Why would a person that dislikes you act super nice to you in front of his friends but ignore you otherwise?

[Anonymous]

Super nice as in smiling really wide and trying to get your attention

[Anonymous]

I doubt he dislikes you, he just doesn’t consider you his friend. When you’re in a group setting he is amicable and pleasant, which I think would be awkward for everyone otherwise. It’s fake, and I don't know about you but I don’t deal with that personally. I can say hello to him with the group and keep it pushing.

[Asker]

Yeah but he acts overly friendly and kind of stares in group settings as if we were besties which is a bit over the top

[Asker]

And also when I try to make small talk with him alone (I only try when it’s necessary for instance when we have to walk a bit alone) he is dry but perfectly able to make conversation with other students

[Asker]

As if he labelled me as not friendship material from the very beginning even though he is open for everyone else

[Opinion Owner]

To me that is so fake! I had a guy acting like that with me within my friend group and I had no idea why. But all I can figure is that maybe your personalities don’t mesh well how he does with everyone else. It’s like having that one person in the group that gets along great with everyone else except for you and it can feel a bit isolating and like you’re left out. I don't know if you think like this too but if you do then I’d say not to make his presence such a big deal. Not when you have several other friends around, there’s no reason to hyper-focus on the one person who isn’t engaging. Just not worth it.

[Asker]

Do you think it has to do with looks or that he would act different if he found me attractive?

[Opinion Owner]

Hey, don’t ever let a man make you insecure and that’s the best advice I can give, hold your head up and be confident no matter what. I won’t lie, I wondered about that in my situation since I felt like my friends were prettier and I must’ve been too unattractive to him, whether it was in looks, body, I don't know. What I realized is who cares what he thinks? Unless he’s a knockout himself and even then it shouldn’t matter. It’s about being a decent person and treating you how he treats everyone else in the group. If he doesn’t care to engage with you, then it’s fine. That’s one person, who’s attention you don’t even need.

[Asker]

Yeah but do you think that is the reason? 😂

[Asker]

I know that he sometimes follows me around to check out my ass but otherwise acts very uninterested even though he is a very open minded and curious person by nature and gets along with other women that are not more attractive than me

[Anonymous]

Are you sure that person dislikes you?

[Asker]

No but I feel like he gossips about me and he only acts nice to me around his friends but when we are alone he is very cold and sometimes slightly rude

[Asker]

He is not shy at all