How do you handle "I would have asked u you out for a coffee, but we already spent the day together... but If you want to, we would go"?

[Anonymous]

We broke up 2 months ago.

I visited him on Friday at work. I spent there almost the entire day.

He drove me home and said those words. Then kissed me goodbye, but I told him "if you reach out for me, we will meet, chat and talk... but if you don't, we won't"

He said "fine" and I haven't heard anything since then.

Do you think he is playing me?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Nope. You are. You said if you don't reach out we won't hang out. Now you're not hanging out. Now you're asking why. That's the type of game that gets a guy to walk away from you. If you want to hang out, YOU can reach out, too, otherwise don't sit on the sidelines and try to do deep analysis on something that's as complicated as a lightswitch.

[Asker]

The problem is... he said many times that I'm the younger one, I should be calling... when I came to visit him, he said "now... you should find an imaginable task so you can come around the office". I feel like he is basically toying with me

[BoopBoopBeep]

No there's no problem. Same as last time you asked it. He's giving you really clear directions on how things are going to play out. You're going to call or we're not hanging out. The imaginary task has nothing to do with it. Come by my office. Sure. It'll be fun. I'm still not going to call you. Either you call or we don't hang out. It's so simple an autistic child could understand. All the other responses here are in line with what I'm saying (though shorter). Keep asking the same question you get the same answer what part of this is hard for you?

Can't imagine why he's not in a rush to get back together...

[Asker]

The point is why should I be the one calling?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Because you obviously want to hang out with him. Let's say it's me. I don't personally care if we hang out or not. If you call me I'll go grab a coffee with me but it doesn't change anything for me if you do. I'll go have coffee with the lady that i buy bread from just as easily, and she's closer to the coffee shop. Don't call me. Okay. We won't hang out. But I don't care if that happens or not.

[Elena_Stewart]

You told him already and he didn't reach out, so thats it