Asked a guy I'm seeing if it would bug him if I slept with someone else. He said yes but it's not like my world would fall apart. Does he care then?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

If he really likes you , then yes , it would totally bug him and probably turn him off and make him less interested in you , if you slept with someone else while talking to him. Most straight masculine guys’ are territorial over a girl that he really likes. Most guys’ do not want a girl that can’t stay loyal to him , he might still have sex with her , but he won’t commit to her , because he feels she can’t be trusted. Most guys’ will not commit to a girl that has been around the block a bunch of times because he feels she can’t be trusted , if it doesn’t bother him? , then it means he has been around the block a bunch of times as well , or he is just a simp that gets turned on by her screwing other guys’. Me personally will not give my heart to a girl that I have a hard time trusting , she might get my dick but she won’t get my heart

smne35 · Accepted Answer

Are you in a real relationship with him or not, if you not and both of you have this understanding then you can sleep with as many as you desire, but it seems he's not thinking as you are and he's more into a serious one, you need to define just what it is you are wanting can't have it both ways, your either in a serious relationship with this dude, committed no cheating or he's just some dude your talking to who comes by and bang you now and then, you need to be clear with him where you are in this so he don't get to thinking your his girl, and only one your seeing, if you not ready to be in a committed you need to be clear with him so he understands what's what between you

Katkit38 · Accepted Answer

I would say that he's just being honest. My question to you is why would you want to or even ask this question if you're with a guy?

Are you trying to play some kind of weird game to test his feelings for you? Of so then you're playing a very dangerous game and quite frankly need to grow up.

Guido · Answer

It's a bit of a weird answer but also a rude question to someone your seeing. When in a relationship you only sleep with that person, not anyone else otherwise end the relationship.

He did say it would bug him. Any guy would be bothered by that. No, his world won't end if you do but now he is not likely to invest in a long term relationship with you and will be on the lookout for his next girlfriend. You will do until he finds her.

Commitment and trust in a relationship is key to making it work long term and you just told him you are not committed.

aceleon · Answer

the thing here, if you sleep with another guy most guys will immediately see you as a whore and this concept alone will eradicate any feelings towards you or any girl so the my world wouldn't fall apart means this, the math is simple, as long as you are ours you are important and valueable, if you sleep with another guy you are entirely worthless and disgusting, there is no need for getting too hurt about you, sluts are not worth tears.
was it clear enough?

veganrogue · Answer

He may care. It's difficult to tell. He may be playing it off as 'no big deal', but it maybe. Out of curiosity is it just that you are dating and want to see what's out there, or is he not giving you all you need in the bedroom so you need to look elsewhere?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

He may have cared up to the point where you asked that question. Sounds like you want to have sex with someone else and, for me, I would say, "If that's what you want to do, follow your heart. I'm sorry we didn't work out. Good luck." And that would be the end of the relationship.

Why did you ask him this question? Is there someone else you want for sex, or were you testing him?

Whitewulf · Answer

Damn are you trying to gauge how much he cares by planting that seed. If that was his only response no he doesn’t care enough. How long have you been seeing the guy? For me, if we were sort of together and she asked this I’d get pissed. First I’d be like why tf are you thinking about fkn other men. If I’m not enough then by all means go for it just lose my number when you do. I hate games.

Hanrej · Answer

Yes, otherwise it wouldn't bother him. He's simply letting you know he would be alright and that his wellbeing isn't depending on you being faithful.

For the record, I'm perfectly fine with me girl sleeping with others. Doesn't mean in any ways I don't care about her.

syncheart · Answer

Since I don't know anything about this guys background, I don't have any idea if what I'm about to say is correct or not.

I think He knows that it will bug him. But I don't think He knows just bad it will bug him. Somethings you just don't know until you actually go through it.

Xepshunall · Answer

Yes. He cares enough about you to stay with you if you are faithful and enough about himself to leave you if you're not. If you thought he was worth having, so will a better woman.

sawno · Answer

He cares, but still wants to give you the choice.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Your shit test just made him write you off completely for any LTR.

DextroShade · Answer

Maybe he did, but now you have caused him to put you in the recreational use only category so he will never really care about you or take you seriously. Next time don't be a dumb hoe if you want a guy to avtyally care about you.

loveslongnails · Answer

Strange question to ask someone you're seeing if you didn't already know the answer? Just curious, would it bug you if HE slept with someone else? Would you respond the same?

Staximus · Answer

By asking this question you basically told him that he's not that important to you and is not worth a serious relationship, and you got an answer that says the same.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

No, and sleeping with another guy while in a relationship is a slut move.

Anonymous · Answer

He could be open minded to the idea of you sleeping with another guy, is the other guy real or is this situation hypothetical?

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Probably. But sleeping around isn’t good for anyone. Commit to one person

OddBeMe · Answer

That is a weird statement as that’s usually the dealbreaker with relationships. Makes me think he’s doing it.

Crankor · Answer

Just means he can move on if that's what you choose.

heavymetalbrotha · Answer

sound like it would suck but odds are that's the que to dump and move on.

AmeerX · Answer

Of course he cares and why would any guy let his girl sleep around?

nawtee_me · Answer

Caring has nothing to do with it. It means that he would move on without you if you did.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Your asking him that question just killed the relationship.

Jerre · Answer

He cares a lot about you, just wants you to be happy

FenixG45 · Answer

He's trying NOT to look needy or reliant on you, but trust me it will break his heart if you do!

dolemite58 · Answer

why are u asking shit test questions in the first place?

spartan55 · Answer

Well aren't you quite the Jezebel...😂

Twalli · Answer

He cares otherwise it wouldn't bug him.

Truckfan01 · Answer

Why do you want to fuck someone else?

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

NO---

msc545 · Answer

Nope.

Rc2020 · Answer

Nope

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