Why does my boyfriend want to go down-on me as repayment?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about six months. He's my first relationship and I really love him. Only recently we started getting more physical, beyond making out and cuddling etc. Because he knows I want to go slowly.

Anyway, TMI I guess, but I gave him a BJ two weeks ago, for the first time. He seemed to enjoy it and afterward wanted to return the favour. I didn't want to, and he accepted that but seemed a little disappointed. The next day he seemed overly affectionate and gave me a small gift. Twice more over the past two weeks since then, he's tried to initiate going down on me, and when I say no, he doesn't force me or anything, but he does seem confused and a bit hurt and wants to know why, even though I told him when I gave him the bj that I wasn't expecting a return and I did it cause I wanted to.

Why is he acting like this?

[Anonymous]

i like giving pleasure. there's nothing quite as awesome as the way she goes nuts and pushes my face into her vagina harder while she's coming. If it's been months and she still hasn't given me sex, at least let me go down on you. He's a better man than I am because I would probably have lost interest by now.

[BarryLiverstone]

You were allowed to give him oral and he isn’t allowed to give it to you. That’s unfair.


Why did you give him the bj?

[Asker]

I gave it to him because I wanted to and I felt brave in the moment even though I'd never done anything like it before. Why do you think it's unfair?

[BarryLiverstone]

Because you escalated sexually to oral sex but you are refusing to let him also escalate to the same level.

Think about it. He could have said no once you started to do it. Wouldn’t that have affected your confidence and you would have worried why he is rejecting you? That’s how he felt.

So did you tell him why you did it but he can’t?

[Asker]

I'm self-conscious and a little scared. It'd be my first sexual experience with another person. I'm nervous that if I wasn't shaved he'd be turned off, or that I'd smell or taste weird, or wouldn't be able to orgasm. And I'm not great about communicating about sex because I'm quite bashful. So I don't know how to talk about it.

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh ya, I remember feeling the same way back when I was starting out. Some of those things I remember feeling. Feel free to follow me and I can help you communicate about it. Everyone feels scared and it’s new so you will not be perfect but can try

[BarryLiverstone]

Ty for MHO

[Asker]

Thanks for the understanding reply

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome. Let me know if you need help talking to him

[FunkyMonkee]

Why don't you want it? I'm sure it'll feel REALLY good and, if he wants to, just like you wanted to, why stop him?

[Asker]

I'm self-conscious I guess. He's my first sexual experience whatsoever. I'm worried if I'm not shaved or waxed he'll be turned off, or that I'll taste or smell weird, or that I'd take too long to orgasm.

[FunkyMonkee]

Ask him if he prefers bald or bush. I'm PRETTY SURE he won't mind either, even if you don't ask.
If you're afraid of some stink, which I doubt will be there, unless you haven't washed in a week or so, get a shower before he comes to dine at your little pink taco stand. When I was still with my ex-fiance, I'd munch on her carpet after she'd spent an entire day without a shower and there was no smell or bad taste at all. I've even been down there during her red dollar days and there was no smell.
As for orgasming, just relax and concentrate on what's going on at the moment and enjoy the tongue bath! He's gonna be there just trying to make YOU happy so, just let it happen. Don't worry. You'll be fine. The more you worry about it, the less likely you'll enjoy it enough TO cum. Pretend you're in your room by yourself and there's a sex toy with you that can lick your pussy for you and all you have to do it lie there and let it! Just so you know, they actually have them! so, the toy won't care if you cum or not so, just let yourself go. Go with it! Go to it! Go for it! Go nuts! Go absolutely WILD!! And, above all, have a great time!! As they used to say in the Alka-Seltzer commercial, "Try it! You'll like it!!"
https://youtu.be/9qdfMYFl0Ic?si=cHtbjLXgr-zFc_5U
And, afterwards, chances are, he'll be saying.
https://youtu.be/EZKg-GYsvtg?si=l2VeTLkavHP-8xQL
Make sure you pee before hand so that, just in case you feel a squirt coming on, you'll know it won't be pee.

[Asker]

I would ask him, but the thing is I've had really bad experiences shaving, and waxing, so generally I'm more comfortable going bush, so I don't know what I'd do if he wanted it differently

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, play it this way: keep the bush and, if he doesn't like it, maybe he's not the right guy for you. I prefer shaved but none of my girlfriend's ever shaved and I never asked any of them to. And, even if I did ask and they said, "no", that's fine with me. I certainly wouldn't make them do it. Anyway, I'm perfectly fine with it any way she wants to keep it. I just think they're so much cuter bald.

[FunkyMonkee]

You could also see if you can find skin-toned crotchless panties so it LOOKS (somewhat) like you're bald without being bald and he still gets the joy of (almost) having bald.

[Texaskid1]

Be like that woman.