps even desire to do no harm to others is poor. I wait for more answers about your question to surface to choose what seems best to reply here.

[Asker]

Thanks❤️

[robhazelnut]

You're welcome:)

I acknowledge writing "To start,---" twice in a row. That was foolish of me. Further thoughts have surfaced- whatever that man's thought process or emotional process, he failed to bond, by choice and/or by ability. If by choice, then he was lying to you and using you. One who is unwilling to bond is, for that time period, aldo unable to. If it were only by ability, then it could be some bizzare external situation that had him weigh his priorities. I don't know if I will have further thoughts about your situation. Thank you for asking our opinions.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

He wanted sex and knew you wanted a relationship. He played the game.

It is no different than women who want a relationship or financial support and withhold sex to get it. The winner is whoever is better at the game.

[Anonymous]

He either changed his mind for some reason, or he is just full of crap.

[Anonymous]

Apparently you're a slut that he pumped and dumped.

[Asker]

Shame on you