In the past I went through a situation where the guy I was dating, asked for my friend's phone number while I was in the bathroom. She told me as soon as he asked her, like she went into the bathroom and told me. The current boyfriend I have knows about all this and the hurt that I went through because of it. I asked him if he would do that, like in asking my friend (s) for their number if I was in the kitchen or something and he said, no he wouldn't do that. I asked him why, and he said because she could easily tell go and tell me about it since she told me about the first guy. He also told me that he wouldn't do that because he's "a good guy." I felt like he could've said an answer Iike "I wouldn't do that because Im with you and I love you" or something like that, but he didn't. I told him I felt like he could've responded a different way and he said that it doesn't matter what he said because he wouldn't cheat on me. Should I be weary of his responses to me? Does it seem valid to you that he wouldn't cheat? What do you think about him saying he wouldn't ask for my friend's number because she could tell me about it?
Hit on my friend?
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I don't if this makes a difference, but he was high and drinking when we talked
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Listen to what you're saying. You're going to let a bad experience with a past guy ruin a relationship with a current guy. You're bothered by the fact that he didn't answer just the way you wanted him to.
Now let me be CRYSTAL CLEAR about something. I'm not minimizing the pain you went through by ANY MEANS at all. But you're not the only person who's ever been hurt. I say this because if you had asked me the same question I'd have responded in much the same way he did. I wouldn't have wanted to show weakness by saying "I wouldn't because I love you and wouldn't want to hurt you". I wouldn't be with you if I didn't have feelings for you. Love or on the way to love. But you don't to decide when I say that or the manner in which I say that. But make no mistake about it. When I do say it there's no doubt about it.
And I'm not saying that this is what that guy feels. I don't him and can't know his feelings. I'm just saying. Understand men get hurt to and this works both ways.
Some guys just have poor choices in words. I don't know how many times I got in trouble for giving what I thought was an innocent and correct answer, only to find out I screwed up.
Try not to. read too. much into it.
I'm trying. I don't know what to think. He often mis speaks and he wasn't drinking when we talked
Yeah that answers wouldn’t sit right with me either. You should have said no because I have you.
I mean he should had said*
And the drinking doesn’t matter