Why my ldr boyfriend keep on lying to me. why he can't just say goodbye to me if im not enough?

[piang]

iloved him so much but why he
can't let go of me and be honest with me. keep on lying to me he still go to this bigo live staying in a girls live sleeping while im at work.

[StarWarGirl]

He isn't letting you go because you are staying. And he is keep lying because you are accepting his lies still being there. Simple.

Nobody can force you to stay if you don't want to. They can emotionally blackmail but there comes how you are confident on your own decisions or how weak you are.

And about his lying, you can't change anyone neither you can control someone's behaviour, if he really cares about you he could have stopped it when first time you pointed out. But he didn't. Means clearly he doesn't care about you being there or you leave him. If he had fear of loosing you he couldn't risk it doing what you don't like. He clearly doesn't care and has no respect for you.

He isn't holding you, he is simply telling you to stop be with him etc, but YOU YOURSELF is staying yourself there keeping yourself in this situation.

Dear, how far pain you need to give to yourself to understand this simple thing? Remove the blurness of your "deep attachment" and love yourself. You are definitely more worthy than being treated like this.

[piang]

This made me cry.
You said it 100% right. im staying and i let him disrespect me. because ilove him. i dnt knw why i can't let go.

[StarWarGirl]

Moving on is tough but staying there is life long ongoing pain. Don't cry. Sometimes we need to take some tough decision some temporary pain but after that our life gets better. Stay strong. You need to move own. Trust yourself you are stronger. Take your stand and protect yourself. You are definitely very much worthy you don't deserve to be treated like shit by any such cheap man.

[piang]

its really
painfull. i gave him a lot of chances.
i hold onto our relationship because i want to prove my love for him. he said he cared but why
he treated me like shit. he said he want me but why he can't do
efforts
to talk ang open up.
when i say im gone he'll say hell die. or kill himself.

[StarWarGirl]

Dear I can understand your pain, and what you are going through now how are you feeling. But sometimes we have to accept the bitter truth. Sometimes we have to love ourselves, care for ourselves protect ourselves because in this world there could be none who could do this for us forever but only us.

People say many things. But everything isn't true. How they act that's what makes the reality not that what they speak. It's ok whatever happened is happened. It's better late than never. At least now you can see through the things.

Protect yourself at least now. Love yourself. Don't treat yourself like your own enemy. Trust yourself.

No matter he says what to blackmail you like he would kill himself or whatever. But it's his choice what's your fault to take all this pain and sufferings? What have you done wrong? You have always did right always wanted to do right. It's completely his choice he wants to stay alive or die.

But... you are first responsible for yourself than anyone else try to understand this.

[HelpfulWoman]

you can also say "bye"

[californianjoe]

I think you're worrying for nothing

[piang]

why is that

[Zestyassmf1997]

What?

[piang]

he always said he's different he dont interact to girls but why he stay on onlive live

[riverrat3]

Say bye to him