I've had guy friends NEVER mention their girlfriends. Like EVER! And I am not talking about guys who are private. For example, a friend of mine went to vegas with his girlfriend. When he got back and we asked how it went, he literally talked about about everything, except his girlfriend. 5 day trip and not one mention of her. Why do guys do this?
It's because you asked about his TRIP, not his GIRLFRIEND. I'm sure he'd be happy to tell you about her if you asked, but that's not what you asked.
Men (most men, anyway), think and operate and communicate LITERALLY, withOUT subtext. And because we don't define ourselves by our relationships the way women do, we tend not to talk about our relationships unless specifically asked or unless there's some specific issue going on.
This generally has NOTHING to do with the relationship in question, or how the guy feels about YOU (or anyone else he's talking to), it's simply how male brains work. For millennia, we've had to do dangerous tasks where our lives and health depended on extremely focused and direct communications ("Freeze! You're about to step on a snake!" or "Take Cover!") and literal responses. We HAVE feelings, but we shut them off much of the time because we can't afford to be distracted by them, and we kind of only allow ourselves to feel when we know it's safe to do so - another aspect of how differently our brains work. If you are hunting a dangerous animal, or going into war, or diving on an oil rig to weld a broken pipe during a storm, you don't have the luxury of feeling your feelings, or you'll die. In order to survive, much of our time, we're focused on literal communications and responses.
In my real life, I almost never talk to anyone about my relationship other than my girlfriend herself. Why? Well, generally, I'm a private person, but also, I have no interest in gossip, and rarely have a problem I can't handle on my own, so I have little need to talk to anyone about it. I *do* have some female friends who occasionally ASK, and I talk a little then, but even then, I often just let her talk for herself, as she's usually there.
As I said, men don't center their lives around their various relationships in the way that women do. My relationship is very important to me, but I don't need to talk about it with other people for it to matter. I talk to HER, and let HER know, directly, how important she is, and how much I appreciate her. Frankly, I don't care all that much about anyone else's opinion anyway. And I think that's a part of it - women DO care VERY MUCH about other people's opinions of their relationships, often to an unhealthy degree - though I don't think this example qualifies as that. But men don't feel the need to please the whole world, or even just their whole friend group - they just need to be happy themselves and make their girl happy. That's enough for us.
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So they don't ruin any chance they have with you... duh.
Some guys are always thinking about cheating.
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Because what happened between them is private for a lot of guys. We don't talk about private things between us with others. Just general stuff.
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